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Is there a difference between not being in a hurry to grow up and not wanting to grow up? - March 22nd 2016, 12:35 PM

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Re: Is there a difference between not being in a hurry to grow up and not wanting to grow up? - March 23rd 2016, 12:10 AM

I personally think there is.

If you're not in a hurry to grow up, you might feel indifferent toward it. You could almost have a, "take it or leave it" kind of attitude toward adulthood. Feeling like you don't want to grow up implies dread and other negative feelings surrounding adulthood.


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Re: Is there a difference between not being in a hurry to grow up and not wanting to grow up? - March 23rd 2016, 11:38 AM

I think there is a difference too.

If you're not in a hurry to grow up, then you'll just take growing up as it happens. Indifference. But not wanting to grow up, means that you may have fears, or feel resistant about the thought of growing up and that might affect your behaviour and emotions, more so than being indifferent to it.


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Re: Is there a difference between not being in a hurry to grow up and not wanting to grow up? - March 23rd 2016, 05:40 PM

I personally think there's a difference between the two. When you don't want to grow up, it could mean that you don't want to deal with anything about adulthood. When you're not in a hurry to grow up, which is the way I am, it just means that you'll deal with different parts of the growing up process as they happen but you're kind of indifferent to the whole thing.


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Re: Is there a difference between not being in a hurry to grow up and not wanting to grow up? - March 25th 2016, 03:58 AM

I think there is a difference as well.

I think if you're not in a hurry to grow up you just go with in and accept it in a way that you're becoming an adult.

While if you're dreading it, you don't want to grow up at all.


   
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Re: Is there a difference between not being in a hurry to grow up and not wanting to grow up? - March 28th 2016, 10:53 PM

I agree with the others that there is a difference. However, I think it is worth noting that someone might not want to grow up not because the idea fills them with dread, but because they don't want to let go of their childhood. This could either be because it was an overall positive experience, or maybe because it still is. Becoming an adult often means moving on; they may have to give up some of their childhood activities and interests, and instead focus on typically adult things that normally involve more responsibility and are perhaps less "fun".

There could also be other issues surrounding the idea of growing up and moving on. Perhaps something significant happened during childhood and the person doesn't want to leave it behind, so to speak. Or perhaps they have lots of childhood memories and don't want them to get lost amongst adult ones.

I think that in all cases of someone not wanting to grow up, there is a degree of resistance, but thinking that adulthood will be a nightmare is not the only cause of that resistance.

Also, I think that someone who is not in a hurry to grow up is not necessarily indifferent. They too may not actually like the idea of growing up, but rather than actively not wanting it to happen, have accepted that it will and are instead making the most of the time that they have.

Just my thoughts.


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