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Would you do it? - September 20th 2011, 06:05 PM

Today I was walking back to my apartment. On my way back, it started to rain. I got to the major crosswalk right as it changed to don't walk, and this isn't a crosswalk you would just go anyways (multiple people have gotten hit). At this point, it starts raining pretty hard and I'm wearing a white shirt. A random guy came over, stood next to me, and put his umbrella over my head. He then walked me most of the way to my building.

So my question is this: is this something you would do? Guys, would you do this for a girl? Girls, would you do it for a guy? Explain why you would or wouldn't. This can go for anything, holding doors, or just doing nice things like this in general.



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Re: Would you do it? - September 20th 2011, 06:41 PM

I wouldn't have done something like that. If women talk about having a desire to "dance in the rain," then perhaps you need to learn how to handle getting wet before dancing in it. I'll open doors for women, but won't go any further than that unless she's my girlfriend (and I'd do anything for her, not because she's a woman necessarily, but because she means a lot to me).
   
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Re: Would you do it? - September 20th 2011, 07:05 PM

I would do it. If I had an umbrella, I'd hold it over someone who didn't. (Although I can't see that happening here in Arizona) I have given half my meal to homeless people, assisted disabled shoppers (wheelchairs, etc.) and held doors open for people. I like helping people.
   
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Re: Would you do it? - September 20th 2011, 07:12 PM

I don't mind holding doors for people, but I don't carry an umbrella and if I did I don't think I would hold it over someone and then follow them home. And if someone did that for me I'd be creeped out unless I knew the person.


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Re: Would you do it? - September 20th 2011, 08:02 PM

I would, no matter who it was. I wouldn't necessarily follow them home, but I would hold the umbrella over their head for a while until they could find sort of shelter. But, I hold open doors, pull out someone's chair, help the elderly reach high places if they can't, and other sort of helpful things.











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Re: Would you do it? - September 20th 2011, 09:53 PM

Sounds like a good excuse to meet chicks. I'm in.


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Re: Would you do it? - September 20th 2011, 10:29 PM

I don't see why not. I like to help people, and if they need it and it's not a huge inconvenience to me I don't see why not. Might brighten up their day
   
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Re: Would you do it? - September 20th 2011, 10:35 PM

I'll hold doors open for women and grab an item off the top shelf for women I don't know but that's as far as it goes. I wouldn't walk a woman in a wet white t-shirt to her building in the rain holding an umbrella because my motives would be along the lines of meeting new women, going on a date with them and possibly eventually having sex, or some other purpose. Following them home evokes a situation that to me, isn't just being kind without expecting something in return.


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Re: Would you do it? - September 20th 2011, 11:36 PM

I'd do it! One time when I was in 4th grade, there were these small kindergartners who rode my bus and we were all waiting outside for our bus and then it started raining and then hailing pretty bad so I kinda bunched them all close together with me so they didn't get hurt


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Re: Would you do it? - September 20th 2011, 11:51 PM

Let me clear something up, he didn't walk with me the entire way...he happened to be heading toward a building NEAR my apartment.



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Re: Would you do it? - September 21st 2011, 12:37 AM

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I don't see why not. I like to help people, and if they need it and it's not a huge inconvenience to me I don't see why not. Might brighten up their day
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Re: Would you do it? - September 21st 2011, 02:09 AM

Yes, I would do it, regardless of gender.


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Re: Would you do it? - September 21st 2011, 11:59 AM

I'm all up for helping if I can, if I have time and the means to do so


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Re: Would you do it? - September 21st 2011, 01:48 PM

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I wouldn't. I'm a girl so people may get freaked.




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Re: Would you do it? - September 21st 2011, 01:51 PM

If I had an umbrella on me, sure. It seems like the courteous thing to do and it's probably a good way to meet people.
   
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Re: Would you do it? - September 21st 2011, 01:53 PM

I think I'd feel uncomfortable if I did that or if someone did it for me. Probably cause I'm anxious 90% of the time and I'm scared of strangers. However, I do hold doors open for people whenever I get the chance to.
   
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Re: Would you do it? - September 21st 2011, 03:06 PM

If it were on my way, regardless of gender I would help the person in need. If the person obviously lived a couple blocks away, I couldn't be bothered.

I do open doors for people, give people their wallets back once they drop them, give my seat to someone older on the bus, and pick things up when old people (Who seem incapable of bending over to grab the item) drop them.

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Re: Would you do it? - September 21st 2011, 03:35 PM

I feel like while on paper (or text ._. ) this sounds like a great idea, I find it hard to believe that 50% of the people where I live anyway wouldn't be freaked out by this kind of gesture. Hell, I'd bet 30% of girls would immediately turn around, slap the guy, and possible file for harassment. It's the sad, sad world we live in.

As for whether or not I'd do this, perhaps. But I don't know if I'd go all the way back to their apartment



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Re: Would you do it? - September 22nd 2011, 01:21 AM

I'm surprised by how many people would be freaked out by this, honestly. I guess that's just because people on my college campus do stuff like this ALL THE TIME, so it's not creepy/surprising to me at all.



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Re: Would you do it? - September 22nd 2011, 01:24 AM

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Re: Would you do it? - September 22nd 2011, 04:31 AM

College campus is a lot different than walking around town or the city. Hugely.



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Re: Would you do it? - September 22nd 2011, 12:46 PM

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Re: Would you do it? - September 24th 2011, 12:20 AM

I'm incredibly tiny so holding umbrellas over people is somewhat difficult for me ... I would if it were easier though. But if I see someone I know lives near me at uni and it's raining I offer to walk back and share my umbrella.
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Re: Would you do it? - September 25th 2011, 07:34 PM

I would definitely do that. Most people don't like to be rained on, especially when wearing white.


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Re: Would you do it? - September 26th 2011, 09:00 PM

I'd be freaked out if someone i didn't know did that. I'd share an umbrella with friends, but not a stranger.


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