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i dont know who i am - December 18th 2012, 10:20 PM

my minds borthering me i really donno who i am i wear band t shirts i like all the emo musicetc i wear studed belts black skinny jeans etc red shoes i have classed myself as an emo by now its just the style im in to i suppose yet i dont feel emo and i feel like wearing red skinny jeans thats proper not me i donno who i am ! and please dont say be yourself tha annoys me but i like to there a photo of meon my display picture of it helps i donno who i am at the moment and i feel like getting my hair like this btw http://weheartit.com/entry/14799582?...e+Reece+Mastin please help me some one plus i dont feel proper emo because of my hair its not black dont feel like dying it

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Re: i dont know who i am - December 19th 2012, 01:41 AM

Well as much as you hate that answer, it's honestly probably the best piece of advice. You're 16, you're still figuring out who you are. You can like a certain type of music without having to be a part of that label or dress like that genre. Hell I like country music, I'm not going out in cowboy boots and a cowboy hat though. I also love metal, but I'm not shaving half my head to fit the style. Find out what you like and don't worry about what style it is. Honestly make your own if you have to, chances are you'll fall into some stereotype by someone's own mind, but you shouldn't feel the need to stereotype yourself. If you want to wear red skinny jeans, wear them, if you don't want to dye your hair, then don't. You can still wear band t-shirts and have your hair styled like it is without having to completely comply to a stereotype.

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Re: i dont know who i am - December 20th 2012, 03:16 AM

You're 16, so it's normal to feel confused on who you are. At this point in your life, you're just beginning to get a feel for who you are. If that's not the case, it will happen for you. Also, just because your hair isn't black or dyed black doesn't mean you can't identify yourself as part of the emo scene. I dressed emo in high school, but had several different hair colors. Black was NEVER one of them. It's a sense of style. Not what hair color you have.

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Re: i dont know who i am - December 22nd 2012, 04:00 PM

Well, to be honest if you class yourself as a certain type of style. Well you feel you have to fit into it.

I'm going into a skater style, but if I want to wear something which isn't skater ill wear it. If people ask what my style is ill say my own! So don't think well I have an emo style so I must dye my hair black. Heck if you gonna die hair chose what colour you want. Heck if you want to dye you hair bright green dye it bright green so what if it isn't emo. That's what makes an individual!!!


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Re: i dont know who i am - December 27th 2012, 06:50 PM

Like the others said, being yourself is the best answer.
I was exactly where you were when I was 16. I liked a lot of really gothic/alternative clothes, but I didn't want to be all dark hair, excessive eyeliner, typical 'emo' either. So I just found my own style. I mix and match between gothic tops and normal store jeans. I basically wear the clothes I like and don't bother about fitting into any certain style. You should give it a go, labels are for food products, not people. Just create your own style in whatever you feel most comfortable in.

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