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Domestic Abuse - Abuse is Abuse - December 11th 2015, 10:26 AM

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I might've explained earlier it in other threads, but DV, it's a human issue, if not, it's becoming one. Most people see male-on-female DV as a bad thing, but yet turn a blind eye or even laugh at female-on-male violence, telling the guy to "Man up" or "Grow a set" while DV with males as victims are skyrocketing (40% of victims are male) while help for those victims is at least 10 times less compared to women.

But this is not for men only, women have it too, they are still the majority of victims (Albeit over-represented). If you are a victim of domestic violence, regardless of gender, seek help (Men need to research more on it than women), reach out. Do everything to get help and my thoughts and prayers are with you.

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Re: Domestic Abuse - Abuse is Abuse - December 11th 2015, 11:21 AM

I agree with you 100% Jordi. I think one of the main issues is stigma that is happening around this. I do think people are becoming more aware that males are also victims of DV and females. I know females get more help but there is also help for males. Where I live there is counseling agencies and programs just for men for DV, sometimes it's male-to-male or male-to-female, either way; I feel most communities have a resource set in place for males to get the needed support and help.

The video helps people to know that it happens to both genders and not just one.

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Re: Domestic Abuse - Abuse is Abuse - December 11th 2015, 08:39 PM

Ha. I think every thread I have read in these forums on the topic of men facing abuse and anything related... has been yours.

I agree with you, but I've exhausted the topic and don't really have much else to say in this context right now.

I just wanted to draw this comment out from the youtube comments section:

These are videos that desere views. If this was a purely one sided video ( man abusing a woman ). It would have been half way down the viral road by now.

Because it's true.


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Re: Domestic Abuse - Abuse is Abuse - December 11th 2015, 08:54 PM

This is super important. There is so much stigma about male victims of rape and domestic violence.

What I don't like about this particular style of rhetoric is that it only addresses woman on male violence as a "men get abused too." We need to take the "too" out and address it as is and have an entire campaign or program dedicated to male victims or an organization that takes on abuse as a whole. I don't think it reduces stigma to have campaigns that show this kind of side-by-side comparison like, "Not just women!" It doesn't help the male victims by just further isolating them and reducing them to a "too" and it also calls out female-only spaces instead of opening up gender neutral or male-only spaces. You know? I think we need to do something, real advocacy. I've been happy to see some of my feminist peers in social work create safe spaces for male victims of rape and domestic violence. It's so important. <3

Oh, and we need campaigns for male-on-male intimate partner violence. LGBT IPV is ignored as a whole, but that's an equally important men-centric issue.

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Re: Domestic Abuse - Abuse is Abuse - December 12th 2015, 12:00 AM

Unfortunately there is not enough out there for men suffering abuse at the hands of their partners. I think men find it harder to talk about issues than women anyway. When someone is emotionally abusing you as well as physically it's very hard to let people know what is going on. Many men also find it difficult to admit that a female is abusing them. Women are seen as less strong physically compared to a man. Also men may think that they are going to harm their partner by hitting back. There should be just as much support for men. But in the society we live in it's not 'manly' to admit a woman is harming you. It's sad that men are going without the help they so rightly deserve. Domestic violence is so much more common than we realise.

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