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Why saying "That's so gay" is stupid - February 28th 2016, 02:02 AM

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Been quiet a first day here, I had spilled a lot of bottled up feelings today it's great! This thread will just related to gay guys, since that is what I am.

Back to the title. If you ever say "That's so gay" please just keep your mouth shut. At one point like every other gay person I've met, goes through an awkward and depressing time. Saying "That's so gay" makes some people, at least me, offended in some way. I absolutely can't stand people who say it, if you do, you sound so stupid and uneducated. Thing about the actual meaning of it. Calling a homework assignment "gay" doesn't make any sense! I'm pretty sure an assignment isn't attracted to any gender last time I checked. I know most of the people who say it don't mean any harm, but think before you say.
   
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Re: Why saying "That's so gay" is stupid - February 28th 2016, 02:49 AM

I get this too. But GAY also means happy but it still is weird to say.


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Re: Why saying "That's so gay" is stupid - February 28th 2016, 02:30 PM

Although it may be frustrating to hear people use a lack of correct terminology for something, or seem like they're uneducated in that they don't seem to realise what the word truly means, when I was growing up the word 'gay' was often used not necessarily due to being uneducated or misinformed about the term's 'true' meaning but because where I lived it was actually slang for the word 'stupid'. When people use the word 'cum' instead of 'come', as in 'Are you coming out today?' it annoys me because it's as if they can't use the correct English but when you think about it, to them it's not necessarily as though they have poor English, it's just a slang term.


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Re: Why saying "That's so gay" is stupid - February 28th 2016, 03:11 PM

Lol and to think that saying something is "stupid" is wrong for the same reasons; you're using someone's low intellectual abilities as an insult / negative thing. But most people don't get wound up about "stupid", it tends to be words like "that's so gay", faggot, tranny, retard etc that are really offensive.

Any how so a lot of people are just ignorant. You, as a gay teen, might have learned earlier that the use of this word as a negative thing (e.g. that's so gay).

The best thing to do when you hear people say such things is to respectfully let them know that you consider their use of that word offensive. Here is an article that can provide you with a few different ways to say that. It actually pertains to using the word "retard", but it can easily be adapted for your purposes.

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Just so you know, when you use the word "gay" in that way, it's offensive. You're using someone's sexuality in an insulting way and I would really appreciate it if you try to be more conscious of that around me in the future.




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Re: Why saying "That's so gay" is stupid - February 28th 2016, 06:26 PM

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Lol and to think that saying something is "stupid" is wrong for the same reasons; you're using someone's low intellectual abilities as an insult / negative thing. But most people don't get wound up about "stupid", it tends to be words like "that's so gay", faggot, tranny, retard etc that are really offensive.

Any how so a lot of people are just ignorant. You, as a gay teen, might have learned earlier that the use of this word as a negative thing (e.g. that's so gay).

The best thing to do when you hear people say such things is to respectfully let them know that you consider their use of that word offensive. Here is an article that can provide you with a few different ways to say that. It actually pertains to using the word "retard", but it can easily be adapted for your purposes.

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Just so you know, when you use the word "gay" in that way, it's offensive. You're using someone's sexuality in an insulting way and I would really appreciate it if you try to be more conscious of that around me in the future.
Thanks. I know I am contradicting myself in a way by saying it is stupid, but you get my point
   
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Re: Why saying "That's so gay" is stupid - February 28th 2016, 07:35 PM

Someone will get offended no matter what. You could say that saying this only relates to gay men is offensive because some homosexual women consider themselves gay. I do think people should try a little harder when it's something that offends a large number of people, but there's no way everyone will be happy. I personally try to avoid letting things offend me, unless it's someone I'm close to and they know how I feel.



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Re: Why saying "That's so gay" is stupid - February 28th 2016, 08:18 PM

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Re: Why saying "That's so gay" is stupid - February 28th 2016, 10:22 PM

Personally, I'm queer and I generally don't take exception to it. Probably because I've been subjected to much worse in terms of abuse I've gotten for my gender and sexuality and kids saying "that's so gay" seems absolutely tiny to me. However, I just think it's pretty innocuous, it's simply street slang. Like the way I use the word "fag(s)" daily, because where I live "fags" are cigarettes.

Though of course I'm unlikely to take someone who says "that's so gay" seriously, but I don't take cishets seriously on just about anything related LGBTQ-related, so.
   
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Re: Why saying "That's so gay" is stupid - March 1st 2016, 11:54 AM

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Someone will get offended no matter what. You could say that saying this only relates to gay men is offensive because some homosexual women consider themselves gay. I do think people should try a little harder when it's something that offends a large number of people, but there's no way everyone will be happy. I personally try to avoid letting things offend me, unless it's someone I'm close to and they know how I feel.
This. Plus, if you're still in the closet, and someone says "that's so gay" as in "that's dumb" then how are they supposed to know you are gay? Like Keena said, I'd only be upset if it were someone I trusted like a close friend or family member. Because they're the ones that have an actual spot in my life, and I obviously trust them because of it.

No matter what word people replace "stupid" with, although I don't know why, it's going to end up on the euphemism treadmill one way or another. It's going to offend someone, whether it's today or fifteen years down the road.
   
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