what would you say to a younger you?

[Katie Lydia]

what advice would you give to a younger you if you could travel in time?

Mine would be, wait till you lose your virginity as it's one of the biggest mistakes your gonna make and to stay out of everyone elses's dramas and focus on your own.


feel free to move this if this in the wrong section but i couldn't see it fitting anywhere else.

xx

[Dez]

Huh, that's a really good question. I'd probably tell myself to never start cutting, and if it was a REALLY little me I'd tell myself to never put too much pressure on myself over schoolwork.

[ChaosControl]

Stop trying and start living. Real friendships come naturally. They won't happen overnight, just don't try to be someone you're not.

[Eldora]

I'd tell myself to not worry about being who I am -- about getting outside, wearing makeup and still kicking guys' asses and beating them at almost every game. I'd tell myself not to be so sensitive. I'd tell myself to prepare myself for a whole lot of hell in my future, because who I will be and who my parents want me to be and think I am will be two completely different people. Most of all, I'd tell myself to tell the first girl I ever liked that yes, I did like girls -- that way I'd never have to see the hurt on her face.

[Melody Pond]

Depends on what age the past version of me is...

Age 11. Be strong. Ignore the bullies and don't cry so much, it just makes them laugh and bully you more. They are the idiots not you, none of this is your fault. Don't be afraid to talk to Mum she is really good with it, I know her talking to teachers seems like it will make things worse but it helps and some of her advice really helps too so listen to her.
Stick with your true friends, they will always be there for you even when you think they aren't. Also try not to lose touch with your one true friend. She will always be there when you need her and trust me you will need her.

Age 13. Stop trying to change yourself for him, he is not worth it. He is a good friend but nothing more.

Age 15. Enjoy the next 3 years with him. You will love each other so much and you will go through so many experiences and firsts together. It won't last and he will break your heart but that doesn't mean you should change anything. You have an amazing 3 years with each other an no regrets. Also don't worry you get over him but you don't lose him for ever, he will still be there when you need a shoulder to cry on.

Age 17. Drop A Level Maths. You got an E, yes the teachers say it is good and you can pull it up but you can't. We are bad at A Level Maths just face it, accept it and stop wasting your time and effort on it.

Age 18: Well this next year will be a tough one, the toughest we have faced so far really. You will feel like all of your dreams have been crushed in one little hour but it isn't the end of the world. You end up making some amazing friends, you will also start enjoying learning again and you will do so much better. Also will everything that happens in this year Uni would have been impossible for us to cope with so it works out for the best.
This year you will also suffer a lot of loss, you will lose 2 amazing people that you love. You will also feel like you have lost the love of your life but remember what I said at 15 though, he will always be there if you need him.
It is going to take a long time to get over your two true losses but you will get there. It will bring everyone closer together and you will learn to tell people you love them while you have the chance.
This next year is so difficult and you suffer a lot of heart break but you make it and at the end of the year you will be surprised you are still alive after everything you have been through but it makes you so much stronger and it makes you so determined to achieve anything you want and I believe you will do that because of who you become. Stay as positive as you can in these hard times and don't be afraid to tell people how you are feeling, keeping it bottled up hurts.



Wow, that was like therapy of something, sorry for the length of it.
I know some of it sounds crazy but I just started writing and it poured out of me so easily and it is what I honestly feel. I am tempted to delete this all now because it sounds stupid

[ReluctantPegasister]

Middle school: your parents don't know everything.
High school: don't even bother dating.

[Jocelyn.]

Stop rushing in to everything. Enjoy being young, and stop trying to grow up so damn fast. Being older is not all its cracked up to be.

[Unicorn ♥✿]

Don't let the buggers get you down x WHO CARES WHAT THEY THINK, DON'T FOLLOW YOU 'MATES' TRENDS. BE WHO YOU WANT TO BE NOW!

This is what I would say to a 13 to 15 me I am finally my own peoson, out with the skinny jeans, inwith the floral skirts

Tomboy was NOT my style

[QuantumModulus]

Nothing resembling "advice" whatsoever. Knowing how I used to be, I'd probably just get into a conversation with myself about something related to science or something academic...in fact, I'd be far more interested in hearing what the younger version of myself would say to me...

Mistakes and hardships that I've had to suffer through in my life have caused me to become the person I am today...and even though I still have problems, as does everyone else, I don't think I'd ever want to change myself on such a profound level. Anything I could advise myself to avoid, to make my life easier, has only made me stronger in the end.

