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Do I Have The Right To Be Hurt? - December 28th 2017, 11:29 PM

Okay story short

I am a female. In highschool. And there is this guy. We never actually dated.But our emotional commitment was strong. A connection I was never able to have with any else because of my trust issues.

So recently he got a girlfriend and I dont know. I just feel crushed. I feel like my heart just got crushed. My emotions are everywhere and I just wanna cry.

Because its winter break I wont see him til like 12 more days. Which is good. I have 12 more days to get over it. But when we go back to school. Cause he did know I liked him. And as ¨close¨ as we are all he is going to want to do is talk about his new girlfriend.

So im pretty sure that will crush me more.

I dont know why. But I just dont feel like I have the right to be hurt over this. But it just does.

I dont know. I kinda wanted to vent. Thank for reading and or replying. And just thanks for listening. Have a good day!
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Re: Do I Have The Right To Be Hurt? - December 29th 2017, 03:59 AM

Hey there,

Yes, your feelings are valid. It can be difficult when someone we like, especially if we are close to that person in an emotional sense, gets into a relationship. It is okay for you to be hurt, angry or sad. You can't really control the feelings that certain things bring up, you know? We aren't in control of our feelings as much as we are in control, to an extent, how we respond to those feelings. That being said, it might take you a while longer than 12 days to stop being upset about this. I had a situation similar to this, once, someone I was interested in and trying to get to know ended up getting into a relationship. I understand why this happened and I have been able to move forward but it did take a while because they were the first person I attempted to let in. You need to figure out what is best for you in regards to dealing with this situation. I know, for some people, being around someone they liked who entered into a relationship can be difficult and due to that they will limit their interactions. That being said, there are just as many people who are able to work through those feelings and continue interacting and being friend's with the person.

Please don't be too hard on yourself regarding your feelings on this particular situation. It is a difficult thing to go through and you have every right to feel whatever you are.

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Re: Do I Have The Right To Be Hurt? - December 29th 2017, 02:59 PM

When it comes to emotions, there is no such thing as the "right" to feel a certain way. Emotions are not things you can just "stop feeling" or "get over". You can feel torn up about this guy as much as you need to. I had a similar problem with a guy a year ago, and it took me a while to stop feeling down about it. It's not going to go away overnight. That being said, everyone has different ways of recovering from events like this, so do what you need to do to feel better. And if that means refusing to talk about his girlfriend with him, so be it. Please know that anything you feel is valid and that you don't need to be so hard on yourself. Hope things work out.
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