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Unhappy scared of my future - please help! - November 9th 2010, 12:22 AM


I wasn't sure if this should be in the careers forum or the ambitions forum, but sometimes i guess what's the difference?


Basically, I'm 16, and i have a REALLY strong passion for music. I write songs, i'm currently making a selfpublished and recorded album, i play guitar and piano and all sorts. Music is without a doubt my entire life and the only thing i have a real passion and drive for.

I'm in 6th form college doing my first year of my a levels and i'm getting to the stage in my life where i'm having to make decisions that will effectively mark out where my life will go. (i.e a levels, university choices etc).

I want to be a professional musician. There's no doubt about it. I want to be famous, i want my music in the charts. I want music as my entire career. But, every single night i get hit by an incredibly strong sinking feeling. It is SO hard to make it in the music industry, its got basically nothing to do with talent. Its about knowing the right people, being in the right place at the right time, and having a sh*t load of luck!

Such a tiny proportion of the people that want to make it actually do. So you can basically assume that the odds are that you wont.

And that terrifies me.

I am nothing without music. I cannot do anything else with my life. I cant stand the thought of realising in 20 years time that those prime years have gone, and that i never got to do what i wanted to do. I wont be happy unless i'm doing music, but there's NO way of making sure that i can.

And i know that i will spend the rest of my life unhappy if i'm having to do something else.

What do i do? I spend every night crying, wishing that there was a way i could guarantee my place in the music business.

I just don't know what to do. I'm stuck at a low point and i cant get out of it.

Please help!
Sorry this was so long!

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Re: scared of my future - please help! - November 9th 2010, 01:09 AM

Keep your spirits up...I can understand your dilemma.
Pick something as a backup just in case you don't make it big.
At least you'll have something to hold you up.
And as for your music...keep writing and do what you're best at!
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Re: scared of my future - please help! - November 9th 2010, 09:31 PM

One thing that has sort of stuck with me is this article where it described one Chinese's woman's agreement with her parents. She did whatever she wanted for 1 year after she had her bachelor's and if she couldn't make a living, she would go back to grad school. She had wanted to do something with writing and unfortunately, for that year she couldn't make it so she went back for law school. She is glad that she had that year and she is also glad that she did in fact go back to law school.

Maybe after you are done with your education, try for one year and if you can't get what you want, go back to school. What about music-related activities? Owning a music shop (will be harder though with the release of digital music), a bar, something related to the production of music, music therapy (probably not related to the music you play though), or the like?
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