[chook14]

I'd tell myself to be more confident and less dramatic...and that it's all going to be ok

[NyanNyan]

Whatever I say will probably be edited out for being ED triggering but the second piece of advice is DON'T LET "MARIO" FIND OUT!!!

[xx little miss clumsy xx]

Dont worry so much about things, those things wont matter so much in x amount of years. Be confident in your own ability. Dont let the rumours upset you, you know they arent true and thats all that matters.

[Reverie.]

Don't lose yourself. one day you're gonna' look back and wish you had the confidence now because you are beautiful. Don't let yourself go, you'll regret it and it's gonna' lead you into all kinds of problems.

[Cabron]

Stay away from boys.

[Justin Bieber]

Don't. Date. Him.

[GoneBeyondRepair]

trust your instincts. FEEL NOTHING. er.. for him.

[moyshi239]

It's okay to ask for help.

[blumemusik♫]

Don't bother with guys. They're really not worth the effort. Don't force yourself to change.

Don't do all the bad things that you started aged 12. Just, please don't.

Don't try and grow up so fast.

[Snufkin]

Cut your hair.

Edit: This was my 1,000th post. Glad it was so special...

[Coal]

Don't be so curious. A lot of times, things you thought were amazing and magical will turn out to be pretenses or just general disappointments.

[DollFace]

knowing younger me, whatever i say wouldnt make a difference ...
so i would just hug younger me :P

[Kate*]

Age 7-8 Mom and dad divorced and you're moving, you'll only see dad once every 6 months now, but don't be afraid to let him know how you feel. He can handle you yelling at him and you'll thank me for it later. Also, everyone seems to be moving this year, but don't run in aunt Mary's new basement, trust me, just don't do it.

Miss(3rd grade teachers last name) is not being a good person to you and it isn't your fault. You are being emotionally abused by her, don't let it affect you for the next 15 years like I did. Aside from her you will have a lot of gym teachers and adults tell you that you aren't good enough. Your best is good enough.

December of 1999 You'll start your first period on the 23rd while you're with Dad, I know it seems like it's too early, but BRING a lot of PADS you'll need them. Actually, bring them every time he comes from now on, you'll need them more often than not.

Age 12: Mental illness runs rampant on Dad's side of the family and depression and suicidal thoughts are coming next year and they will stay with you for a long time, It's ok to tell someone when and if they ask it might scare them and you, but it's worth it.

Age13: Granddad will die this year, (and you will somehow predict this and other deaths that follow it). even though I know you won't expect him to and Mom will yell at you because she's grieving. I know it hurts, but don't hold it against her, she isn't herself. As much as you love Grammy she will never be the same and there will be times you'll just want to scream. The extended family will start to crumble, I'm sorry. Death does that sometimes.

Dad will be remarried soon, don't worry it won't last very long, I know it feels like you don't fit and it's ok. I think it's because they have a problem with Dad more than you.

It suddenly seems like you can do no right in Dad's eyes no matter how hard you try it seems like you can't even exist correctly. This will continue for years. I don't know why he was like that, but he doesn't mean it and it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. The depression may have something to do with this.

Age 14: I know (boy's name) is extremely nice and that he's flirting with you, but he has a girlfriend that he assumes you already know about. You will be good friends though, and it might stay that way. Let the way he treats you be your stadard for future boyfriends (and yes Uncle Joe and everyone else will tease you because they will think you like him that way, it's only because they know it gets to you).

15 1/2-16 Your vision will keep you from a driver's license worth using so save yourself the time, aggrivation and money and just get a state ID instead. You'll get a lot of grief for this, but they just don't understand

When you meet Brian for the first time you will predict his suicide and it will scare you, TELL DAD, trust me just do it.

Grandma will be leaving you soon and you'll see it coming too, know that she loved you and don't worry about "needing things" at her funeral, I know it will feel like you're on your own here, but it's ok to need someone even if there's no one there.

When the high school offers Post secondary option at (community college name) TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT it will save you a ton of time and money.

Age 17: You will decide to be a counselor this year as opposed to a pediatrician so don't apply to schools with an inteded major of pre-med, Major in something other than or in addition to psychology and DON'T GO TO (school name).

Age 18: Sam will die next year I know you care about him, you will see it coming and there's nothing you can do.

