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Doing nothing but adding stress to my life - September 18th 2016, 08:09 AM

Hey guys, me again. I'm 16 and the end of June, beginning of July i got a job at this small store. Since I was hired I've always struggled to learn everything, I'm still severely confused on everything, I am constantly messing up and my bosses have raised their voice at me a few times because of it. Every time somebody comes in and I have to ring them up I get severe anxiety and feel sick to my stomach, it's horrible.

They are VERY short staffed, basically me and this girl are the only people and the girl can only work some saturdays so basically the rest of the days it's me working with whatever owner can work that day. Most days after school I have to rush out of school because as soon as the bell rings I'm supposed to be there 5 minutes later, everyday I have to work I just want to cry. The girl and I who work there have gotten in a bit of trouble, last time we didn't do a good job cleaning up apparently when it was just us working. We forgot to throw stuff away, we forgot to do a ton of stuff when closing. We worked together again today and now all night I've been sick to my stomach because I drove by and the lights are still on, so apparently we left them on so we're definitely in trouble, if I had a key I would have went and turned them off. Now I'm been worrying all night that we could have forgotten to turn a heat machine off or something and that it'll start on fire, I can't even sleep from worrying. I get scared like this every time i work.

I feel so stupid, I can't ever just work without screwing something up. It just honestly makes me feel like such crap, I feel like a horrible employee, if I can't even handle this job how will I ever handle any job? The owners talk a lot of crap about me behind my back, that I know. And I'm basically their only employee most days. I am just so stressed. Honestly I don't know how much longer I can do it. The owner keeps making comments "joking around" saying how I better not quit. I'm trapped, i can't even quit if I wanted to because if I did they would probably have to literally close the shop, I feel like all of this weight is on my shoulders, it's struggling to balance that and high school and I just can't, everyday I work I can just cry. I feel such anxiety every single day I have to work, even on my days off I'm worried about when i have to work next. What should i do?
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Re: Doing nothing but adding stress to my life - September 18th 2016, 08:52 AM

Hey there, I'm sorry this is so hard for you It's up to you, but if you don't need the job and it's causing this much stress then, it might be worth quitting and/or trying to find something else. Maybe consider professional help for your anxiety and try again in a few months to a year.

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Re: Doing nothing but adding stress to my life - September 20th 2016, 02:02 PM

I agree with Kate, if you don't need the job then I'd quit. If you do need a job, I'd find another me that will be more accommodating and reasonable. For example, one that won't require you to be there 5 minutes after school is done because they recognize that you're a child who has to go to school and school is important (which seems like a no brainer), and that you shouldn't be penalized for being unable to leave early and stuff.

Quit. You can give your 2 weeks. End of story. No negotiation, no nothing. Find a new job if needed.

Also getting help for your anxiety would be big. Trust me, it helps.

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Re: Doing nothing but adding stress to my life - October 2nd 2016, 10:32 PM

Hi there.

Give yourself some credit. You are 16 and working. That's a big responsibility! What I read from your post is that you care and want to do a good job. That speaks volumes. It also sounds like your boss is not very supportive, which can have a huge impact on how successful you feel with the job. I worked in retail for 2.5 years and it was very stressful. People can be very mean.

Just because this job didn't work for you, doesn't mean the next one will be the same way. If you have to quit, think of what other opportunities you could have. YOU are not the one in control of the shop. It is the owners' responsibility to train and retain their employees.

Good luck!
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