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How to gracefully quit at this point :/ - June 23rd 2015, 04:10 PM

I've had a bit of a mess of a week.

On Thursday morning I was supposed to start my first day of training at work. It's not a serious job, just would have been summer employment at a dollar store. But the night before my pet rat (who I love, LOVED very much, he was a daily part of my life) took a turn for the worse and was basically dying. I was up late with my mum trying to keep him comfortable and at one point I thought he was going to die in my arms. When I went to bed he was still struggling but I had to sleep. During the night I started stress-puking and in the morning he was still holding on, but I did NOT feel like going to work and leaving him alone. I ended up calling in sick on my first day of training and the manager didn't sound impressed, but I got him to reschedule me to the next day. I took my rat to the vet, where he was on oxygen all day, but in the end it was best to put him down.

I went to training the day after on Friday and it was fine. My second day of training was Saturday, and I found out that I got scheduled to work yesterday without my manager consulting me (he said he would before making the new schedules). My sister was graduating college yesterday and I really wanted to be there with her, and I was hoping to go home for a few days to relax and be at home after the ordeal of putting my rat down. The girl in charge at the time of my second shift said she would write a note saying I wouldn't be in yesterday and would get my manager to call me to reschedule.

At this point I was so done though and overwhelmed that I just wanted to go home and stay there. Yesterday morning I called and told my manager I just experienced a death (which wasn't a lie) and I would not be going for my last couple days of training. I was just gonna end it there and be done with it all, but he asked if I would be coming back in and I said I don't know, because I wasn't in town. So he said to let me know when I can.

So now I don't know what to do. I'm just done at this point and I want to not think about working because I'm so overwhelmed and anxious. I know it'll just be a simple call I have to make and say I won't be coming back, but I don't know how to do that in a positive way. And it makes me feel also really stupid and lazy for not wanting to get a job but I just don't want to deal with it right now, and I'd have to quit anyways in a couple months because of school. I also feel guilty because I soooorta lied, because he probably thinks I had a family member die. But it feels the exact same way to me.

What should I say when I call my manager? :/
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Re: How to gracefully quit at this point :/ - June 23rd 2015, 04:24 PM

The thing is, you said someone close to you died which is true. You never stated that a human being died so technically you haven't lied if he ever found out the truth. You have done nothing wrong. If you left your job, they will be fine because there are many people looking for jobs and because you didn't receive much of your training, they haven't spent a lot of time training you up just for you to quit.

In the end, you have to do what makes you happy. I did the same with my old job except I was there for 5 weeks and I literally just emailed saying I wasn't going back which was really bad. Ringing will be fine, just say you will not be working anymore as there has been a lot going on lately and you will be returning to school. Just keep being honest and it will all be fine

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Re: How to gracefully quit at this point :/ - June 23rd 2015, 06:02 PM

Don't let the death of a family member be the end of the road for you. I know it's a very hard loss, trust me, I know. I lost my aunt when I was 17 years old (I'm 21 going to 22 this August) & I bawled my eyes out and at that time in my life I was doing bad things, like, I was on probation and taking drug tests and stuff. I bailed out that entire month on my probation because my aunt died. I ended up opening up as to why I didn't wanna go, but by the time I confessed, it was a little too late for me, so I had to get incarcerated for the time being.

What you're doing is normal, but don't take it over the edge by not going back to work or doing anything for a while because of that. That shouldn't hinder you down.

Think of it like this: If your Mom or Dad were in your position, and you were dying, would you want them to feel profoundly morose throughout time? Or, would you like them to grieve all that they can, but continue to move on and become a stronger person?
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