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Unhappy Court hearing advice? - August 3rd 2012, 01:07 AM

So I've been fighting with my mom recently and It just got really bad and she called the cops. I never hit her, it was only verbal fighting. I found out later she had lied to the police and said I hit her.
I spent last night in a juvenile detention center and was released this morning after standing in front of a judge. She ordered that I was to be on home detention, which is like house arrest, except I can go places as long as there is adult supervision and the court doesn't track me or anything. At least until my court date, which is aug 29.
What I would like to know is what I can expect at the court hearing on the 29th, how and if i should defend myself, and most importantly what kinda punishment I might face. I'm 15 and a straight A student and this is only a one time thing, I've just been going thru some rough times.

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Re: Court hearing advice? - August 3rd 2012, 01:18 AM

They can't do anything without some sort of proof that you assaulted your mom besides her word. Just tell them at every opportunity that you are given to speak to someone that you did not physically assault your mom, that the fight was only verbal, and that she lied to the police about what happened out of vindictive spite. Keep talking and basically give them hell. If they ask you questions, think about your responses carefully before you say anything, in case they try to trick you into "confessing" to something you didn't do.

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Re: Court hearing advice? - August 3rd 2012, 01:24 AM

Tell. The. Truth. That's really all there is to it. If you didn't hit her, and didn't threaten her, you're clear of assault and battery charges. That's what your at risk most for, it appears. Tell the truth. Show you're a good kid. Dress nicely. Be respectful.

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Re: Court hearing advice? - August 3rd 2012, 02:14 AM

The truth. That's all you need.

When it's the truth, there's evidence to it-- or at least no evidence to support the lie.

I wish you the best luck. I'm sorry to hear about this.

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Re: Court hearing advice? - August 3rd 2012, 03:25 AM

Technically/legally speaking, it doesn't sound like there's any physical evidence (unless she is bruised or something). The judge is experienced and knows that lying happens, although you might be under oath. If your mother lies under oath, then she is committing perjury.

Look sharp and intelligent like you know you are, and just be honest.

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Re: Court hearing advice? - August 3rd 2012, 04:16 AM

Just tell the truth, dear. Make sure you get a chance to talk and tell them exactly what happened and stress the fact that you didn't hit or threaten your mom. Like strangequark27 said, think about what you say before you say it. If there's any way for you to get a lawyer, that might be something to think about. Can the court appoint one for you? I'm not gonna lie, the courts are scary. It might help you to have somebody that can guide you through that process. I've had a bit of experience in court myself so you can PM me if you like. I didn't actually have a hearing, but I nearly did.

Be polite and tell them what actually happened.
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Re: Court hearing advice? - August 3rd 2012, 12:31 PM

I'm sorry you're going through this. For the court hearing, like everybody else has said, be completely honest. If you didn't hit her, then they have no proof and all they have is her word. If you can, try and get some support in court. I don't know what's available for you, but try looking into it. If you need an adult to help you, you could ask a different family member, or even a friend's parent.

After all of this, it might be worth looking into different living arrangements. It's not great to be living with someone who calls the police on you for things you didn't do.

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Re: Court hearing advice? - August 4th 2012, 05:08 PM

Tell the truth, stay calm (even if you want to get angry), dress appropriately, and be respectful. You will more than likely get a chance to tell your side of the story so take advantage of it. The fact that this is a first offense and that you're a straight A student will help you.

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Re: Court hearing advice? - August 5th 2012, 02:31 AM

Like everyone has said; tell the truth. That's it...just kidding. I've
had much practice with judges.

You say you and your mother only had a verbal confrontation. As
a judge the judge will under all circumstances believe the adult first.
(Its mental I know) You want to stay calm, like when I say calm I mean
extremely calm. Do not yell, look like your getting mad, or make any sort
of angry expression. Do not fiddle around, do not let your gaze move
around the room. When someone is talking to you you keep their
gaze. You look them right in the eyes and with a study voice answer
their questions. A judge bases his judgement off of the person. If he/she
see they cannot maintain eye contact, stay still, or does anything besides
sit/stand still (I mean completely still) they may take it as they have
something to hide. Even if you don't have anythin to hide and you move
around they will think you do. Dress to impress, slacks, nice shirt, jacket possibly.
Do your hair, make up, everything. Think your answers out
carefully, even if you don't have time to think it all the way through. Try
not to stutter, be confident in your answers. Tell them exactly the way it
was and if you have sibling that saw what happened. Ask them to make a
statement of what they saw. Under oath they must tell the truth no
matter what your parents might do, you have to tell the truth because
the judge will find out later if you lied. And you will be facing charges for
lyin under oath.

If your mother wins the case, you could possibly be sent to Juvenile Detention.
You might be lucky if she does win and just be sent to house arrest with community
hours and a weekly 'Parole" officer meetin. If you however win, your mother could
face a fine for lyin to an officer. She could be lookin at time in Jail for lyin. And if
she is caught lyin durin your hearing that is a big big fine. One I have seen before
and honey that fine isn't a pretty sight.

Again just tell the truth and be confident. (:

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Re: Court hearing advice? - August 5th 2012, 03:58 PM

Pro-tip, try to look calm, but if you're nervous, leave it out. Try to dress in clothes ever so slightly too large for you. It's been shown that both make a people more sympathetic towards you.

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