Moving to australia, need advice on how to cope :(

[jess25235]

My step dad has just got offered a job in australia and its my parents dream to live there. But i could possibly only have 3 months left.. I have a boyfriend and loads of friends and family and dont know how to cope, if anyone can help me or just give me advice, id be so thankful xx

[Musical]

Honestly, I wasn't sure what to vote. Do you have a choice in moving or not? Sometimes you don't have a choice, and it sucks, but it just depends. If you really want to stay, maybe you could stay with a close relative? You should talk to your parent(s) about this and what you want. I know you've got tons of friends, but moving can provide a fresh start, new friends, new places, and other things. On the contrary, moving can be quite stressful, but if you do move, you don't have to lose contact with your friends/family. You can talk to them over the phone, (although it may be costly), you can connect on social networking sites, and of course, you can visit on occasion. Again, you should think about the circumstances and options available to you, and talk to your parent(s).

[losing touch.]

doesn't sound like you have much of a choice to be honest..

but it sounds absolutely amazing!. honestly, you'll love it once you get there.. get settled in, make new friends. i've moved around countries a lot because of my dads job and sure it takes a bit of getting used to.. but it's such an amazing experience and you'll have the time of your life. it's difficult leaving your life behind and feeling like you're starting over.. but try and find the positives here! where are you moving from?.

[jess25235]

thanks..
and im moving from the uk :/
we still dont know when were going and if we are.. but it would have been nice to have more than three months x

[Boobies]

I voted that you should move, though it doesn't sound like you have a choice.
It will be fun life experience for you, even if it doesn't seem like it now. Like when I moved here (I know 70 miles isn't the same scope as half way around the world but still) I didn't really want to, and didn't like it at first, but after a while I learned to like it and have made lots of friends, and have a fabulous girlfriend. In the end I'm glad I moved. The same will probably apply for you, and in the end, the friends you have now probably won't be the friends you have 10 years from now if you'd stay here anyway so losing them a little bit earlier isn't really that bad.

[Imagine]

Doesn't seem like you have much of a choice. Adjusting will be hard if you do, but with some time it will get easier.

[Thirteen]

Its true, you're young. You still have plenty of opportunity for a fresh start. I mean, at your age, friends and boyfriends will most likely still come and go (it is normally the way, after all!), so there is no point in staying behind (if you even have the option!) with a relative, just to regret it if you start missing your parents, or if your whole life changes with the friends and such.

[MegaMadness]

I voted to move. Moving can be wonderful and a fresh start. Sure it might be stressful till you get settled in but once you do, I'm sure you'll be fine.

[CompassionateSoul]

I emigrated from the UK to Canada two years ago, and I can honestly say, I'm glad I did. I left behind a girlfriend and everyone I knew and I gave up a university place to move here. It didn't have much of a choice, there was no way I could have put food on the table if I stayed in the UK. It has worked out for me though.
There are so many things that will be different despite it being an English-speaking country. Lifestyles will vary a lot, and depending on where you move to (city/town/village) the pace of life will also be different. The pace of life in the UK is fairly fast and employees work longer hours than a lot of other nations in Europe, so in Australia you may learn they don't work as much, this is fairly normal! It can lead to people coming across as lazy. Other people will be quite ignorant and stereotypical, asking you if you drink tea, and imitating a strong, posh, British accent. These are some of the differences, if you want to know any more, specific, differences, you're welcome to PM me.

[Khadra]

I hate to say this, but at this age, friends, and especially boyfriends, come and go. Your parents will always be a part of your life. Do you want to sacrifice your relationship with your parents for people that might only be in your life for a few more years?

It will be a great experience for you. Definitely it will have difficult parts, but in the long run you will gain a lot. Be prepared for change. Embrace it and be willing to go out of your comfort zone sometimes! You´ll be a better stronger person for it.

And, you said it´s your parents´dream to live there, so think about how much it will mean to them if you go with them. Not very many people end up living out their dreams, so give your parents this chance!

[jess25235]

Thankyou everybody for the comments..
I know that friends, boyfriends come and go, but ive had a real tough time lately and life has recently started to get a lot lot better, and it just feels everything has been a waste of time.. I have other family members in england as well like my dad, stepmmum, baby sister, cousins who im all close to also my gran who i love loads..
It really is a great experience and i want to, just feels to soon :/ xxx

[fersure]

Hmm, this is a very tough decision, Jess. if it were me I dont think that I could do it. I have so many friends here and I could never just leave it all behind. Plus, even though your only 14, my parents met when they were that age and they're still together now so just think about that one. I vote no, I'm sure your friends probably don't want you to go.XO

[thisiscourtney]

I moved to Italy from California a while back, and at first I hated the idea. I had so many friends and was just beginning to get close to people and when I first got there I hated it. But trust me, after a while you'll realize that the experience you get in another country is so worth it. I'm super jealous. Australia seems like loads of fun.