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Is This Weird? - August 3rd 2009, 10:26 PM

I'm terrified of talking on the phone because awkward silences.
Is that weird? or normal?


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Re: Is This Weird? - August 3rd 2009, 10:31 PM

It makes sense, I dont really like talking on the phone for the same reason. I also hate calling people unless they ask me to.


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Re: Is This Weird? - August 3rd 2009, 10:31 PM

omg your just like me!!!!!
i hate talking on the phone to, and so does my boyfriend
for that exact same reason.


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Re: Is This Weird? - August 3rd 2009, 10:32 PM

Luckily, there's no such thing as 'normal'.

Honestly, I'm the exact same. I hate talking on the phone. I rarely do. I always feel like an idiot, espeically when I have nothing to say.

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Re: Is This Weird? - August 3rd 2009, 10:34 PM

oh, good(:
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hah. i'm glad i'm not the only person who does.
because all my friends call each other,
and that's sooo weird,and gross.
ehh. bleh.
the ONLY person i will talk to on the phone is my best friend, because we always talk, and there is never a moment of silence.
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 3rd 2009, 10:46 PM

don't worry about it - i used to be exactly the same. i'm better at talking on the phone now, but only with people who i know well. whenever i have to call up a company or a customer service line or whatever i always have to plan what i'm going to say before i call up.


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Re: Is This Weird? - August 3rd 2009, 10:47 PM

Normally when there's an awkward silence I get really scared that I'm annoying the person on the other end and start talking really fast about complete and utter rubish!
The only person I don't mind talking to on the phone is Marie because we talk about complete rubbish and its never awkward.
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 4th 2009, 12:01 AM

I'm the same way as you, maybe even moreso. I don't just hate the awkward silences, I hate the phone in general and avoid talking on it at all costs. It's to the point where a couple times when I've needed to make an appointment for something, a friend had to do it for me instead >____<;


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Re: Is This Weird? - August 4th 2009, 12:16 AM

Its nice to know other people are like that. I hate picking up the phone and answering it the most because I cant tell who the people are. I also hate calling because I dont know how to fill the awkward silence and I also dont want to interupt them or call a wrong number or have someone other than the person answer the phone because I have trouble with voices.

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Re: Is This Weird? - August 4th 2009, 12:37 AM

Americans hate silence. They find it awkward. If you put a bunch of Americans in a room and there is awkward silence, someone will break it.



   
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 5th 2009, 02:23 AM

No its not weird at all. I hate talking on the phone im never on for more then 5 min.

My friends talk for hours on the phone and im just like how can you do that its sooo boring.

But im addicted to texting


   
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 5th 2009, 09:32 PM

haha not weird at all! I can't stand awkward silence on the phone. At least in person i could run away or somethign but on the phone it's just...odd.
   
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 5th 2009, 10:15 PM

I'm not one for ringing people.

I like to text or IM because I have chance to think about what I want to say.




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Re: Is This Weird? - August 5th 2009, 10:17 PM

I know what you mean. I much prefer texting so that I can think about what I'm going to say, and I also have a fear of awkward silences.
   
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 11th 2009, 01:33 AM

I used to talk on the phone ALLL the time... It was crazy. I annoyed my family to bits. Then I found texting... And since, I never talk on the phone. I don't even talk on the phone to people who don't text. Now I just get nervous because of those awkward silences and I havn't talked to people on the phone in a long time...
I hate even more calling people. I simple can NOT call people anymore. I hate talking to parents if they pick up Maybe because a lot of my friends parents either don't speak english or because they're very ghetto... I used to be very good at calling people. Not anymore =P



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Re: Is This Weird? - August 11th 2009, 04:48 PM

I hate talking on the phone.
I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years and if we had to talk and we couldn't see each other I would text him or talk to him on msn. Last week I rang him because somethimg had happened and it was easier to talk that way, we ended up on the phone for 2 hours after I had asked him what I needed to ask him. That was like the first time we had had a conversation on the phone in 2 years.

Also lately I have had to ring up the hospital were I volunteer to sot out hours, I have had to ring them 3 times in the last week. I have to sit there for 10 mins planning what I am going to say before I call so I don't freeze up and it is awkward.

