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How to say no. - November 8th 2019, 08:33 PM

So I go in every single time my employer needs someone to go in, even if I don't want to. How do I say no? I mean, I can say no, but I feel bad not going in, especially if I'm able to, but going in so frequently on my days off?


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Re: How to say no. - November 8th 2019, 09:07 PM

I think you have to ask yourself why you'd feel bad if you said no. Is it that you're worried about getting into trouble and putting your job at jeopardy and risk being fired? Maybe this is something you can speak to your boss about. I'm sure they'd understand your concerns, but would also reassure you that you are not at risk of losing your job if you didn't go in when you were supposed to have time off.

As a matter of fact, I get in trouble for working when I'm not supposed to. So you're lucky!


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Re: How to say no. - November 8th 2019, 09:18 PM

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I think you have to ask yourself why you'd feel bad if you said no. Is it that you're worried about getting into trouble and putting your job at jeopardy and risk being fired? Maybe this is something you can speak to your boss about. I'm sure they'd understand your concerns, but would also reassure you that you are not at risk of losing your job if you didn't go in when you were supposed to have time off.

As a matter of fact, I get in trouble for working when I'm not supposed to. So you're lucky!
You may be right actually, Jenna. I have a really bad reputation with previous jobs because I never went in when I was supposed to work :/ Bad Court, yes, I know I've also been let down by previous jobs. For instance when I worked at that dollar store, my first month they told me I was doing fantastic, and the next they tell me that my performance was poor. So I have a lot of trust issues. I think it's because I feel that if I don't go in, they will think less of me and everything will go downhill.


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Re: How to say no. - November 10th 2019, 01:48 AM

Hi there!

I'm the same! I feel bad for saying no when my manager asks if I can swap shifts or for me to come in. But then I realise that at the end of the day, they can't fire me for saying no once in a while when I need a break. You have to put yourself first and if you don't feel like going on, then that's OK. I would suggest talking to your manager as well about it.


   
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Re: How to say no. - November 10th 2019, 11:26 PM

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You may be right actually, Jenna. I have a really bad reputation with previous jobs because I never went in when I was supposed to work :/ Bad Court, yes, I know I've also been let down by previous jobs. For instance when I worked at that dollar store, my first month they told me I was doing fantastic, and the next they tell me that my performance was poor. So I have a lot of trust issues. I think it's because I feel that if I don't go in, they will think less of me and everything will go downhill.
Being treated poorly by previous employers can definitely cause you to have trust issues, and in turn it makes you worry about asking for time off.

I would seriously talk to them about it, and it seems like you are committed to your job these days; so they will see how you've performed over the past five months and give you the time off you've accumulated in that period or a part of it.


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