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Why Me? Here is a safe space to let it all out, where you can rant about all the bad things life throws your way. Sometimes it just helps to ask "why me?"

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F**k slim fit (2) - July 16th 2017, 07:05 PM

Other thread timed out... so feel free to merge with this one.

I think I've figured it out why I can easily get pissed off at things like that failed shopping trip.

I have a utilitarian mindset. I've known this for a while, although I underestimated just how much it drives my thoughts and actions.

It means I value things for what I get in return for them ("things" include money).
Wastefulness and inefficiency annoy me almost invariably.

With that said, I value time even more than I value money. So I tend not to spend 3 hours looking for something "cheaper" online if I estimate that I only stand to save 10 this way.

But if I spend 6 hours looking for something in shops, and get nothing in return... I feel, in a sense, ripped off and cheated for wasting my time. I also tend not to regard shopping as a "recreational activity" like some people do. Some people are perfectly happy to just spend a whole day at the mall, by themselves, or with someone, just for the sake of it.

Not my thing. I do shopping, only to get it over and done with and move on. Like washing dishes. Spending 2 hours shopping before I find a shirt that I like that also fits me... to me is like spending 2 hours washing a frying pan, minus the sore fingers and peeling skin.

My idea of "recreation" is to really get away from everything altogether. Gtfo of town or something, meet new people, etc. It's the only effective way I've found to break out of this mentality. Visiting the same places near me too many times bores me too much for me to enjoy myself. It's a chore, almost depressing, makes me irritable, asocial, etc. I've known this for a while already that I can't settle down in one place too long before I start feeling stagnant and anxious because of it.

Also, when it comes to coexisting with other people, I often have trouble because of this. Most people are not very "linear" in the way they think. They're not "goal oriented". Most have messy lifestyles, and drift from one thing to the next and usually don't even ask themselves why. They waste their own time, starting things and most of the time never finishing them.

That's all fine. Their life, and provided they are reasonably happy with their own life, there is no reason to criticize. And it's not my place to.

But like I said, when I have to coexist with someone like that and their fleeting lifestyle... it irritates me. Irritates me when someone expects a "favor" from me, such as to do a 1 hour round trip (or even just 15 minutes) just to buy them a spare light bulb, when they could just wait a day or two until we go to do some larger shopping. It just strikes me as illogical, especially when other lights still work in the house and you can use a freestanding one to compensate, or even just swap bulbs in the meantime.

It's little things like that, that can cumulatively drive me nuts with some people. And it doesn't take long. Little bits, here and there, pedantic perfectionism that doesn't yield any practical use whatsoever, etc... all adds up to wasted time and energy, and it bugs me like ants crawling under my skin. It's not that I "don't like helping people", because I actually do like helping. I don't like stupidity.


"I don't care about politics"
Then politics doesn't care about you either. Truth. You've got to make your voice heard, if you want to be listened to. But that's too logical for some people, so let me go a step further. Not making your voice heard, leaves other people free to hijack it by speaking on your behalf, even if they don't actually give a shit about you. That's politics. So, make your voice heard. That's not a quote from anywhere. That's just me.

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