Any age: 2010 will be the worst year of your life from beginning to end(but maybe if some of this had changed it wouldn't be so bad) You will make it through ok, but you will have every emotion there is and it will hurt like hell. There isn't much you can do, so this is just to prepare you for it. By the way the application deadline for graduate school is JANUARY not March or April like you think it is.

The only good thing is that Dad will get married again and you'll like her and her family A LOT better.
When you meet Master Mike (if that still would've happened) There is no need to be afraid of him and he will know you're scared of him the whole time and he will feel bad. Thank him. You'll understand why later.

So, mine were mostly warnings about things that I couldn't change and what to do about the few things I could change instead of what I did. (sorry didn't mean that to be so long.

[Pelios]

Listen to your parents.

[Brandon]

Damn, if I was gay and your age, I'd totally fuck you.

[Magical Forest.]

Wow there could be a lot of things that I could say to different ages of me.

11- Don't deny who you are just to fit in, it doesn't work. Be who you want to be.

12- If you start to self harm, it's going to completely ruin your life and will become an addiction. Pain is not worth it. You are special.

16- Don't go to that party.

18- I know you're struggling, but everything will be okay.

and most importantly...
6- Don't let what they say get to you. They are nasty and twisted. Don't believe them, you have done absolutely nothing wrong. You are loved, you are worth something. Tell someone, they may be able to stop it before it tears you apart.

[Soliloquy]

Originally Posted by QuantumModulus

Mistakes and hardships that I've had to suffer through in my life have caused me to become the person I am today...and even though I still have problems, as does everyone else, I don't think I'd ever want to change myself on such a profound level. Anything I could advise myself to avoid, to make my life easier, has only made me stronger in the end.

I agree with this. So I wouldn't really want to advise myself on anything. Instead I'd just say (almost in response to a thread we had a while back entitled "What would your younger self think of you now?"), "I know we've been through a lot and I'm sorry we've had to endure so much hardship. But I'm doing my best to work through it, and I'll emerge a better person because of it. I'll always remember you and keep you close to my heart, for no child, even a younger version of myself, should ever have to go through that much pain. And I know you don't want to see me suffering now."

[Tara.]

Be closer with your family, they're all you've got. <3

[Nicole!]

I would tell myself to listen to my heart and that even though saying goodbye is hard, sometimes you just have to do it. Sometimes moving on with the rest of your life starts with goodbye.

[Discombobulated]

I don't know if i would say a lot because everything i have done and all the mistakes i have made have helped to build me as a person.
But if i was going to say something i would tell myself to stay strong and hang in there because everything will be okay in the end, if it's not okay it's not the end.

[alliannasmomma5]

age 10: DON'T go to that party wit our cousin, it will ruin your life, don't start cutting, it will make you miserable and will leave nasty scars.
age 11: trust him, he is the one for you. he will protect you from all the hurt he possibly can. he is your best friend and the love of your life.
age 14: sadly you have to get ready to say goodbye to him. sit with him during chemo and make funny jokes to keep his spirits up.
age 16: don't be so scared to be with him, its his last wish before saying goodbye. make it the most amazing night for him. he deserves it.
age 17: the love of your life dies of Leukemia. but he left you with the best present a girl could receive after losing a boyfriend and you name her Allianna and your whole world revolves around her. you spoil her every chance you get. dont lose yourself in your depression. trust your friends. they lead you in the right direction. believe in yourself and trust that you will eventually find happiness and that good things come to those who wait.

[Magic.]

He is not worth it, he treats you like cr*p, believe me there is someone a million times better in your future.

Wait it out, choose the other school transfer, you'll meet the love of your life there and he'll treat you like a goddam princess.

Stop trying to please them, they will never change, but you will go much further than them. Just be yourself, you'll regret it if you don't.

Mum overreacts to everything - don't react to her it only makes things worse.

Tell dad how much you need him to be there for you, all the things you want him to see while you and your siblings are growing up, and how much it would mean if he stopped smoking. It'll work better than anything else you could dream of trying.

Quit being so goddam SHY!!!

He still loves you!! Just freaking tell him, he's too scared. But you tell him and he'll be yours again in a snap.

Keep up drama, go for the big roles, you can do it!

[drifter]

( to me at 11yr ) Don't lay there and take his abuse. I know he is your dad, but you do not deserve his abuse nor is it your fault for what he does. Tell mom, tell someone. Not only will you help youself, you will stop him from abusing your little sister too in 3 years.

