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If You’re Hurting From A Breakup… - August 16th 2019, 04:16 AM

Not too long ago, I met a girl online who
I thought at the time was worth getting to know.
She sounded like she could relate to me,
she sounded like we had a similar way of thinking,
and at the time, I felt like I was “falling in love.”

We texted each other almost every day,
and we even had a few meaningful video chat
conversations and spent hours talking to each other.

I thought she was the one.

After a month that I got to know her,
I decided to tell her how I felt about her,
and she told me that she felt the same way.

So we entered a long-distance relationship,
and I was high on the ecstasy of love like
a drug addict addicted to the drugs.

I thought this was the happiest time of my life…

Until one morning after not even a week into
our relationship, I received 5 long paragraph
text messages how she told me she toyed with
my feelings the entire time, telling me that everything
was my fault, that I “pressured” her into a relationship,
and she broke up with me in the most shallow way possible…

I broke down…I was screaming in my room
like I had lost the very thing I loved most, and
it disintegrated through my hands like dust.

I texted her, I attempted to talk to her about this,
but when she replied with her text messages,
I saw her true colors for what she really was…

The whole day the break up happened, I cried…

I couldn’t focus on the things I was passionate about…

I couldn’t even eat anything…

I felt shattered, trembling, and feeling all alone…

How could I move on from this?

How can life go on after this awful feeling?

I remembered this moment in time like it was
yesterday, and I remember all the pain, all the tears
I felt that day, and if you’re going through a breakup
right now…I want you to know it’s okay.

It’s okay to cry about it, to be sad about it.

Don’t suppress the feelings. Let them out.

However, even through all the tears, and all the
pain that you’re feeling right now, remember this
for the rest of your life:

Just because it didn’t work out with someone
doesn’t mean that there isn’t any value in the experience.

Just because someone said “I love you” and
didn’t mean it doesn’t mean that there isn’t someone
out there who will say it, mean it with all their heart,
and prove it to you that he/she truly loves you.

Love didn’t hurt you. Someone who didn’t know
how to love hurt you. Don’t confuse the two.

Just because you believed them and it wasn’t
true doesn’t mean you shouldn’t believe in love
or that love doesn’t exist. Don’t write it off.

When you break up with someone, there will
be someone out there who will be there and
come for you, who will love you and who will
appreciate you more than the last person did.

If it takes time for your heart to heal, don’t
be mad at yourself over it.

Give your heart time to accept what it already knows.

Don’t blatantly rush into the next relationship
because it will only make things worse and
you will be bringing the problems from your
last relationship into the next one.

Be wise enough to wait for what you deserve.

This might not make sense to you right now,
but you do deserve someone who will love
you and appreciate you more than the last person did.

Let the other person go.

You will be okay.




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Re: If You’re Hurting From A Breakup… - August 16th 2019, 07:47 AM

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Re: If You’re Hurting From A Breakup… - August 16th 2019, 12:21 PM

This was lovely! Thank you so much for sharing this with us.


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Re: If You’re Hurting From A Breakup… - August 16th 2019, 12:26 PM

What a lovely message! I particularly liked this nugget of wisdom:

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Re: If You’re Hurting From A Breakup… - August 16th 2019, 05:00 PM

Glad you loved the wisdom I shared here! That's awesome Holly.




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Re: If You’re Hurting From A Breakup… - August 16th 2019, 05:01 PM

@Disclosure and @Golfing girl

Thank so much for the feedback. I greatly appreciate it!




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Re: If You’re Hurting From A Breakup… - August 16th 2019, 10:52 PM

I like the message here!


   
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Re: If You’re Hurting From A Breakup… - August 17th 2019, 05:18 AM

Glad you do Dez! Happy to hear you liked what I shared.




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Re: If You’re Hurting From A Breakup… - August 17th 2019, 06:01 AM

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Re: If You’re Hurting From A Breakup… - March 19th 2020, 07:06 AM

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