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Disappointment after disappointment. - August 28th 2019, 08:49 AM

To continue on from this post http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f31-why-me/t159181-taking-too-much/, I went for an interview on Monday straight after work for a Duty Manager position at a local bar/pub. From what I gathered, the Venue Manager who was interviewing me was offering me the job because she said (and I quote) "Speak to your partner about how he feels you doing late nights, get back to me and we'll go from there. We can organise for you to come in one night for a trial". I know she didn't exactly say that I got the job but I stupidly took it as she did. I sent her an email yesterday saying that I would like to accept the offer but than she replied back this morning saying she has more people to interview. I just felt so stupid and disappointed.


   
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Re: Disappointment after disappointment. - August 30th 2019, 05:05 PM

Hello,

I am so sorry about this and I hope that you will be okay soon. When we are going for a job we are happy and we really want to get it and do our best when we are talking to them. I'm sorry about how she was with you and how she did not come out and say that you do not have the job. Please do not beat yourself up over this, you are a lovely person. And if you do not get this spot would you be able to try another job, something else that you enjoy doing?

Would you be able to talk to someone about how you are feeling? So that you are not keeping it all to yourself. Sometimes when we are keeping something's to ourselves it will just keep bringing us down, when we are able to talk about this to our family or friends or who we are with, then they will be able to help us out and we can get how we are feeling out of us.

Would you be able to make a list of things that you enjoy doing or what you would like to try and see who around you is looking for someone and see if you can go and talk to them about that job.

Try doing something to get you're mind off of this if you can, going for a walk or putting on music or funny TV shows or movies or reading or drawing or writing or something else that you enjoy doing.

I wish you the best and hope that you will be okay soon. Sending you hugs.


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Re: Disappointment after disappointment. - September 2nd 2019, 08:42 AM

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Hello,

I am so sorry about this and I hope that you will be okay soon. When we are going for a job we are happy and we really want to get it and do our best when we are talking to them. I'm sorry about how she was with you and how she did not come out and say that you do not have the job. Please do not beat yourself up over this, you are a lovely person. And if you do not get this spot would you be able to try another job, something else that you enjoy doing?

Would you be able to talk to someone about how you are feeling? So that you are not keeping it all to yourself. Sometimes when we are keeping something's to ourselves it will just keep bringing us down, when we are able to talk about this to our family or friends or who we are with, then they will be able to help us out and we can get how we are feeling out of us.

Would you be able to make a list of things that you enjoy doing or what you would like to try and see who around you is looking for someone and see if you can go and talk to them about that job.

Try doing something to get you're mind off of this if you can, going for a walk or putting on music or funny TV shows or movies or reading or drawing or writing or something else that you enjoy doing.

I wish you the best and hope that you will be okay soon. Sending you hugs.
Thank you for your reply.

I have been looking after myself a lot more but I just feel frustrated about not wanting to be where I would like to be career wise.

I'll just keep trying though.


   
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Re: Disappointment after disappointment. - September 5th 2019, 10:53 AM

You're not stupid. If I had been in your position, I would've thought the same thing too as it sounds like she was willing to give you a trial which could've potentially turned into you getting the job. Though if she is interviewing other people, maybe she is willing to give you and a few others a trial and then she can decide who to hire? It sounds rather confusing as it doesn't seem like she out right rejected you but then she hasn't offered you the job either. She should've made things more clear to you.


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Re: Disappointment after disappointment. - September 7th 2019, 04:47 AM

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You're not stupid. If I had been in your position, I would've thought the same thing too as it sounds like she was willing to give you a trial which could've potentially turned into you getting the job. Though if she is interviewing other people, maybe she is willing to give you and a few others a trial and then she can decide who to hire? It sounds rather confusing as it doesn't seem like she out right rejected you but then she hasn't offered you the job either. She should've made things more clear to you.
I should of been more clear with her to and asked her if she was offering me the job before I left. But she hasn't gotten back to me so I'm assuming I've blown it after my email I sent her where I presumed she was offering me the job.


   
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Re: Disappointment after disappointment. - September 8th 2019, 08:01 PM

Try not to beat yourself up. Sounds like it was miscommunication on both sides. You might not have blown it entirely, but even if that was the case you can use this experience to learn from it. Really hope you find a suitable job soon


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Re: Disappointment after disappointment. - September 10th 2019, 08:05 AM

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Try not to beat yourself up. Sounds like it was miscommunication on both sides. You might not have blown it entirely, but even if that was the case you can use this experience to learn from it. Really hope you find a suitable job soon
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Re: Disappointment after disappointment. - September 12th 2019, 11:47 AM

To be honest, with the way she'd worded it, it sounded like she was offering you the chance to prove yourself. It didn't seem like she made things clear on the fact she still had more people to interview. Don't blame yourself. If I were in your position I'd have felt a little annoyed she lead me to believe I was being given the opportunity to prove myself at the job when that wasn't the case.


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Re: Disappointment after disappointment. - September 13th 2019, 08:51 AM

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To be honest, with the way she'd worded it, it sounded like she was offering you the chance to prove yourself. It didn't seem like she made things clear on the fact she still had more people to interview. Don't blame yourself. If I were in your position I'd have felt a little annoyed she lead me to believe I was being given the opportunity to prove myself at the job when that wasn't the case.
I was SO annoyed and frustrated because it's so hard getting a good job these days. I still haven't heard anything from her and I haven't chased her either.


   
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