Once I had to have a phone interveiw. That was terrifyng

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Re: Is This Weird? - August 12th 2009, 09:29 PM

i'm definately the same! I'm not just scared of the silence but that when i ring, someone else will answer the phone and ill presume it's the person i'm trying to ring, and start talking like an idiot. Or that i'll forget what to say or not say what i needed to say and need to ring back. The only person i feel comfortable with ringing is my best friend, although i'm quite nervous because normally her father picks up the phone, i know them well enough to distinguish between their voices and i have a set phrase i say every time one of them answers the phone to avoid embarassment. And when my friend answers it's completely fine because we never really say anything of any importance anyway, just complete nonsense haha. I have to ring the optitions soon because of headaches i've been getting, i've been putting it off for days but im scared haha
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 13th 2009, 01:39 AM

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Re: Is This Weird? - August 13th 2009, 02:00 AM

Oh wow, same issue! xD
I hate it when that happens, so I tend to avoid it by well .. not talking on the phone! :P


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Re: Is This Weird? - August 14th 2009, 06:08 AM

It seems as if we're in good company. Mine's a little worse though, I'm not sure I could talk to someone either in person or over the phone, there's something about being verbal...I just prefer to use text or instant messaging. I think I'm getting a little better at talking to strangers...not so much the people I know.
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 14th 2009, 06:13 AM

Not at all I wouldn't say I'm terrified but I feel the same way
Phone convos are just awkward
   
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 14th 2009, 06:15 PM

I really struggle whenever I have to talk on the phone. I literally panic, clam up and just cannot say anything. I feel so awkward. I don't actually know why, but you're certainly not alone.
   
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 14th 2009, 06:20 PM

A lot of people have "phone phobia" (if I can use that phrase). Awkward silences are never fun to participate it- I totally know how awful it can be. I think the best way to get over this would be to try talking to a really close friend. Close friends are easier to keep the conversation going and you don't need to worry about saying "the wrong thing". But don't worry, this happens to more people than you think =]


   
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 15th 2009, 12:12 AM

It's completely normal, I can only talk to my parents, sis and a certain friend on the phone without awkward silences. Half the time when I end up in an awkward silence with someone I hang up and just say the signal went


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Re: Is This Weird? - August 17th 2009, 05:59 AM

If it's family members or my best friends I can talk to them on the phone. But boyfriends or other friends...it's awkward..... So it's normal :P


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Re: Is This Weird? - August 18th 2009, 12:55 AM

I hate hate hate hate hate talking on the phone. When I was younger it was that bad that if I had to phone someone and they answered, I'd hang up because I was so terrified of speaking. If people phone me I'm alright with it for some weird reason, but I have to know them pretty well otherwise I panic about what to say and don't know what to do.

Now I just won't phone someone unless I really have to. I have to have a reason to phone them, but even then sometimes I won't do it and get someone else to. It's gotten to the point of me shaking and almost crying because someone asked me to call someone else.
   
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 18th 2009, 02:26 AM

nah, ur fine. awkward silences are pretty embarrasing.
   
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 21st 2009, 08:26 AM

That's why I have a NEXTEL
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 23rd 2009, 01:48 AM

I know exactly what you mean!
and its really hard to say it to people cause they think your talking bout them in particular:[
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[quote=IwishIwereaFish;218298]I know exactly what you mean!
and its really hard to say it to people cause they think your talking bout them in particular:[
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 23rd 2009, 02:14 AM

Haha- I actually felt this way for a long time and still probably do, but when a guy friend of mine was having issues we ended up talking for like 45 minutes with no awkward silences or anything- weird, eh? I guess it's just when you or the other person has something important to say, it doesn't matter anymore...? That's the way it was for me...but then again, it's only happened once , so..


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Re: Is This Weird? - August 28th 2009, 07:42 PM

haha, thank you guys (:
i'm able to talk on the phone a little bit now.
only with a couple of my friends though.
other people, no wayyyy!


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Re: Is This Weird? - August 28th 2009, 08:27 PM

Just do what I do
When there's an awkward silence, just make some kind of conspicuous noise or say "mufasa" or something like that!
   
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 28th 2009, 09:43 PM

Certainly not weird, I hate talking to anyone on the phone!
I just never have any clue what to say or when to hang up/finish the conversation or anything and if it's someone I don't know then it's just even worse, especially if the line is bad. Generally I'll avoid talking to anyone on the phone if I can and I never answer my mobile unless it's my parents. I know, it's pretty bad.
   
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Re: Is This Weird? - August 29th 2009, 02:13 AM

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Re: Is This Weird? - September 8th 2009, 12:30 AM

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Just do what I do
When there's an awkward silence, just make some kind of conspicuous noise or say "mufasa" or something like that!

haha, you're so funny!
i like it!
i make weird noises!
like "omhbaghash." i don't know.
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