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View Poll Results: Would you let your Partner "Lo-Jack you up"?
Yes, Reasons explained below. 2 9.09%
Yes, but only after I am married. 2 9.09%
No, it is an invasion of privacy. 13 59.09%
Maybe, it depends on the situation (Where you live, work, etc.) 5 22.73%
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Question Partners and GPS - March 2nd 2009, 05:58 PM

This seems to be a controversial issue...
People often assume that any Man or Woman who requests that their partner be "Lo-Jacked" or have a GPS installed in their phone/car are mistrustful and wrong for wanting to invade their loved one's privacy.

However, I argue that:
Most people seem so quick to condemn anyone who acts in a questionable manner without really considering what could be on the "offenders" mind. GPS, looking at things from my view, I would likely want to have a GPS in my Girlfriend's phone for the simple reason that there are psychos and if she were to be assaulted or attacked, that would be a potential life-saver. Its not like if you have a GPS in your phone that your Boyfriend/Girlfriend or Husband/Wife is going to be glued to a monitor watching your every move every second of every day. In an emergency situation, it is a great way to be able to find and help you. Just knowing that I have a locator to find the most important person to me on this earth would let me sleep easier at night because I know there would be a way to find her if I needed to. And for the record, I trust my Girlfriend with my life, she has always lived up to everything she has said or committed to and never has given me a single reason to not trust her. Wanting a GPS on your significant other is not always a attempt at spying and is not only done by abusive and mistrusting partners.

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Re: Partners and GPS - March 2nd 2009, 06:03 PM

No, it's spying. Plain and simple
   
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Re: Partners and GPS - March 2nd 2009, 06:05 PM

Well, as long as the reason is for potential live-saving, yeah sure. But I think it should be kept to that and that only. I personally don't want someone watching me, even if I was in a committed relationship. My identity and privacy are very precious to me.


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Re: Partners and GPS - March 2nd 2009, 06:07 PM

If you have a phone you can use it to phone someone, instead of being tracked with it.
Personally I don't care how many psychos there are out there, if my partner asked me to get a GPS tracking device on my phone, I'd think the biggest psycho was next to me.
I would never do it. It is such an invasion of privacy, and if I did get into trouble, I wouldn't be by myself, and I'd have enough time to at least dial a number on my phone, which is all you need.


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Re: Partners and GPS - March 2nd 2009, 06:24 PM

To be honest, most of the time when I think of using a GPS I think of an overly suspicious partner. I'm not sure if any of you have heard the story of the woman who caught her husband cheating by putting a tracking collar in his truck and tracking him down to a sleazy motel. [If you do not know, a tracking collar is a device put on a dog when they are hunting so they can easily be found when the hunt is over. It has a box which picks up the signal and beeps very loudly when you get close to the dog.]

I can see some benefits of it, but I honestly doubt that if I was attacked by a physcho that I would still have my cell phone. If he/she has any common sense, they will take it away from me. I also have a tendency to go away for an hour or two, sometimes days and I don't want everyone knowing every move I make. I'm not doing anything wrong, I just need a break from the world. It's like a little mini vacation. Sometimes you just need some time for yourself.

Another positive use of it would be if someone was suicidal they could use the phone to track them down. Whenever I've thought about attemping suicide, I've always had my phone nearby. When self harming, I keep the phone nearby in case something goes wrong. It would be a fat lot of good to me if I was passed out though.

I can see the pros and cons of this, I just don't think it would be something I would want on my phone or something that I would want on my partner's phone.


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Re: Partners and GPS - March 2nd 2009, 06:38 PM

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Re: Partners and GPS - March 2nd 2009, 07:12 PM

No, a GPS is not needed. If there is real danger, the police can track a cellphone and find the person in danger. There is no need for a partner to have a GPS on the other, its an invasion of privacy and a gateway to mistrust.


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Re: Partners and GPS - March 2nd 2009, 07:27 PM

No, if they are attacked by a psyhco the GPS wont suddenly flash up "[Insert Name Here] is being attacked by a psyhco". You wouldn't know until it was too late, you'd just think they were staying in one place for a long time and unless that place is "Psycho Alley" you'd be none the wiser.

