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View Poll Results: Is it more insulting for a teenage girl to be considered a "slut" or a "prude"?
Slut. 6 28.57%
Prude. 4 19.05%
They are equally insulting. 6 28.57%
Neither are/should be considered insulting. 5 23.81%
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Question Slut Vs. Prude - January 2nd 2010, 01:55 PM

The Overview:
It occurred to me that both "sluts" and "prudes" are used as derogatory terms in American pop culture. If you have a bunch of sexual partners you're dirty and immoral, if you don't have enough you're a loser.

My Questions To YOU:

What is the worse insult? Slut or prude? Why?
What is the "appropriate" amount of sex a teenage girl should have? Why?

In Defense Of "Sluts"
These days everything is sexy. Shampoo like Big Sexy Hair brand is expected but of course, the promotion of sex in the media doesn’t stop there. One study found that the total number of sexual scenes on television has increased by 96 percent since 1998 while only 14% of shows with sexual content reference risks or responsibility.(*1) As for music, the Grammy awards of 2007 include “Promiscuous” by Nelly Furtado, “My Humps” by black eyed peas and “Hips don’t lie” by Shakira, (*2) 90% of kids ages 8-16 are exposed to porn online.(*3) Film executives of the movie the 40-year old virgin worried that the lead character would be associated with a serial killer- virginity is that abnormal in American culture. (*4)

With all the exposure to sex in the media is it any wonder some girls "just do it"?

In Defense Of "Prudes"
In Sex Ed. students are flooded with pictures of STDs and facts like how 31 percent of sexually active girls become pregnant at least once before they reach age 20. (*5) But the affects sex can have on adolescent girls goes far beyond the risk of pregnancy and STDs. The American academy of pediatrics reports that nonvirginal girls (but not boys) are 6.3 times more likely to report attempting suicide. (*6) women who dress provocatively in high status jobs are seen as being less intelligent than more modest dressers(*7)

With all the risks associated with having multiple sexual partners/having sex young is it any wonder some girls want to hold off on sex?

My Opinion-
Neither term should be used derogatorily. I'm not religious, and I don't see what harm sex before marriage does. I think there's a huge double standard that guys who sleep around are "players" and girls who do the same are "sluts". I do however believe that girls are generally more sexually stimulated by emotional attachment than appearance, and that therefore sleeping with guys who they are not in a relationship can lead to feeling disappointed and used. I am definitely a feminist, but I don't think that "sexual equality" means girls should fuck like guys. I think girls need to observe their individual needs/desires, and the emotional effects sex has on them, and decide what feels right based on that. All that having been said- if what feels right for one individual female is to sleep with someone new every week, and what feels right for another girl is to wait until marriage- power to them!

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*1- http://www.kff.org/entmedia/entmedia110905nr.cfm
*2-http://www2.grammy.com/GRAMMY_Awards/49th_Show/list.aspx
*3-http://www.iamworththewait.org/parents-pornography.asp
*4-http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_40-Year-Old_Virgin
*5-http://www.kff.org/youthhivstds/upload/U-S-Teen-Sexual-Activity-Fact-Sheet.pdf
*6-http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/cgi/content/abstract/87/2/141
*7-http://www.smsu.edu/FacultyStaff/JamesButler/sexy.pdf



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Re: Slut Vs. Prude - January 2nd 2010, 02:02 PM

which is more offensive?. urmm.. i don't know. i've been called a slut [more as a joke, really] and i wasn't that offended.. i thought it was quite funny actually. but somehow being called frigid would probably get to me a bit more. urr.. that sounds awful, but it's true. it's probably because all people seem to go on about is who is sleeping with who and blah blah blah. some of my friends really piss me off because they're so obsessed with gossiping about other peoples sex lives - it's kinda ridiculous.

what is the "appropriate" amount of sex? - i don't think you can really answer that question.. it depends on loads of things.. age, maturity, the situation, who they're having sex with, etc.


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Re: Slut Vs. Prude - January 2nd 2010, 02:14 PM

in my opinion it shouldnt be an insult.
words are words. they mean nothing. unless you give them that meaning. if you didnt give that meaning to a word. than that word wont do anything.
   
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Re: Slut Vs. Prude - January 2nd 2010, 08:39 PM

Both are relatively insulting.

As for how much sex is appropriate for a teenage girl to have? Its completely variable, and there is no fixed amount. But I don't see why anybody needs to know how much sex a teenage girl is having?

I'd say that anybody who knew me in real life would guess the amount of sex I've had at about a third of what it is. It's nobody's business but mine so I don't tend to discuss it unless I have a problem/want advice.
And I've also found that nobody really gives one once they're passed the age of 17 or so, either. I couldn't care less how many people my friends have slept with.. it's called adulthood.

Sex happens. So what?
   
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Re: Slut Vs. Prude - January 2nd 2010, 08:40 PM

I think for girls, it's more insulting to be called a slut. For boys, however, it's more insulting to be called prude and sort of a compliment of sorts to be a slut.

Double standard at it's finest.


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Re: Slut Vs. Prude - January 2nd 2010, 08:42 PM

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I think for girls, it's more insulting to be called a slut. For boys, however, it's more insulting to be called prude and sort of a compliment of sorts to be a slut.

Double standard at it's finest.
Yeah this is irritating

Also how it's perfectly acceptable for a guy to date someone even 5 years younger than him.

But my friends (jokingly) call me a paedo for fancying someone two years younger than me.
   
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Re: Slut Vs. Prude - January 3rd 2010, 01:13 AM

I think both are equally insulting, but they shouldn´t really be insults . Girls should have as much (safe) sex or as little as they feel like.


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Re: Slut Vs. Prude - January 3rd 2010, 02:48 AM

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in my opinion it shouldnt be an insult.
words are words. they mean nothing. unless you give them that meaning. if you didnt give that meaning to a word. than that word wont do anything.
Agreed. It's like stereotyping.
It's just a word.
I would see slut as a bigger insult.
Just because it is more widely used and directed at many people.


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