Is this how humans behave? (Advice needed)

[Rose-Lawliet]

Heck yeah I have ALOT of stuff to rant about so any help would be nice

first of all I find it hard to concentrate even though its not only in class and my mind easily wanders and I zone out alot. I do try to concentrate on my surroundings but I see something/hear/come accross something and then my mind makes a hundred connections about random stuff and wanders off and I try to ask myself when my mind wanders 'What's happening' to make myself focus but then I answer that question it just flys out of my brain a second later and I forget. I can concentrate just fine when it's only me or very few people/very quiet but when my friends have a face-to-face discussion and stuff I sorta loose track of everything. So basically I feel like Im living in a misty dream where everything flys past (very poetic i know.)

Secondly when something embarassing happens I start spazzing and EVERYTHING embarassing that ever happened to me comes CRASHING down and I start doing weird stuff and hopping around sometimes. I don't know WHAT THE HECK is wrong.

Thirdly I get too jealous of people espically my friends who are very popular and stuff and start trying to act like them a bit so I can be less suckish at stuff. It goes like that almost naturally and I can't seem to help it and I try to tell myself to just be myself and then I go like I forgot how to be myself. I start doing weird stuff and saying weird stuff because I forget that not everyone thinks the same way as I do and I have too much of a vivid imagination.

Fourthly, I seem to have a problem with catching up with the latest trends, wonder if it's because my parents wouldnt let there be a TV in the house or anything like that. My friends ALWAYS find hilarious videos on youtube and games that are popular and I dont know about any of them And I know practically nothing about funny children's cartoons like spongebob and stuff but people seem to have an awefully great time talking about stuff like that.

Lastly, I DO have a close group of friends but they seem to have paired up into closer pairs and I just stick around and stuff but I feel like I'm not really anyones best friend and It's not like I'm the new kid in middle school I've been there since secondary 1.

If theres any advice that would be nice. Honestly, I think I caught a rare form of spazz-atic thing that takes over my mind
I know this seems like an excresively long rant but I dont know what to do O.o

Meeeh i probably exploded everyone's brains by now and this seems like too long of a rant to go in the mental health section so i put it here but if any staffs wanna move it i cant care less.

[Cabron]

Wow, that's quite the wall of text! But we can break it down I'll basically used the same form you used in your post to chunk it up and make it easier to read.

First--Your inability to concentrate.I'm not a doctor by any means, but what you're describing here could be the early symptoms of something like ADHD or ADD. This is a list of symptoms for ADHD, as well as additional information on it. Have you tried talking to your teacher or your parents about this? They may have more resources than I do and can help you with that particular problem further than myself.

Next, how you react when embarrassed. I have a feeling this goes along with the symptoms you mentioned in your first paragraph. It's normal for other embarrassing incidents to come up in your head when you get embarrassed, which can make the incident seem much bigger than what it actually was and therefore lead to a 'spaz'. Again, this may be correlated with your lack of ability to concentrate and you may also want to bring that up to your parents, teacher or counselor, as I can't help you much more past that.

Jealousy.Jealousy is also completely normal, especially for people your age amongst their peers. You've got the right idea--being yourself is very important. On the other hand, though, it's tempting to dress and act exactly like your friends do because they seem to be very well-liked and you'd like to be popular as well. My best advice here--and this is what I've always used and it's worked well for me in the past--is to continue being yourself, but tone it down a bit. I'm naturally a very extroverted person but I had to teach myself to chill out and not be so hyper all the time. Develop a 'word-filter': before you say it, think about who it'll affect and if it will reflect badly on you. It may not feel so great to choke back what you want to say, but it's probably easier than dealing with the repercussions of what you would have said.

Trends.I'm not going to lie to you, trends are important when you're trying to make or keep friends. Especially when you're a teenager. The only thing you can really do to remedy this problem is to immerse yourself in that culture as much as you can. Pinpoint exactly what you're interested in--whether it be manga, or vampire stories, or whatever--and start reading up on it. The funny thing about trends is that they're all interconnected with each other. The More you read about one thing, the more doors it opens up to learn about new things. Just keep going like that and you should be fine.

Friends.Friends are tough, too. You really have two options in your situation (from what I can see--I could be totally off, though). First, you could try and become closer friends with someone in your group. This is definitely possible, though you know more about it than me. Second, you could branch out and try finding an entirely new group of people to hang out with who might appreciate your company more. The latter is riskier and probably scarier, but it's worth a try too. You don't have to completely drop your old friends, you can just sort of straddle the two groups and hopefully they don't get too jealous of one another.

Hope this helps! I'm half asleep right now, so sorry if parts of this don't make sense, but I'm only a PM away if you need a chat.

[Rose-Lawliet]

thx ^_^ I'll try that

[LostTeen011]

Originally Posted by L.Lawlietfan

Heck yeah I have ALOT of stuff to rant about so any help would be nice

first of all I find it hard to concentrate even though its not only in class and my mind easily wanders and I zone out alot. I do try to concentrate on my surroundings but I see something/hear/come accross something and then my mind makes a hundred connections about random stuff and wanders off and I try to ask myself when my mind wanders 'What's happening' to make myself focus but then I answer that question it just flys out of my brain a second later and I forget. I can concentrate just fine when it's only me or very few people/very quiet but when my friends have a face-to-face discussion and stuff I sorta loose track of everything. So basically I feel like Im living in a misty dream where everything flys past (very poetic i know.)

Secondly when something embarassing happens I start spazzing and EVERYTHING embarassing that ever happened to me comes CRASHING down and I start doing weird stuff and hopping around sometimes. I don't know WHAT THE HECK is wrong.

Thirdly I get too jealous of people espically my friends who are very popular and stuff and start trying to act like them a bit so I can be less suckish at stuff. It goes like that almost naturally and I can't seem to help it and I try to tell myself to just be myself and then I go like I forgot how to be myself. I start doing weird stuff and saying weird stuff because I forget that not everyone thinks the same way as I do and I have too much of a vivid imagination.

Fourthly, I seem to have a problem with catching up with the latest trends, wonder if it's because my parents wouldnt let there be a TV in the house or anything like that. My friends ALWAYS find hilarious videos on youtube and games that are popular and I dont know about any of them And I know practically nothing about funny children's cartoons like spongebob and stuff but people seem to have an awefully great time talking about stuff like that.

Lastly, I DO have a close group of friends but they seem to have paired up into closer pairs and I just stick around and stuff but I feel like I'm not really anyones best friend and It's not like I'm the new kid in middle school I've been there since secondary 1.

If theres any advice that would be nice. Honestly, I think I caught a rare form of spazz-atic thing that takes over my mind
I know this seems like an excresively long rant but I dont know what to do O.o

Meeeh i probably exploded everyone's brains by now and this seems like too long of a rant to go in the mental health section so i put it here but if any staffs wanna move it i cant care less.

Hi, while I don't have any advice to give you, I just wanted to say that this is EXACTLY like me! My gosh I didn't know anyone else was like this too.