Epic Mixed Signals..

[dancinfool]

Right this is just going to be a rant, so please excuse me :P
I went to a 21st last night, with loads of people from uni. There's a guy in the year above who I've always had a bit of a thing for but never did anything because a) he has a bit of a reputation (as in he's slept with quite a few girls in college) and b) I didn't think he liked me at all.
Yesterday we were dancing, flirting, ended up kissing (neither of us were that drunk). We went outside and talked for ages, about loads of random stuff. None of it particularly relevant to this rant but it felt like we clicked. I even asked him if it was just a drunk thing and he was like 'only in the sense I wouldn't have the balls to hit on you otherwise'. He was generally very complimentary.. and said something along the lines of 'oh you're going to sober up in the morning and be like, why would I do this' and I assured him this was not the case. He asked me out for a drink on monday (tomorrow) and when i was like 'i'm not good at dates' he said 'its not a date, ok maybe it is'. Shortly after we went back in to join the party..
So at this point, all good! I do actually quite like this guy..

Then a couple of hours later, I'm dancing with my friends and he comes up and asks me to talk. He says that he's sorry but he's 'head over heels' for someone else and its not fair on me to pretend otherwise. He also said things like 'you can do better, I'm a rubbish boyfriend, ask my ex' which was sort of like being dumped before the first date.. ridiculous! I acted very cool, said it was fine, but did end up sort of avoiding him for the rest of the evening. Probably a good plan as he later kissed another girl (who may or may not have been the girl he was talking about >.>)

So now I'm in a bit of a mess. Its clearly never going to happen between us but the hour or so we spent talking (and to be honest, kissing) didn't really help with not liking him. Epic mixed signals! And I have to see him around, I don't know how this is going to be not awkward. I'm just glad I didn't sleep with him or anything, and that at least he felt it necessary to explain to me rather than just going off with someone else. It's just frustrating because it felt like we connected and then two seconds later he changed his mind.

End of rant. Sorry!

[moyshi239]

Hey there,
Sorry for the late reply! If you've seen him since this night I hope things haven't been too awkward between you two. It's pretty unfair to you that he lead you on. Mixed signals are never a nice thing to deal with and it can really mess with your head and emotions. Perhaps this is a case of the 'right person at the wrong time', but for now I think the best thing is to give yourself space and avoid him for the time being. You definitely don't deserve someone leading you on if he doesn't want to be with you, you know?

Anyways, I hope things are going well.
Take care. :]

[dancinfool]

Thanks for replying Yeah I've seen him around, first time was pretty awkward but mainly on his part (from what his friends have said I think he felt pretty bad about how he treated me). Kinda ok now though..
The vast majority of me says he's a sh*t and I should stay away. But I still kinda like him, and the friends of the other girl he likes have said she isn't interested. So who knows! Not gonna waste time worrying about it either way