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Why Me? Here is a safe space to let it all out, where you can rant about all the bad things life throws your way. Sometimes it just helps to ask "why me?"

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Struggling with peer pressure and the outside world. - July 30th 2017, 11:50 PM

I've been thinking more and more about getting rid of my FB. I don't like it. Everytime I get on it, I see things that make me uncomfortable, things that make me anxious or upset. With that being said, it's not just what people on my friends list post, it's the ads, 'trending' things that pop up, ect. I've thought about it before, and I don't really need a FB. I use it to contact some of my family/friends that live far away, but overall, it's not like I really enjoy using it. I do like my Instagram however, and plan on keeping it. I'll have a way to contact my friends/family that have an Instagram account, and I have email, and I can always text and call. However, I've been struggling with the idea. My Dad has kinda made me feel guilty for getting rid of it, saying that he enjoys being able to share things with me on there, and enjoys my daily updates.

While I can still get links for things without a FB account, and while I can still text him and update him, he has made this seem like a bigger deal than what it really is. I have no idea how to handle that, or what to do about it. I don't want to make anyone upset, but I just really hate having a FB. I feel so pressured to check my messages and to post things on there, and while that may seem silly, it's just how I feel. I'd love to leave the site.

I just really don't want to make anyone upset about the whole ordeal. I just wished more of my friends/family were supportive about all of this. I'd feel a lot better about it, and it wouldn't make me so sad. I've been trying my best to just push through this, and move forward with it, but again, I just end up feeling so guilty about everything and then I end up changing my mind.

Anyway, just wanted to rant it out. Thanks for letting me.


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Re: Struggling with peer pressure and the outside world. - July 31st 2017, 09:53 AM

I can understand not wanting to upset your dad, but honestly, I think you should follow your gut. It is ultimately their choice as to whether they decide to make a big deal out of it or not and you don't deserve to take their crap simply because you aren't into it. I don't use anything like Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter or Instagram simply because I dislike them and/or have no use for them. I'm also able to contact friends and family just fine on the phone and it actually interferes far less with my life the less social media accounts I have. Maybe you could suggest another way you can spend time together? Or maybe explain your point of view the same you did to us, unless you've tried that already. Maybe even a compromise if his behaviour becomes a bit too overwhelming. Really, you shouldn't have to feel guilty over something like this and I'm sure a little more disappointment won't kill him, seeing as he's survived up to this point. It may also be an idea to ask why it upsets him so much when you're getting rid of it simply because its content discomforts you.


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Re: Struggling with peer pressure and the outside world. - July 31st 2017, 12:18 PM

Hey Lawson,

I think you should just delete FB if you think it will be better for you personally. Social media doesn't really play a positive role in most people's lives nowadays, and even when it does, it's overshadowed by all the low self esteem that it can help create. Your dad will get over it eventually - he just personally doesn't understand you and how social media is affecting you. If you're really concerned about how he feels about it, talk to him about how social media pressurises you and how it makes you feel. If he loves you, he will understand - though whether that is now or later depends on him.

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Re: Struggling with peer pressure and the outside world. - August 2nd 2017, 07:39 PM

Thanks, guys.


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