[Le bonheur*]

Age 4: Mom and dad are getting a divorce. I know you saw all the abuse but don't let it affect you for your whole life.
Age 6: Mom met a new guy. He's going to abuse you. Tell Mom before it's too late.
Age 10: You're going to be raped and sexually abused. Tell someone before it continues for too long. Your Mem's going to pass away from complications of pneumonia. Your mother is going to fall apart...
Age 12: Mom finds out about you being abused. AND you start cutting. Please don't. It'll ruin your life.. Mom sends you to live with Dad who you haven't seen in 6 years. First suicide attempt.
Age 14: You're starting high school. You're going to meet an amazing boy. Mom's getting married to an alcoholic. You're still cutting. You're starving yourself. Please don't do this. You're just going to make yourself feel worse in the end.
Age 15: You will be emotionally and sexually abused by that "amazing boy". You fall pregnant and miscarry at 8 weeks. You dream the baby was a girl. You name her Emmalin Madisyn. That boy blames you.. Cutting goes to a high point.
Age 16: Cutting continues and you finally get caught. You get sent to the hospital where all the cutters go... 6 days after your "sweet 16". In March, you'll finally rid of the abusive boy. Even though he stalks you and your family to this day; you finally have no contact with him.
Age 17: After 6 different relationships, you find the one who loves you for who you are. You graduate high school. You feel invincible.
2011: You fall pregnant again. This time, the baby is wanted. You miscarry at 9 weeks. You dream that the baby was a boy. You name him Kaiden David... You drop out of college before it starts.. You are jobless. You are depressed. You are cutting again. You NEED to believe in yourself.

I guess these are just things that happened in my life that I wish I could tell myself to stop. Get help sooner. And be happy. I wish I could take back everything that was bad, and do something good with my life... but I just... can't.

[bitesize]

14. Do NOT leave your diary in the kitchen.

15. Get help darling, because you will feel so much better when you do.

16. Take those extra hours that you're offered...more money!! AUDITION for that film, those chances NEVER come around, and the title is the same as your name ~ has to be a sign, right?? Silly. Tell the guy that he's being too clingy, don't put up with his hours-long whiny phonecalls because you're too nice. Break up with him and give him closure. Don't slut around too much, especially with the St. Andrew's guys...you end up getting a name for yourself. Audition for Macbeth, it'll be worth it.

17. That guy is bad news and you will not change him. The only thing you'll learn from him is not to trust too easily. DON'T give his best friend head, you'll feel like a whore when he never gets in touch again. WORK harder, it'll make the Leaving Cert a LOT easier.

18. Cheat on him. Cheat on him AGAIN. Cheat with her as much as you like, in fact dump him and go out with her, she's much better for you. He's a cunt, and you give this relationship a lot more effort than you should. He's going to screw you up. Ignore him and study for your fucking exams.
DON'T PUT ARTS ON YOUR CAO, put PSYCHOLOGY, because THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT TO DO, although you won't figure that out until you're nearly twenty and it's too late.
Make the most of your friendship with Jamie while you have him, because a year from now he'll suddenly decide he doesn't want to be friends anymore. Not your fault, you did nothing.
Meg is a lesbian.
Congratulations on stepping away from cutting ~ who cares if you were manipulated into it, it gets easier as you go on and you're only going to have one slip-up in the next two years. I'm so, so proud of you. (:
Don't worry about going on AD's, they do a lot for you.
HAVE FUN. YES that break-up is imminent but the months following it are the most fun you've had, enjoy them.

19. Enjoy the sex, but don't lead him on too much. And break things off with him as soon as you meet that special person you're going to start seeing in February, because he's an absolute catch, and you're going to fall in love with him. Good job on taking things slowly with him, it's worth it. Don't rub your past relationships in his face because he's sensitive. Don't tell him your 'number'.
Getting that place in psychology is fantastic, but it is going to be a little bit lonely. Don't let that deter you.
That theatre company is a waste of money and is not going to work out. Spend your money on better oppurtunities.
The low period from August to November is shit. It's shit, I won't lie. But you're going to be fine. You're gonig to get through it without any outside help because you're a tough cookie and things will start picking up in the New Year. You can trust him, he won't judge you. Speak more to that shy dark haired girl in Italian grammar because she's a ledge. Study for psycholinguistics!!

20. I'm still twenty now, so I'll come back to this when I'm twenty one.

[Sea Monkey]

- Don't ever feel bad for leaving your old home
- Ignore all the people who are nasty enough to give you rubbish and don't care what others' think of you.
- Be yourself and not someone they want you to be.
- Keep up with singing and drama regardless of what they all think, it's what you're good at.

