Why is this so hard for me?

[Rainbow Dash]

Why is just saying hi to a certain person on msn so difficult for me? :/ I haven't talked to him for three years so maybe that's why Does anyone else ever feel like this with certain people online?

[Nicola]

Yeah, there are lots of people on my MSN that I would like to start talking to again but honestly, it's just been so long since we've had any contact that it feels really weird to be talking to them.

[bitesize]

Definitely, it can be kind of hard to...rebreak the ice. Sometimes I just say hi really quickly and then close the conversation and try not to think about it til they reply..

[Skeleton]

It can be hard but I think you should just go for it. If the conversation doesn't go well then at least went for it and found out and if it goes well then that's great. Plus they might even be thinking the same.

[Simplyme7]

I feel that way all the time, I have a hard time starting conversations with a lot of people, but I'm getting better. I guess if you think of it as you haven't talked to them in forever, if anything goes wrong with it then you guys can just back to not talking... you know?

[✿ Orchidaceous]

I'm like that with a lot of people, usually because they scare me or they make me feel uncomfortable.

[Pelios]

I know...I have a hard time with people I haven’t seen in a long time. Is usually goes like this:
Hi
Hi
What’s up long time no see
I know! Nothing just here you?
Same…
(awkward silence)
Logs off

[losing touch.]

yeah i totally understand what you mean. there are certain people i'll sit there thinking 'ahh i want to talk to you -- but i don't want to say hi first!' it's just awkward sometimes. :/

[TheNumber42]

Originally Posted by mexico

I know...I have a hard time with people I haven’t seen in a long time. Is usually goes like this:
Hi
Hi
What’s up long time no see
I know! Nothing just here you?
Same…
(awkward silence)
Logs off

Well, some ideas as to other things you may continue on to say in this situation:

What have you been up to lately?
How has [interest/hobby/job/etc of theirs] been going?
What's new with you lately?

As well as any kind of questions or comments about things you know you both have interest in. For example, if you both like football (american) then you may say "How about them Colts making it to the Super Bowl?" (alright, you don't need to make it sound like the set up for a stand up comedy routine, but you get the idea ).


And hopefully something will allow you to keep the conversation going from there.

[ForeverAutumn*]

I wish I could say I've never had to handle something like this but it's all too familiar.
I've tried getting back in touch with some of the people I used to be very close with, but sometimes when you drift so much, it's hard to get things back to where they were before. Just, too much has happened in between.

[L'espoir]

Yeah i feel like that loads. Sometimes I just sort of say "Heeeeey, we haven't spoke for ages I can't believe it! how are you?" or something like that

[lovely.manifestation]

I used to, and it was because I was convinced that nobody wanted to talk to me... so I wouldn't say anything to most people unless they said hi first. which was really lame, because what if I had something to say? lol, it's nice to have someone IM you, but that goes both ways.

haha I looked back over this, and that was nott the point, clearly ^^

with people i haven't talked to in a while, i ask questions like what's new, what've you been up to, are you still doing this/that, how's so-and-so, la di da. how's this and that (new school, or new job or new anything), and if the convo gets super slow or traffic-jammy, i say 'well, it was nice talking to you again i thought i'd say hi, we haven't seen each other/chatted in ages. i've gotta go for a bit though, so ttyl' which means the convo is over, unless they want to start it up again... and i don't feel like i have to log off or look rude when i end with that xD

[jamesbrookman]

nope online is okay for me but i have problems when i see them in person