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Finding It Hard To Leave? - September 17th 2019, 12:23 AM

Youíve been together with your partner
for a while or maybe not long at all.

Youíve had some wonderful moments together,
but lately, youíve been noticing things have changed.

Youíre not spending as much time as you used to.

When you do get together, you find yourself
arguing with your partner, even over the little things.

You seek to work things out with your partner,
but you just canít seem to come to common ground.

Both of you donít enjoy each otherís company as much.

When you want to talk through the problem(s)
youíre having in your relationship, your partner
doesnít want to do the same.

You give each other space and approach again
after some time to see if things will be different.

Your partner doesnít want to talk to you
and avoids you altogether. Or you happen
to find out theyíre with someone else now.

No words. No explanation. Just dead silence.

Relationships take a lot of effort. They say that
it takes two people to make the relationship work,
and it couldnít be truer than that.

Relationships are a commitment when we
enter one. We badly want the benefits, but weíre
not willing to work through the conflicts when they arise.

Be honest with yourself:

Does your partner love you as much as you love them?

Is he/she willing to work through the tough times with you?

Or is your partner only staying for the benefits?

If itís the latter, itís time to let go and move on.

Yes, I understand itís a hard choice, and
youíre gonna feel like you donít want to let go.

You feel like ďhow can you possibly move on
without your partner if you break up?Ē

But Iím telling you:

Do yourself a favor and break off the relationship.

Respect yourself and love yourself enough to do it.

It will hurt to do so, no question about it.

However, an unhealthy relationship thatís always one-sided
wonít last, and you will always feel like itís a
burden because youíre always the one attempting
to fix the broken pieces, and youíre hurting yourself
every time the glass shatters and you attempt to
piece back together the broken shards.

If you feel your relationship is getting
to the point where thereís lack of communication
and nothing worth fighting for because your partner
isnít even putting in the effort to fight for youÖ

Itís time to let go and move on.

Have the strength and the courage to walk away.

Remember that you did your best.

Give yourself time to heal and donít be
quick to start another relationship.




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Re: Finding It Hard To Leave? - September 17th 2019, 10:19 PM

Definitely important things to think about!


   
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Re: Finding It Hard To Leave? - September 18th 2019, 02:03 AM

I enjoyed it all. The ending I kept reading over and over. Thank you so much for this.


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Re: Finding It Hard To Leave? - September 18th 2019, 03:55 AM

Of course, and no problem. I'm curious Emma: why did you keep reading the ending over and over again?




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Re: Finding It Hard To Leave? - September 18th 2019, 10:47 AM

You want to always be in a really good relationship with someone no matter what. And sometimes people have a hard time getting out of a unhealthy relationship, so that's what I was thinking about when I was reading this. This really makes you think about when you are dating someone, and it's really good too.


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Re: Finding It Hard To Leave? - September 18th 2019, 11:38 PM

Absolutely, and I can see why it's hard for some to leave an unhealthy relationship, but you gotta have the courage to walk away from it, even if it will hurt a lot at first. You will be doing yourself a favor long term that way.




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Re: Finding It Hard To Leave? - September 26th 2019, 11:48 AM

Gave me something to think about too! Thanks for sharing!


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Re: Finding It Hard To Leave? - September 26th 2019, 02:36 PM

Glad this gave you something to think about!




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