I just had ago at someone who I shouldn't have even if what I said was true considering that she is in a abusive relationship maybe I am a bad person and just trying to convince myself other wise but she hit on a nerve and I couldn't bottle it up anymore
Hey, I am sorry to hear you had an argument with someone. We all say something we eventually regret in a heated moment and wish we can take it back. The best thing to do right now is calmly approach this person, apologize, and talk it out. If it gets to be too much, then tell them you need to take a step back. There's nothing wrong with needing to step away, it doesn't make you a bad person, but you won't be filled with regret having said something you shouldn't have said.
Hello. I agree with wanderlust. Sometimes we say things we don't mean when we are in the verge of our emotions.. Just calm yourself down, apologize to that person, and try your very best to not do it again..
Those in an abusive relationship often realize it's abusive but it isn't as easy to actually leave as they sometimes become dependent on their abusive partner emotionally and financially. You may be stating the truth but it isn't easy for her to see yet. I hope she gets help and gets away from her abusive relationship.
Do you still have a way to contact her? Perhaps you could apologize to her and politely explain why she upset you. A civil and respectful chat could be good for both of you. It is also okay to take a step back from any chat to regroup your thoughts to prevent saying something you'll later regret. And Daniel? You aren't a bad person. Everyone has arguments, sometimes with people they didn't intend to argue with, and sometimes they say things they shouldn't have. It doesn't make you a bad person and actually, the fact that you realize you shouldn't have argued with her shows personal growth. It isn't easy to admit when we shouldn't have done something so I'm proud of you for that.
Take care, Daniel!
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