Lonely

Katelyn · **Lonely -** January 17th 2010, 02:59 AM

This is going to sound so ridiculous and stupid, but I can't stop it from bothering me, as much as I've tried.

I have these two friends. One has been a best friend of mine for a year and a bit, the other is a new friend but someone that I've really connected with. So I decided to introduce the two of them because they have a lot of things in common. It worked great, they hit it off amazingly. Only downside, now the two of them hang out with each other more than they hang out with me. At first I thought I was just being really stupid and petty, but now I'm realizing that it REALLY bugs me.

I know it shouldn't bother me and that I'm just being really stupid, but this isn't the first friend my best friend has taken from me (the other one I had been friends with for 5 years before he met her).

I think I am just feeling lonely and neglected. I'm sorry for this huge rant.

lacrotix · 09:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Katelyn

I have these two friends... So I decided to introduce the two of them... now the two of them hang out with each other more than they hang out with me

Try talking to them. You sound like a nice person; maybe they don't really mean to hurt you like this. You could also guarantee a time that you are with them. For example, a routine dance club every Wednesday.

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Originally Posted by Katelyn

I think I am just feeling lonely and neglected.

That sounds true too. But I also notice a strong hint of jealouy in your words. Try to not let that destroy you; it wouldn't be a good idea.

Some people in your situation would try to destroy the two friends' relationship with another. But at the same time, there is a difference between the right thing and the easy thing.

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Originally Posted by Katelyn

I know it shouldn't bother me and that I'm just being really stupid... I'm sorry for this huge rant.

I don't think it's stupid that you are getting irritatied. I honestly believe your friends should take up some moral slack and realize what their actions do to others. So don't feel stupid, you have no reason to. As for ranting, there's nothing wrong with that. It's a easy and usually not hurtful way of releasing emotions and venting. And at the same time, people may be able to help. I don't think ranting is a bad idea.

I wish you the best of luck.

cherryqueen1248 · **Re: Lonely -** January 17th 2010, 10:31 PM

wow this happens to me ALL the time and it is so nice to know I am not the only person who feels this way!! tell them how you feel, if they are REALLY your friends they will understand and include you more!! It is NOT stupid and it makes sense that it would bug you!! please please PM me if you need to talk

Strider · **Re: Lonely -** January 19th 2010, 09:45 PM

Hi Katelyn,

It sounds like you're in troubling situation. It isn't fair to see your friends leave you out all the time, and it's completely understandable that you're feeling lonely. They are your friends and it's fair that you'd like to be included.

I think the best thing you can do is talk to them. Try saying that you've been feeling really left out lately and would like to spend some more time with them. Try suggesting things you could all do as a group, like watching movies, playing games, or cooking something. Brainstorm some fun things that three people could do and enjoy.

It could be that your friends don't realize that they are leaving you out like this. Step forward and extend the invitation to hang out with them instead of waiting for them to do it.

Take care and all the best.
Nat.