NEED to change appearance and how I look after my body.

[Aimee]

Okay I'm coming here in full confidence for help as I've nobody else to turn to as it's actually really embarrasing talking about insecurities as a lot of you will probably understand.

Basically I'm not the ugliest but I'm not the prettiest girl alive. I'd say I'm uglier than what you'd imagine as "average". I'll try and section these problems.

Hygiene & Skin Care
So I'm pretty bone idle to be honest. I don't make the effort to shower everyday, however I do wash in the mornings, it's just not a full body wash. I probably shower twice a week. I keep trying to get into the habit of brushing my teeth at night aswell as the morning but I seem to get too tired and leave it.

I have really oily skin and acne. I've tried so many products to clear it and I just don't know what to do. I used to wear glasses(now have contancts) and the area around my eyes is really white so I look like a panda sort of. My nose and cheek bone area are always red and my forehead. I don't have serious acne it's very mild but it's quite alot, however they are faded and not extremely visible. Also I've tried many different foundations and it's really hard for me to find one that matches because I'm so pale. However I found a good one, just through the day my skin(especially nose area) gets really oily and it's pretty unatrractive

Hair & Makeup
I actually hate my hair. It's really nice when I have it done at the hairdressers and put extentions in. It's brown and has been various other colours. It's really damaged from dye but repairing quite well. I just don't know how to style it. I have a full fringe and when I leave it to dry naturally it will split in the middle so I have no option other than to blow dry it. I don't know how to do it though! It goes all frizzy and bushy, like it's alive! I've tried to copy hairdressers in how they wash and dry hair but I actually don't know how it's done - so any advice/tips from someone who knows about this would help alot.

As for makeup I just don't know how to make myself attractive. Sometimes my skin is really dry and the next minute it's oily. I can never put eyeliner on the top lid so I only ever wear it on the bottom but is this stupid?

I'll add in this section too - my lips are always chapped and sore because I bite them quite abit. As soon as theres hard skin I bite it off again. :/

Clothes
I normally walk around in a pair of joggers, pumps and a top. However I have literally one outfit I find fashionable and I feel confident wearing. The thing is I want to get more clothes and change my look but everything is so expensive and I don't even know how to keep up with fashion or anything. GAH.

Being a teenager sucks, really. -.-
So yeah, advice anyone? :/

[wonderbread]

Hey there. Sorry for a late response. I will section my advice too

Hygiene & Skin care
You don't have to shower every day but you should shower every other day. To be honest twice a week just isn't going to cut it regardless of doing washings in between. You are a girl there are places that need a really good cleaning. Not to mention your hair, it needs to be washed at least every other day. I shower every day and I might very very rarely go two days without washing. You need to brush your teeth daily as well. I used to be bad about it too. I wouldn't even brush my teeth at all. But now I brush in the morning and I always try to brush my teeth at nighth even when I am tired. If not, I at least use mouth wash. As far as skin care just wash it in the shower with water and soap and keep your face clean, that may have something to do with it if you dont keep your face clean. There is this that I use after I wash my face.
http://www.walmart.com/ip/Equate-Sen...fl-oz/10402998
It works great for me. I would give it a try. Its like clean and clear but its the off brand. I don't have acne really bad. I just get pimples and stuff a bit so I would give it a try. I have weird skin too, it can be oily and then it can get really dry. It helps though if you wash it normally and get all the soap off. I also use a face moisturizer. It actually really helps keep it really balance. I use an off brand called equate. Just make sure you get the right kind, not one that is for oily skin or for dry skin. I get the one for normal skin and it keeps it balanced 98 % of the time


Hair and make up.
I usually get a fringe when I get hair cuts too. If you have a side bang just part it down the side and not the middle. That usually helps. As far as how to style it, fringes look really good straightened so if you have a hair straightener then use that. If you don't just blow dry it and brush it at the same time. But since it has been damaged alot with hair dye and your going to be using heat on it I would get a hair spritz for it so it can get some moisture in there. Ive gone through so many colorings and such. I know what its like. I had to get a good four inches off my bottom if not more to get all the dead and fried hair off. Im trying not to dye it. So try not to dye it and try getting at least two inches cut off.
And with my same type of skin with make up, I usually don't use face make up unless I am going somewhere nice or doing something nice. Its also taken me a long time to find my right color for foundation too! For real I am pale and still haven't found the best but found one thats pretty close. I can't put eye liner on my top lid either and no its not stupid if you only put it on the bottom.I prefer to just put it on the bottom. And you know what your probably actually more attractive than you think. When I want to wear make up but don't want to get all fancy with it, I usually just wear eye liner and mascarra. And that is really all you need sometimes and if your lips are good at the time wear a pop of color. Some times if I want to keep it simple and its not really hot outside I also wear a pretty eye shadow one color. I usually do two colors but when I want to keep it simple. I just do a simple one color that goes with my outfit. Usually golds or browns or blushy colors. Or one that brings out the green in my eyes.
As far as my lips, I do the same thing. I keep chap stick with me at all times and just wear that as my lip gloss it fixes my lips and it has a shine to it so why not. So I would suggest that too.

Clothes
Im not to sure where you live but there are places like Ross and TJ Maxx and such and they have great clothes for cheap. I can find jeans for like ten dollars. Or retail shops that sell brand name clothes used. Like American Eagle and such for really cheap too. I would get your staples first. Like some nicely fitted jeans and a pair of shorts and nicely fitted v neck shirts what ever colors but always make sure you have black and white. Then get some fun funky jewelry to play it up. Or get T shirts from Target and such, they have T shirts with designs if you just want to stay comfortable and simple. You can play those up too. You can get scarves too, those are fun. Then you just build on that with more types of tops.
http://www.target.com/Katy-Perry-Wat...k&frombrowse=1
http://www.target.com/License-Junior...k&frombrowse=1
T's like this are simple but yet fun and they have designe they have more depth.
Then you can play those up with fun jewelry and such. Also have basic colored tank tops too!

If you need more help you can always go to my page and ask

[Kendall Ann]

no, no, no. About your hair needing to be washed everyday, not true. It's actually unhealthy to was your hair everyday. Usually you should wait probably about two days in between washing your hair but you should still shower at least every other day. But other then that I pretty much agree with Ashley, those were good suggestions.