[Liz94]

- That it is Ok to be a lesbian and accept it.
- You don't have to be so stubun as it is ok to be wrong sometimes
- Don't stratch yourself it will start you down a very dark and difficult road of recovery from an addiction
- You dont have to be the loud class clown.
- Talk to mum...she can help....don't bottle things up

[sassygurlone]

age 4-10: tell someone about what grandma's boyfriend is doing to you. When they don't listen tell someone else. Keep telling until someone listens. If you don't it's going to continue until you turn 13.

age 12: Put down that razor blade. Self-harming becomes a terrible addiction for you and soon takes over your life. That first cut leads to over a thousand more. This year you are going to go into a life long depression, many other lifelong mental disorders creep up also. You don't yet realize what this means but these things lead to 20 suicide attempts in the next 8 years that so far hasn't worked or in some cases people find you and "save" you.

Age 13: Your step-dad is going to get the most abusive he has ever been. He is going to try to kill you and your brother the day before your baby sister's first birthday party. The cops aren't going to try to stop it, infact they are going to take an hour to get to the house and won't even have their lights on.
Mom starts playing bingo and you become the parent in your family.
Dad's drug addiction is getting worse and worse. At this point he loves the drugs more than you and your siblings but eventually he does get sober, and tries to be a dad again. Unfortuneately that doesn't happen until after you are in foster care.

Age 14-15: Someone finanlly listens to you...everyone finds out about what your gmas boyfriend did. Everyone in your family except your parents and your siblings turn against you. It seems like it's your fault but it's not. You are doing the right thing, you are telling the truth.

Age 15: Everything goes downhill. People are either going to forget you exist or treat you like a piece of shit, which is only going to worsen your depression.

Age 16: You get put into foster care. Yes, kiddo, you are going to make it to 16! You also are going to spend the 5 years in and out of psych hospitals, residential treatment centers, foster homes and a group home. You are going to meet a therapist at a residential treatment center that you will never forget, her name is Ms. Peg.
Mommy is going to overdose on Oxycontin on January 4th, 2007. I know that you will be in foster care but you have to tell someone, you have to stop her.

Age 17: You are going to graduate from high school, six months early. Everyone is going to be so proud of you. You need to be proud of your self too. You're going to move into a group home where you meet two of your best friends.
You are also going to go through the trial with gmas boyfriend. Do NOT mention that they forced you to take a lie detectors test (which you passed), if you do they will declare a mistrial and you will have to do another trial. Tell EVERYTHING. I know it will be scary to tell people and he will be watching you but you have to get him put away so he can't hurt anymore little girls.
You are going to get into your first choice college. Do your hardest! You are going to fail Biology 100 if you don't use the tutors that are available.

In general: When you feel like you are drowning in your depression kick all you can to get to the surface.

[♥ Choir. ♥]

Age 6: I know that you're too young to understand, but Baily is going to leave your life for a few years. Next time you see her she is going to be one of the meanest people you know. She will talk about your friends in front of you. You will hate her next time you see her.
Age 8: Don't worry about those auditions, no more tears because you're scared of failure. Little girl, you're going to make it. And when you're fourteen you're going to be in the best choir. I promise.
Age 9: Don't talk to Antonio, you're going to fall into a huge crush, you will be the laughing stock of the fourth grade. Even worse, when you're fourteen you're going to miss him even though you're dating someone.
Age 10: I know she only hit you once, but you need to make her stop. If you don't, this is going to continue until you're almost fourteen.
Age 11: If you don't put that box cutter away you're going to develop an addiction. Bethany is going to backstab you in just two years. Wait and see little sixth grader, you'll realize I'm right.
Age 12: Don't leave that note at school. It's going to be found and traced to you. Mom and dad are called into the school and you're questioned. No one believes your lies. Mom almost makes you quit choir.
Age 13: Bethany is going to hurt you so bad you'll want to die. You're going to do the worst cutting you ever have before. You're going to develop an eating disorder. You're going to yell at Kristy. You're going to start protecting yourself.

[Alaska]

Forgive yourself...It wasn't your fault. :\

[Audacious]

You are a good girl, and nobody should have touched you. It wasn't your fault, and I don't want you to cut, even tho avvy does. Don't follow her, don't be curious, don't try it. October 6th, 2006, 4:30, don't go downstairs. Just don't do it, because you will never go back up.