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You are not defined by your issues. - August 22nd 2016, 07:36 PM

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I've been struggling to rephrase how I talk about my mental health issues and habits and traumas. I hope this is helpful to other people as much as it has been for me.

"I'm a self-harmer." No, I self-harm.

"I was molested/raped/abused." No, it wasn't something that happened, it was something somebody did. This person molested me. This person raped me. This person abused me. Put the responsibility on the responsible one.

"I'm bipolar/anorexic/schizophrenic." No, you have this disorder. People who have cancer don't say they're cancerous. They say they have the disease. Your disease is not an adjective. It is something you have. I have bipolar disorder. I have anorexia.

Your issues do not define you. They are not part of your identity.
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Re: You are not defined by your issues. - August 23rd 2016, 12:32 AM


Thank you for sharing this. It really means a lot!

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Re: You are not defined by your issues. - August 23rd 2016, 12:48 AM

Yes, I've always said I have a disability, I have a mental illness. The only time I say I am depressed or anxious is when I'm in an episode because then it's true. I have trauma stuff that I don't post about, but I say that I'm a victim of it, or that it happened to me, I'm comfortable with that.

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