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Ideas for Wedding? - May 10th 2013, 06:15 PM

So, I'm already married but for the official (legal!) wedding I'm not sure what to do. I'm a pantheist. My husband is Agnostic. He doesn't really care about what label of religion he fits into. He just wants to live life. We have agreed to raise our family as pantheists We're just really happy together!

But we have this problem. His family is hard-core bible-thumping Catholic. My family is Christian but I don't think that us being Pagan will affect them more than just like "oh... well your not Christian. That's unusual." types of things.

Should we feign a Christian wedding so they will come?
Should we just have a neutral ceremony where no religion is addressed?
Should we have a Pagan ceremony?

And if you can think of some, what are some Pantheistic ways to have a wedding? I'm into the hand-binding thing. I think we will do that. It's going to be outside in a park in summer lots of flowers and trees!

I feel like a wedding is the binding of two souls into one. Like our souls are intertwined and when we die and become something else, our souls are taken apart and put into different beings, but we somehow are still connected more intimately than we are with other souls. Just my thoughts about marriage...

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Re: Ideas for Wedding? - May 11th 2013, 09:51 AM

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I feel it's down to you and your husband; you shouldn't have to change your day to add things you don't believe in, or take away things you want.
Go ahead and pick what you want.

Your families should be open-minded and supportive of you (hopefully they won't need that reminder).

I'm afraid I don't know much about Pagan ceremonies, but I will simply say: make it your own.

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Re: Ideas for Wedding? - May 11th 2013, 03:25 PM

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So, I'm already married but for the official (legal!) wedding I'm not sure what to do. I'm a pantheist. My husband is Agnostic. He doesn't really care about what label of religion he fits into. He just wants to live life. We have agreed to raise our family as pantheists We're just really happy together!

But we have this problem. His family is hard-core bible-thumping Catholic. My family is Christian but I don't think that us being Pagan will affect them more than just like "oh... well your not Christian. That's unusual." types of things.

Should we feign a Christian wedding so they will come?
Should we just have a neutral ceremony where no religion is addressed?
Should we have a Pagan ceremony?

And if you can think of some, what are some Pantheistic ways to have a wedding? I'm into the hand-binding thing. I think we will do that. It's going to be outside in a park in summer lots of flowers and trees!

I feel like a wedding is the binding of two souls into one. Like our souls are intertwined and when we die and become something else, our souls are taken apart and put into different beings, but we somehow are still connected more intimately than we are with other souls. Just my thoughts about marriage...

Interested in hearing ideas!
I don't understand what you mean in saying that you're married, but haven't had a legal ceremony yet since marriage is a legal declaration. Regardless, I think you should figure out what is important to you. If you definitely want your parents there, I would consider a neutral wedding. Weddings should be about the people getting married, not about religion.


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Re: Ideas for Wedding? - May 17th 2013, 01:55 AM

Thank you both for the thoughts!
You guys are right, this is OUR day and not theirs.
We should do what we feel is best


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Re: Ideas for Wedding? - May 17th 2013, 02:00 AM

No just no
You should do whatever you want
This is your wedding day
this is suppose to be your special princess day
be carried in inside a giant egg if you want
whatever makes you feel special that day.

If they don't like it

Tell them to get out.


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