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Triggering music played in public places - November 13th 2010, 01:16 PM

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As we all know, music is played in public places such as where you shop, often regardless of whatever your tastes may be. I think it is negligent to do this because there have been instances when I have been triggered into slight depression by certain songs. I'm pretty sure other people have been triggered with possibly worse results.

Why does music HAVE to play anyway? Is it really necessary? Also, listening to your own music in your earbuds/headphones might not be allowed if it's at a place you work, so that's not always a solution.
   
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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 13th 2010, 01:32 PM

Personally, I love it when they are playing music in stores

I've always heard positive songs where I live.
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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 13th 2010, 01:35 PM

It doesn't necessarily have to be a sad song. It could just be the vibe of the song.
   
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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 13th 2010, 01:37 PM

I haven't ever heard triggering music in a store. I would be sad if they stopped playing music in stores.
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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 13th 2010, 02:47 PM

If every store took every group into account whenever they did something, there wouldn't be a store. Not every store can accomodate to every one of your needs, sorry. It's not like they choose the music anyway, they normally just tune into a radio station.
   
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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 13th 2010, 02:52 PM

People can be triggered by anything. Music, TV, film, adverts and billboards and even just seeing a knife if the kitchen section of a store. It is pretty impossible to remove everything that triggers people.

Being triggered isn't nice obviously but you have to expect it when out in public. Avoiding triggers is not the way to go people need to learn how to cope and deal with them.

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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 13th 2010, 03:07 PM

That's life- you just have to learn to deal with it. Music adds to the atmosphere in a store and I think it would stupid and ridiculous to not play it because people might be triggered. It would be like removing knives and food from stores...
   
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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 13th 2010, 03:33 PM

If you personally are finding it triggering then just put your iPod or mp3 on. You can't have all shops stop playing music on the off-chance that you find it triggering


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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 13th 2010, 05:13 PM

Oh I think it would be so weird to be in a store with no music playing. I love singing along to the songs when grocery shopping. I personally don't understand this whole "triggering" thing myself. Maybe because that's because I have nothing to "trigger" I don't know. And please don't misunderstand I'm not trying to downplay the OP or anyone else's situation, just saying that I myself don't understand it. And I've never known anyone else to be in that situation either. So what I'm saying is stores and such are going to do what's wanted/best for the majority of their customers, because that's what keeps the money coming in.


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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 13th 2010, 05:46 PM

I agree with everyone else. It's unrealistic to ask a store to stop playing music just because a few people might get triggered if the wrong song comes on. People can get triggered by all sorts of things. It sucks and I feel really bad for you, but it's something you just need to learn to handle.


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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 13th 2010, 07:04 PM

Firstly, I must just say that did you know shops actually have to get permission to play music in their shops! (In NZ anyway), some shops were getting fined for playing music, I guess due to copyright, like you aren't allowed to show DVDs to the public, so you aren't allowed to play music either! Odd ay!

Anyway back to the topic, sorry but I actually agree with everyone else. If shops took into account all music that was considered triggering, that would be a hell of a lot of songs off the list. Not to sound rude but the majority of people in that shop probably aren't triggered and the shops choice of music can't revolve around you. If you don't like the music, either leave the shop or just deal with it for a little bit.
If the songs are explicit, then I don't think they should be played...but triggering? I dont really think thats an excuse.
   
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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 13th 2010, 08:12 PM

It's not realistic to have a store not play a certain song because one customer finds it triggering. Anything can be triggering to anyone, so by playing positive songs, they hope to reduce the amount of those triggered but cant please everyone. Supposing they did examine all the songs that exist and see which ones aren't triggering, there'd be few, if any, remaining. It's one thing to complain about something understandable and another to complain about something that makes no sense but this isn't either, this is just ridiculous. It's also putting yourself above that of others since other customers and employees may enjoy the song but since you don't, should it get taken down? Absolutely not. If you (OP) are this sensitive to a positive song in stores, which often are just from radio stations so the stores aren't selecting the songs anyway, try to face the triggering things as opposed to running away and complaining about people presenting them to you as that only worsens your condition.


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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 13th 2010, 09:54 PM

If a song was particularly triggering then radio stations wouldn't be allowed to play it anyway, therefore I doubt it would be heard in a shop. However, even songs that aren't deliberately triggering can still affect people depending on their experience and feelings. It would be near impossible to remove all potentially triggering references. I agree with Rachel that triggers need to be dealt with rather than avoided.




