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Walking alone at night - October 12th 2015, 06:18 AM

I'm in my freshman year of college right now (yay!) and am a theatre major! I just got offered a role at a local theatre that's about a 20 minute walk from my school. There are no busses that go there and the shuttle service is hideously unreliable so all I have left is walking. The only problem is, I don't really know anyone too well in the cast and the rehearsals will probably be in the evening so I'd have to walk all the way back to my room at night. I definitely will have to walk back at night in November when it's the show. I've never walked alone at night and to be honest I'm really afraid! What if I get lost or someone is after me or something? Anyone ever have to walk a fairly long distance alone in the night before? What's it like and how can I calm myself down about it?


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Re: Walking alone at night - October 12th 2015, 07:26 AM

Heya Great job on getting that role!
I know that feeling of angst when you're walking alone at night... my high school is a ten to fifteen minute walk away, and occasionally they hold some evening events so I have to walk home alone in the dark. If I ever notice someone else in the street I just walk boldly. But the chances are, you're going to meet someone nice at the theatre and you may be able to walk back with them (or at least part of the way). Until then, just keep a pepper spray on you.


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Re: Walking alone at night - October 12th 2015, 10:03 AM

We don't get pepper spray issued on the UK which is wrong considering how things are going over here. But usually I go jogging on a night and I carry something to protect myself with just keep pepper spray on you and you should be fine
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Re: Walking alone at night - October 12th 2015, 12:27 PM

Hey there,

I think a lot of people have this worry....it can be a quite nerve wracking to walk alone at night, especially if you're in an unfamiliar neighbourhood. You're definitely not the only one who feels this way!

A few basic safety tips would be:

- Stay on well-lit streets.
- Be alert and aware of your surroundings. Don't be distracted texting on your phone or unable to hear by listening to an ipod.
- Keep your phone charged in case you need to make a call, and save any numbers you may need in the phone.
- Don't try to take shortcuts or go through obvious sketchy areas (ex. it's probably wise not to go down a dark alley, even if it'll cut your walking time off by a bit.)
- You can always text a friend letting them know you'd feel comfortable with them knowing your route, when you depart, and then text them when you're back home to know you're safe at home.

I would also suggest walking the route during the daytime if you're worried about possibly getting lost. Get familiar with it, and memorize street names, surrounding landmarks, etc. Once you start walking it, you'll start to feel more comfortable with the route. Google maps route planner is a pretty convenient tool to use when you're trying to find out what the fastest route is and it usually offers alternative ways as well. If your phone has a GPS app, I would probably bring it along as a backup if you don't recognize where you are.

I hope some of this helps a bit. Congrats on getting the role, and good luck!

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Re: Walking alone at night - October 12th 2015, 01:39 PM

I used to have to walk home from school at night a lot because my classes ended at 10 pm a lot, which seriously sucked. It can be nerve wracking. The worst part? About 2 streets away from my home, girls got raped/assaulted a few times.

Any how, as someone who can relate to what's going on, I know how scary it can be.

Solutions?

One thing you can look into is a walking service on your campus. My school had this service where 2 people (1 girl and 1 boy) would walk you home from school, theoretically they could come get you somewhere off campus and then walk you too campus at night. So you could look into that.

- only walk on well lit streets

- call someone on your phone --- I always felt better being on my phone because it'd be harder to touch me if the person knew someone would overhear it

Unless you live in the US, chances are you live in a country where pepper spray is illegal. Please don't risk carrying stuff like that because if you end up having to defend yourself, using pepper spray could land you with an assault charge. I know in Canada that you're only allowed to use "reasonable force" which means if I am good at self-defense, I'll be ok, but I can't whip out pepper spray, because that would be considered an excessive way to defend myself. It seems ridiculous though because if I am not strong enough to fight some evil fucking rapist, then why shouldn't I be allowed to use pepper spray as a "reasonable" way to defend myself in the absence of an "equal" way to defend myself, but the law is what it is, so seriously be careful there.

Any how, that said, self defense classes can go a long way to feeling safer. I know that won't do a lot now, but it probably will in the future.

If this theatre is in a safe area you'll be fine though.

Can you ask people you know for rides? Like friends, family, a boyfriend or girlfriend?




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Re: Walking alone at night - October 12th 2015, 05:16 PM

Hey there,

I hate walking home alone, so I know how you feel. I definitely suggest you carrying pepper spray if you're able to get some. Maybe you could get a rape alarm? I have one and it is pretty loud, I've never had to use it but I feel much safer carrying it around with me. It makes this screaming noise. Maybe you could see if there are any self defence classes in your area, it might make you feel a little more comfortable knowing the basics if someone was to ever try to follow you or anything. If at all possible try to stick to main roads and well lit areas. Once you know some more people I'm sure you will have someone who is going in the same direction as you, so at least you aren't walking alone.

I'm sure you will be fine!
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Re: Walking alone at night - October 12th 2015, 08:23 PM

I would suggest riding a bicycle instead of walking, but understand that might not be an option for you.


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Re: Walking alone at night - October 13th 2015, 08:35 PM

Hi.

I also hate walking alone but sometimes its unavoidable.

Firstly, do at least one "dry run" in the daytime, when its bright so you get familiar with the area and know where you are going and where, if anywhere to avoid.

Always have your phone with you, charged and switched on. Maybe don't necessarily produce it too much when you are walking alone but I know just having mine in my coat pocket makes me feel a bit safer.

Also I know you can get personal alarms - think someone mentioned this above. Might be definitely worth looking into.

Chances are after a few times going, you'll get to know people and you'll maybe find someone going your direction who will be able to walk with you.

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