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Self Care. - October 18th 2020, 07:30 AM

How do you all engage in self care?


   
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Re: Self Care. - October 18th 2020, 10:57 PM

All my means of managing self-care is done on the computer, but sometimes that can get exhausting and I become immune.

On the computer, I utilize:
Blogging, mainly on a private Wordpress account.
Reading fanfiction, but that depends on how I'm feeling.
Listening to music, usually the lyric-less Zen kinds.

In the real world, I utilize:
Also listening to relaxing songs on specialized music channels.
Going out for walks on nice, sunny, cooler days.
Reading books on Kindle, while sitting outside with coffee.
Talking to anyone who is willing to listen, usually my counselor.


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Re: Self Care. - October 18th 2020, 11:16 PM

Whenever I get the chance, I:

Listen to music.
Sleep (when I can).
Talk to friends.
Crochet or Knit.
Read.


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Re: Self Care. - October 19th 2020, 03:45 AM

I'm curious to know what you all do so I can take on board what ones to do myself.


   
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Re: Self Care. - October 19th 2020, 07:09 AM

It took me a while to realise this, but I used to do a lot of self-soothing and think of it as self-care. For me, now, self-care is the stuff that takes effort but will pay off in the long run, not the stuff that makes me feel better in the moment (i.e. the stuff I need to do, not necessarily what I want to do). There is some crossover (for example taking a bubble bath counts as both self-care and self-soothing because it's productive but also relaxing) and sometimes I do both at once or one after the other, but in my mind the two are distinct.

Things I do for self-care include: washing my sheets (or at least properly making my bed); cooking a good meal; having a bath or shower; going for a walk or doing yoga; cleaning or at least tidying an area of the house; writing about or talking through how I'm feeling. Self-soothing activities are more along the lines of: eating junk food; sleeping in/napping; watching comfort shows; using scented candles; listening to certain music.

Both have their place and can have positive results, but I have to keep in mind that forcing myself to do things even when all I want to do is hide away from the world can actually be the most compassionate choice I can make. Sometimes I do just need to self-soothe, but most of the time the urge to do so is stemming from negative emotions that would be better resolved by being more active and engaging in actual self-care.


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Re: Self Care. - October 19th 2020, 09:44 PM

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It took me a while to realise this, but I used to do a lot of self-soothing and think of it as self-care. For me, now, self-care is the stuff that takes effort but will pay off in the long run, not the stuff that makes me feel better in the moment (i.e. the stuff I need to do, not necessarily what I want to do). There is some crossover (for example taking a bubble bath counts as both self-care and self-soothing because it's productive but also relaxing) and sometimes I do both at once or one after the other, but in my mind the two are distinct.

Things I do for self-care include: washing my sheets (or at least properly making my bed);
I've been thinking this way, too. A big part of self-care for me is forcing myself to do things I don't want to do, like making myself go to my appointments because they'll help me overall, even when I really don't want to. Doing my physical therapy and its exercises is another.

There's nothing like freshly washed sheets, though. Something about them is comforting. I guess for self-care I try to balance what I eat, and get outside when I can. I push myself to do my schoolwork and go to my appointments. On the more soothing side of self-care, I like to burn candles or wax melts, I change my body care scent to keep grounded, I do a face mask, paint my nails, or read. I love hiking too.


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Re: Self Care. - October 19th 2020, 10:51 PM

I do a variety of self care activities. It also depends on how I am feeling and what I need.

Taking a hot shower and moving my muscles or standing under the water. I have the water on luke warm water.
I also have a shower brush and wash my body, especially my back, which is soothing.

I blast music and dance, or simply blast music and listen to it.

I watch TV or a movie. I read on my phone, mostly news articles or things going on within my city so I read what others are talking about.

Sometimes, I have a glass of wine with my dinner.

Or I simply order in, if I feel like it.

I think about all the positives in my life and not so much about the negatives.

Sometimes, all I need is to just sit and stare at nothing. I just want to feel at peace, it's relaxing for me and it calms me down.

Other times, I wash the dishes or brush my teeth. Take my dog for a walk just to get out of my apartment and smell the fresh air and look at nature and different surroundings.

I do hum to myself or talk to my dog because for me it's self care as I am checking in with him, asking him a question out loud, allowing myself to hear myself.

Those are some of my self care activities that I do.


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Re: Self Care. - October 21st 2020, 10:05 AM

I go to the gym.

Going to the gym isn't just about keeping fit. It releases a lot of feel-good energy. It creates positivity in ones self that we're doing something healthy and good, and we're doing it just for ourselves. It's such a great feeling to exercise, and to then start seeing all the results pay off. Seeing results after exercising encourages me to keep going.

I know a lot of people also go to the gym for their mental health, it's why there's such an uproar in the UK right now about the government closing gyms due to coronavirus. It's a way of escaping life's stressors and it truly does help improve symptoms of depression.


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Re: Self Care. - October 21st 2020, 02:05 PM

I love this question!

I think for me, it is about setting aside "me time" everyday. I cannot function if I continuously work throughout the day. I get cranky if I go without a nice evening where I get to do the things I love after a day of college work. Being productive is super important to me, but I need some time for myself every day after checking all the things of my daily to-do list (in fact, having this me-time helps me boost my productivity). Usually this me-time starts from 5-6pm every evening, because I spend my mornings and afternoons attending lectures, doing assignments, going to the lab for my thesis work, etc.


   
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Re: Self Care. - October 22nd 2020, 11:32 PM

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Re: Self Care. - October 25th 2020, 04:37 AM

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It took me a while to realise this, but I used to do a lot of self-soothing and think of it as self-care. For me, now, self-care is the stuff that takes effort but will pay off in the long run, not the stuff that makes me feel better in the moment (i.e. the stuff I need to do, not necessarily what I want to do). There is some crossover (for example taking a bubble bath counts as both self-care and self-soothing because it's productive but also relaxing) and sometimes I do both at once or one after the other, but in my mind the two are distinct.

Things I do for self-care include: washing my sheets (or at least properly making my bed); cooking a good meal; having a bath or shower; going for a walk or doing yoga; cleaning or at least tidying an area of the house; writing about or talking through how I'm feeling. Self-soothing activities are more along the lines of: eating junk food; sleeping in/napping; watching comfort shows; using scented candles; listening to certain music.

Both have their place and can have positive results, but I have to keep in mind that forcing myself to do things even when all I want to do is hide away from the world can actually be the most compassionate choice I can make. Sometimes I do just need to self-soothe, but most of the time the urge to do so is stemming from negative emotions that would be better resolved by being more active and engaging in actual self-care.
I often thought about this as well. I often 'force' myself to do things which I find to be more satisfying when I do cross things off my to do list.


   
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