   
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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 13th 2010, 11:17 PM

I either get annoyed, or I get into a groove.

I worked at Lowes (big home improvement store) and every day around closing time when I'd be dust mopping, the radio station always seemed to play Hollywood Swinging. So , I'd do the grooviest dust mopping ever. Bunch of the staff used to watch and laugh. :3


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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 14th 2010, 09:26 AM

"The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few" - Unknown

That sums up my idea.


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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 15th 2010, 07:54 AM

When I worked at Burger King, the music was auto when it wasn't raining(we had a faulty store). We couldn't chose or change the music, it was something the store subscript to and it played popular music, most of which the general public liked. At my current job, we have a juke box, so the music can be changed if someone is offended, and I've changed it myself, but not for triggering lyrics. (You can hook iPods to the juke box and some of those songs aren't appropriate, even for a college pizza place.) There are songs about abuse on that juke box, because it plays country music, and although sometimes the music can be triggering, you can learn to tune it out quite easily.

Music can't be removed because it bothers one person. Besides, music makes work go by so much faster.


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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 15th 2010, 08:00 AM

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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 15th 2010, 02:45 PM

I pretty much agree... Taken a large enough population, (i.e. the entire human race) You will not be able to find even one statement that that you could say that everyone would not be offended or triggered over.

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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 15th 2010, 06:03 PM

I'm going to agree with everyone else. Music is played in stores to make shopping a more enjoyable experience. You can't go around asking every place that has something triggering to change what they're doing just to make a few people happy. It's pretty easy to tune out the music when you're shopping, especially if you're with a group of people. Just by having a conversation, it can distract you from hearing the music.
I work at Target, and we don't have music playing in the store. When I work, I find myself getting a song stuck in my head or singing as I go along. After the store closes, I'll turn my own music on just to have background noise. A while back, we actually had to stop playing music in the store after hours because someone managed to break in through the front doors (rammed their car into the doors) and no one heard it because the music was so loud.

I think music in the store is SO much more fun. The grocery store I go to plays oldies (50's and 60's) which is the music I grew up on. I often sing and dance in the store and get weird looks, especially by older people who don't expect someone my age to know "their" music. It's pretty hilarious.


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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 15th 2010, 06:14 PM

Eh? Sorry if this sounds rude, but man up. There isn't any way we can remove EVERYTHING that people deem as triggering from the eyes of the public =/
   
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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 16th 2010, 02:47 PM

I hate to say it, but people just need to learn to deal with triggers. They're going to sneak up on you no matter what, so if you learn to ignore it, then that's the best bet.

There are some songs that I get upset about because they remind me of times I had with people who died. That's not the fault of a store if one of those songs comes on. I just turn the negative about the song and turn it into postive.


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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 16th 2010, 03:43 PM

nothing wrong with playing music. i've never heard overly offensive or triggering music in any shop anyway.. people get triggered by anything, can't just get rid of all possible triggers, not possible.


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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 17th 2010, 01:37 AM

Yea I think people should learn to deal with their triggers rather than avoid. I do have to say I think shops shouldn't play certain music, like about suicide and cutting, for example um one song that I would hate to here in a shop is Im Sorry by Jamestown Story...its just a really really horrible song, who wants to here that?
I dont even reckon they should play songs like Courage by Superchick or Just a little bit by Maria Mena, they are about Eating Disorders and really when we walk around town people just dont want to here songs about that, about starving yourself, Come on, people dont need to here that in shops. I mean to me those songs aren't triggering, but they are songs that I dont think people need to hear.
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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 17th 2010, 02:02 AM

nope i dont agree...

if people have a problem with a certain song or type of music learn to tune it out like i do with gospel music.
   
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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 17th 2010, 03:06 AM

Lol well here they dont play those horrible songs on the radio, I guess they aren't very common here, and never are they played in shops
   
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Re: Triggering music played in public places - November 18th 2010, 10:20 AM

If we got rid of everything that was triggering to anyone, there would be nothing left in this world. Its a nice idea to have no one triggered, but it's unrealistic and is never gonna happen. If you don't like the song or it's triggering you, just leave or put headphones in and play your own music. That's easier then making shops change their music to suit you. Sorry but everything is always gonna be about you, or the minority of the people. I say minority because most people enjoy music in stores. I think music in stores is great and adds atmosphere.


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