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Post Survey - please respond! - January 13th 2016, 09:03 AM

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I would be really grateful if you could respond to the question below as honestly as possible.

If you saw a girl standing alone in the school corridor, what would you think?

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Re: Survey - please respond! - January 13th 2016, 09:17 AM

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First off, Welcome to TeenHelp! I see you're new. I'd recommend you introducing yourself to the TeenHelp community in this forum (http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f4-arrivals-departures/) sometime!

To get to your question: I think that's hard to answer without any visuals. Meaning, what kind of expressions is the girl showing? Is she crying? Does she look dazed and confused? Or is she smiling? Is it just me and her in this corridor, or are there other people around? Does she appear to be in any type of distress?

Once some of those basic visual-related questions are answered, then I can begin to tell you what I would think of the situation. For example, if she's standing alone in the corridor crying, then clearly I would believe her to be in distress, in need of assistant/help, and would attempt to talk to her. However, if she's just standing alone in the corridor smiling/seeming positive, then I would assume she's happy, doing ok, and would maybe just say hello and carry on with my day. The visuals are key. And not to mention, as much as we don't like to admit it, judgments are made almost instantaneously based of those visuals AND our own personal past experiences.


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Re: Survey - please respond! - January 13th 2016, 01:46 PM

i would go up to her and ask if there is something wrong


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Re: Survey - please respond! - January 13th 2016, 02:03 PM

I probably would not think anything more about passing a person standing in a corridor alone, as I am walking it alone.
I tend to say hi to people and go on about my day. I've never liked lurking in the hallways. Lol


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Re: Survey - please respond! - January 13th 2016, 03:20 PM

Yes I agree, the visuals would be very helpful in answering your question. But I guess without them, I send have to say that she's probably going to bed someone to talk to. Just say hi, or engage in simple convo with her would do.


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Re: Survey - please respond! - January 13th 2016, 05:10 PM

Nothing. I do that all the time.


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Re: Survey - please respond! - January 13th 2016, 06:03 PM

Welcome to TeenHelp! I hope you find the site to be a useful, fun, and accepting place.

To answer your question, it would depend on visual cues. What does her body posture and facial expressions say? Is she standing up straight with her head high, or is she slouched over and closed off? Is she facing towards you or away from you? Is she smiling, frowning, or neutral? Does she look tense or relaxed? Does she seem uncomfortable or antsy or does she seem comfortable? Is she in the middle of doing something, like reading or playing on her phone or listening to music? In addition, how well do you know this girl? Is she a stranger? An acquaintance? A friend? It's also important to note the length of time you plan on being in the hallway. Are you lingering there for an extended period of time, or are you simply passing by?

All these factors can play into what you might do. If she seems tense, closed off, frowning, or is preoccupied I wouldn't approach her. If she looks to be a neutral or jovial mood I would say it's okay to approach and say hi. If you're only planning to be there a short time a simple passing "hello" and smile would do. If you're planning to be there a while you could introduce yourself and start to chat, especially if this is someone you see every day but don't know very well.

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Re: Survey - please respond! - January 13th 2016, 10:36 PM

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As for the question, it totally depends. Like others have said, the visuals make a huge difference. Normally, I wouldn't think a whole lot of someone standing a lone in a corridor, I'd keep walking, maybe smile if eye contact was made - I certainly wouldn't approach someone "just cause", hell, I've stood in corridors a ton of times and would be weirded out if some random came and talked to me simply cause I'm alone, I like being alone sometimes. Now you might ask "what if the person is new at school?". Ok, and?Not every passer by can be expected to know that the loner in the hall is alone because of being new. It could be someone from a different grade for all I'd know.

Times I might approach someone in the hall if they were alone include: (1) someone crying (2) if someone just dropped their stuff an looked as though they needed help (3) if they stopped me and asked me something (4) if I knew them and wanted to say hello (5) if they were the person I was in the hall for (e.g. I am on my way to meet someone. The list could go on and on and on, this is just a sample. But do I react to people on their own in hallways for no reason? No (that reason also has to be known to me, a person can't be hoping that someone will approach them and then be upset when random passerby don't acknowledge them if there was no obvious visual/heard/known-to-the-passerby cue to do so)




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Re: Survey - please respond! - January 13th 2016, 10:56 PM

Walk past her and continue about my business.
   
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Re: Survey - please respond! - January 13th 2016, 11:19 PM

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I would probably just keep walking and smile at them when I go past. They're not doing anything wrong so there is no point me doing anything apart from go about my day. If they looked upset I would ask them what's wrong but other than that I would just leave them alone. It's not uncommon to be standing in a hallway alone.


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Re: Survey - please respond! - January 14th 2016, 02:09 AM

If she looks troubled or glum, sad or moody, I'd probably slow down, smile to her and usual greetings. If she responds, then great.

Otherwise if she is just alone going about her own business, I'd just keep going.
Might worth noting some may not welcome presence of strangers though.




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Re: Survey - please respond! - January 14th 2016, 03:37 AM

I guess it depends what exactly was going on, but I'd probably just smile and walk past.



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Re: Survey - please respond! - January 14th 2016, 06:18 AM

It depends. If she was showing signs of being troubled, I might slow down and smile and see if she's okay. However, if she wasn't looking troubled, I would just smile and continue on my way.
   
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Re: Survey - please respond! - January 15th 2016, 12:42 AM

I'd probably just walk by if she didn't look distressed or anything. Maybe she just wants to be alone. You don't have to be surrounded by people all the time. If she looked distressed I may linger a bit to see what's going on and at least smile and say hello.


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Re: Survey - please respond! - January 16th 2016, 07:00 AM

If this person looked distressed, I would ask if everything is ok.

On the other hand, I would walk past, catch eye contact, smile, say hello and keep walking.


   
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Re: Survey - please respond! - January 18th 2016, 01:45 PM

If she was crying or looked unhappy I would try to go talk to her. However, I have pretty bad anxiety so unless she was in distress I would probably just walk past, as I'm not so great at talking to people.


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