Realistically anyone who wants their partner to have a GPS tracker on them is likely to be distrustful and I would seriously reconsider a relationship with any girl who asked me to have one for the sheer lack of trust and for the invasion of my privacy.

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Re: Partners and GPS - March 2nd 2009, 07:50 PM

I would want one on my phone because I would trust my partner to have a life and not check it obsessively. I don't have anything to hide in a relationship, and I try not to date people who stalk me.

It would be nicer, however, to have a GPS blink on my phone that I can easily set off, like a personal alarm.. maybe have that go straight to law enforcement?


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Re: Partners and GPS - March 3rd 2009, 02:47 AM

It's a creepy invasion of privacy. Everyone needs time away, and it's not easy to have that time when you know it's quite possible that your partner is watching exactly where you are.


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Re: Partners and GPS - March 3rd 2009, 03:15 AM

It's just plain weird! The odds of being attacked in such a way that it would be impossible to use your phone BUT that your partner would know you were in danger are astronomically small. Even if it's installed with good intentions it can be used for ill ones. The idea of a GPS tracker that people can use to find me anywhere, anytime just exudes this dystopian future aura for me. **shudders** Not necessary and plain creepy.


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Re: Partners and GPS - March 3rd 2009, 04:14 AM

I would only agree to have one as long as he did too. I don't have anything to hide from him. I usually go wherever I say I'm going.


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Re: Partners and GPS - March 3rd 2009, 09:51 PM

I think that if I have a suspicion my partner is in danger I'd call the police. I'd encourage them to have 911 location enabled on their phone, which would allow the police to find them. I'd never want a GPS tracker on me OR them. There is no other reason, besides safety, that is acceptable enough to do this to the person I love. Since safety isn't an issue, flat out no.



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Re: Partners and GPS - March 3rd 2009, 09:54 PM

No way. I need my privacy in a relationship. Plain and simple.
   
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Re: Partners and GPS - March 3rd 2009, 10:21 PM

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Re: Partners and GPS - March 4th 2009, 07:13 AM

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I didn't know there was a way to turn this off. I know on my phone, you can not turn it off.
Heh, every newer phone has "police tracking". Weather they give you the option to turn it off or not(and even then its on). The only way to truly turn it off is to turn the actual phone off I think, but it may give out weak signals even then.


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Re: Partners and GPS - March 4th 2009, 07:31 AM

Sorry, no-can-do for me. I associate a GPS with someone wanting to spy on someone's whereabouts. It doesn't seem a practical way of averting a potential safety disaster, either.



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Re: Partners and GPS - March 4th 2009, 08:00 PM

well it sounds kinda cute your explanation, but also almost a little obessive/creepy
i'td be nice my boyfriend would want me to be safe
but a little strange that he was that concered for my welfare and that paranoied that somthing would happen to me that he wanted to be able to check a montiner to see if i was in harms way at whatever time of day

i mean christ, call her mobile if you wanna check up on her/him.
and if you can't because you would be calling their mobile too often
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Re: Partners and GPS - March 4th 2009, 08:02 PM

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On my phone it can be set to "Off", "911 emergency only", or "On." Off would be... well, off. 911 only is police only. And I reckon on is like.. anyone who knows how to track you could, well, track you.



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Re: Partners and GPS - March 4th 2009, 08:56 PM

I dunno... I suppose me and the girl I am with are both anxious because we get depressed and suicidal.

If she had one in hers and one in mine, I suppose it could make us feel better to know that we were safe.. I wouldn't mind being spied on by her? I mean I always tell her where I am going and I trust her not to use it to tell my parents if I was having some alone time... But then again how would a dot on a map tell her the difference between I'm just hanging out late with some mates or I have gone to kill myself unless I go to a really precariously looking bridge from a birds eye view... but I wouldn't mind I suppose?

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Re: Partners and GPS - March 5th 2009, 12:07 AM

I'm torn between the two, I may not mind too much if my partner had one too.. then it'd be mutual.



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