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Lost - What to do now? - October 26th 2011, 07:36 AM

I guess this belongs here. I'm mostly venting here and I think it'll help to get this out in writing. But I'd also like some advice and ideas too.

So I finished college (or uni, if you prefer) about 2 months ago. Now, this is a HUGE load off my back because I pretty much hated everything about it. I hated everything from the people, classes, teachers, and more. Those 4 years was a miserable experience for me, but I somehow managed to sludge through it.

I double majored in Criminal Justice and Sociology. I didn't really pick these because I liked them, but moreso because they were the subjects I could tolerate the best at the time. After a few semesters in these programs, I realized just how much Bullshit it all was. I quickly grew sick of BSing essays, doing stupid readings, tests...Everything about my college experience felt incredibly phony and unfulfilling. So I just passed just for the sake of passing. Honestly, I could barely tell you what the main idea behind these subjects really is. But I'm getting my degree mailed in December...Hooray.

But now, with that done....I have no idea what to do. I spent so much energy just wading through that hell that I never thought about what would happen once I did finish. I have no job at the moment and I'm pretty much just a leech in the house. I don't have any real passions either. Most of my free time is spent either reading, on the internet, or playing video games. I have absolutely no idea what direction to go into, and pressure is rising in the house because my folks want me to start working already. And I haven't even touched upon my problems with social interaction, which is part of the reason I left my old waiter job.

I'm lost in a fog right now and have no idea where to go. But it sucks, because I don't have the strength nor the confidence to really go anywhere either. College didn't prepare me for shit. If anything, I was a stronger person when I first started than I was when I finished.

So that's it pretty much it...Any thoughts would be appreciated.
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Re: Lost - What to do now? - October 26th 2011, 07:18 PM

Hey there,

Congratulations are in order for graduating college! Well done, man! I can't tell you how much that will come in handy in the future (even if it isn't a degree in something that interests you).

So let's talk for a second. You say you are not passionate about anything but if I sat down with you and asked you a few questions, I'd see your eyes sparkle and we'd find the things that excite you together. I am a certified adolescent life coach and I can definitely help you find your passion and purpose via skype if you'd like.

If not, I still want to help you through this forum so let's focus on someone you admire or respect. Who is it? Describe this person. Write down his or her characteristics. What is it about him or her that impresses you?

You don't have to share these answers with me, but you are welcome to do so. Once you've done this exercise, write me back and we'll go from there. I promise that together, we can get you out of this rut.

You can also email me at: Maggie@start-living-your-life.com


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Re: Lost - What to do now? - October 27th 2011, 06:53 AM

I don't know how much it appeals to you but a law enforcement officer (i.e. police officer, prison guard, etc...) is related to criminal justice and you wouldn't have to apply any of the theoretical aspects. I'm not sure how troublesome your social interaction skills are but they may be good enough because not all law enforcement agents are out-going lively people. By word-of-mouth I've heard they often obtain a degree in criminal justice although it's not applied much at all, so you could put that degree to use. Other jobs such as fire-fighting, paramedics/EMT (although that takes additional training you may not have) and so forth may be of interest.

If that doesn't help you, think back to your childhood. All kids dream of having certain jobs no matter how crazy or improbable. What were yours? If you watch TV, movies or see others, is there any particular field that jumps out and grabs your attention?

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Re: Lost - What to do now? - October 27th 2011, 11:48 PM

@Missmaggie55: Thanks for the offer. When I get around to it, I'll answer your questions through a PM. I feel it may be appropriate to do that there than to keep bumping this thread.

@The Man: It's funny you should mention that, because most people I know say they could easily picture me as a police officer, or a detective. It never was a bad idea, but I also don't really picture myself doing it very well. I'm not a very people-friendly person, but I'm also not very assertive or aggressive, which are qualities they would probably be looking for. But this could just be my self-esteem issues coming up too, which I need to manage to pass...Even so, it's VERY tough to get a police job where I live right now. Pretty much no one is hiring, and it's very competitive.

Also, I'm not sure how I feel about the militaristic type setting that is set up in this field. I don't like to follow orders blindly. For example: Do I really want to screw over some kid's life because I caught him smoking a joint?

To answer your second half: Believe it or not, I never had any "career fantasies" as a kid, but I did have interests here and there. I liked science and history alot. Science fell by the wayside later in life though, but I still have a soft spot for history. I also went through a little computer/electronics phase when I was about 10-13. But then this fell away too because I knew I would need math to further study this stuff, and I could barely pass Geometry and Algebra 1 at the time. I liked it, but I wasn't passionate enough to pursue it.

That's about all I have to say...Got me thinking though, so thanks.
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