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Rivière February 27th 2020 02:04 PM

And again...
I had a good Tuesday. I interacted with a lot of gym members and had a good few laughs. Helped people at the gym when needed and was generally social. Only... I'd had 4 cups of coffee. I couldn't sleep and had to get up at 4 AM the next morning so my uncle could take me to work, since he was working early too.

That day was also going well. I was chatting to people here and there, giving smiles and happy nods. It was a quiet shift so there weren't too many people. Despite my tiredness I felt ok. Right up until the manager decided to become difficult.

He took me into the office and sat me down right in front of the office entrance, so it was already difficult to concentrate on what he was saying when there was a lot of music from the gym floor playing behind me. He was trying to give me advice again about talking to people (at this point he just tries to force me to do this the way he wants over and over) and the conversation was mostly him talking and me listening. At one point I was just sat quietly nodding to him trying to soak up the information he was giving me, when out of the blue he was like, 'That's a sarcastic nod.' I looked at him in shock and surprise. He repeated himself... 'That's a sarcastic nod.'. I said to him I was trying to absorb what he was saying to me, and shortly after the conversation ended.

I was really wound up from his behaviour. What exactly is a sarcastic nod? How does one translate conversation tone and words into a slow, nodding movement with retained eye contact and determine it to be 'sarcastic'?

Already I have a poor opinion of him. Shortly after I first started, I already wasn't too keen on him, but when I was sat in the staffroom and he came in, then instantly told another PT, 'I had a right mong earlier...' and started telling them about how some girl was so bad at weights and trying to do anything he instructed, then finished his speech to the PT with, 'Why are you even in the gym you retard?'.

I wish I'd recorded that so I could sent it off to higher management. He is such a bad manager. Imagine if someone heard him talk like that? Imagine if it was that girl? I bet she wouldn't ever want to come back.

Today things just piled up on me. I got to the gym early again. Did my workout. Sat at the kiosk desk near the entrance for a bit, and then started to feel 'the' pain. I knew my period had started and I started feeling very drained. Thankfully I had sanitary products, but nothing for the pain. I was going to try and push through it but things just kept piling up.

I had an email that my business card order got delayed because the images and text were blurry. I've already had to wait 2 months to be able to afford them as is and then that happened when I finally could. Then I got an email about 45 minutes later from a girl whom I've been having consultations and chats with as she's a potential client. She was asking if I would be in today at around 2:30 PM... but I was already feeling unwell and even if I did stay, I was set to go home at 2:30 PM as my uncle was picking me up. I had to inform her I'm unavailable today but will be around tomorrow from 2:30 until 4 PM. I knew I'd lost her as a potential client the moment she asked me if there will be any other PT's available instead. I politely let her know that management will be in the office.... but there went that.

I ended up coming home because the manager was in. I wasn't in the mood for his behaviour. He already was showing signs of being an a-hole when he was pretending to kick me whilst walking past me on the gym floor. I just didn't want to deal with him on top of everything else. If I'd stayed I knew I'd probably have said something bad to him that could get me in trouble and ruin my chances.

Wheek! March 1st 2020 04:56 AM

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Yeah, your manager is definitely the problem here and not you. There are some people that shouldn't be in a job where they're helping and/or leading other people, and he seems to bet one of them.

Oof, to the period though. :/ It sucks when you don't have anything for the pain. Maybe put some painkillers in your purse for next time? I carry Naproxen around with me anywhere I go just because I also get a lot of headaches, so it may come in handy anyway. If you can't do that I understand though!

I'm sorry about the client as well. You couldn't help that you weren't feeling well or had to leave. But I bet you'll get the next one!!

Rivière March 1st 2020 11:48 AM

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Thanks Dez. I'm just glad he's leaving after 1 more week.

Another incident occurred on Friday when I needed a whiteboard marker from the office. I asked, 'Can I have a board marker?'. He looked at me and said, 'Please..'. I smiled and repeated myself as at first I was having a joke, but then things quickly turned sour. He looked at me and said, 'Can I have a board marker, PLEASE...' He kept doing it a couple more times until the assistant manager tried to lighten the mood and asked if I dislike being polite, I make a joke with her and said no, but caved and said please to the manager because it was clear he was getting really angry. His face was getting so red, his eyes were widening. He looked like he was about to smash a car... all because I didn't say please.This guy is younger than I am too. Only by a year... but still.

That same day I sat in the staff room and another PT came in who's really nice and I pretty much got upset right in front of her. I told her everything that was going on. She asked if I'd told the assistant manager though wasn't sure there as much point since he's leaving in 1 more week. She also said that she thinks he's becoming unpleasant more now because he's leaving and he's started getting a bit iffy with her. She reminded me that he's here for just 1 more week and to try and hold on until then but to definitely speak to the assistant manager if things continue.

I will try and find time next week to apologise to the assistant manager properly. She's actually the complete opposite of the manager. Everyone likes her. She's really approachable and is always having a joke and a laugh. I don't want her to think I'm some kind of rude person when really my behaviour was in response to his.

Golfing girl March 1st 2020 11:35 PM

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I hope that you are doing a little bit better now and I am so sorry about all of this that has happened to you.

Sometimes when we are working with others we may not always get along with them because of how they acting and it does not matter if they do the same job or they are doing a different job or they are the manager or owner. They sometimes think that they are better than us or if they mess up on something they like to try and put it on someone so that they are not getting into trouble. That is not okay to do.

When things are happening like this or something is going wrong, try you're best to walk away if you can and try to find something to get you're mind off of this until you are doing okay. Taking a walk around the building inside or if you can put on you're headphones or earbuds and listen to one song or draw on paper for a few minutes or something else that you enjoy doing that can help you out for a while.

When you are not feeling well it is hard to work or focus on what you are doing. If you can try to have a small bag on you or in you're car and have tylenol or something else in this that you can take to help you out for a while. I hope that you will be okay soon. Sending you lots of hugs to help.

Dusk. March 2nd 2020 03:15 AM

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Hi there,

I'm so sorry to hear that you have to deal with him. He definitely sounds like a bad manager. I agree with speaking to someone who is high up about your dealings with him, even though he is only there for one more week. No-one should have to deal with that.

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