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How to love yourself? - September 15th 2019, 06:50 AM

So I've been working on myself and my relationships with family and friends in therapy. More often than not, I put everyone else before me. This didn't pose a problem until recently. I've been dealing with a lot - severe depression, suicidal thoughts (passive), academic pressure - for about 3 months now. I really need support outside therapy for my health to get better. But my family isn't as supportive as I'd hoped. I feel obligated to be strong for them to feel better about my condition, when it should be the other way around. This "strong-I'll-be-okay-everything-is-great" facade I'm having to put up is worsening my depression to the point I don't really care about myself anymore.

So, my question is how do you all put yourself first without feeling guilty/ how do you love yourself as much as you love the others in your life?
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Re: How to love yourself? - September 15th 2019, 08:35 AM

I make sure I have time every day to take care of myself whether it be reading a book before bed, getting a facial or my nails done (obviously not everyday ) or watching a movie.

I also remember the things I'm good at and I try to improve on the things I'm not so good at.

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Re: How to love yourself? - September 16th 2019, 09:32 AM

I try to take time for myself each night after my daughter has gone to sleep whether its watching a movie, reading a book or playing a video game.
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Re: How to love yourself? - September 17th 2019, 06:49 PM

I focus on the things I love to do, such as working on projects or writing. Remember, it's okay to tell people 'no' every once in a while; that's a huge part of self-care. You need to learn how to say no, it doesn't make you a bad person. It just means you realize you've reached your limits and need time by yourself to unwind and regroup.

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Re: How to love yourself? - October 8th 2019, 04:55 PM

I make time for myself after my child is tucked up in bed, and one good way is reading a favourite book. Reading is so relaxing. All the stresses of the day just melt away when reading a good book.

I'm in the process of making myself a notebook/journal. It's fun and there are tutorials on You Tube if you look around.

Another way of enjoyment is knitting my loved one and myself a cosy jumper. Make them in time for winter. Knitting is easy to learn. Often I'm sitting watching the telly and knitting. Other times I just zonk out. And that's alright, too.

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