ever since i lost my virginity ive just rushed right into sex with the guys ive dated...then they either dump me cuz they got what they wanted, or things just dont work out and im on my own again. I just met this really cool guy who seems perfect for me. We are meeting tomorrow and I just want to know how far would be acceptable to go with him? I mean we have talked about sex...and we both said we want it eventually. I just dont want to go to fast and mess this up. But i also dont want to not be able to do anything. I really like him and he says he thinks we could possibly work out long term. I just dont know what to do. I want this to work, and i know there is no guarentee but id love some advice or something. Thanks
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Because of your past history with guys, I'd suggest taking this slow with him. A kiss/making out is okay, but don't let it get further than that. You both said you want to take things further at some point, but get to know each other first! Don't just jump right into doing the deed with him since you know sex has ruined relationships in the past. If you want this to work, you'll need to push past those urges, get to know him and see where things go from there.
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Yeah go slow, ensure good relations with him, make it known his feelings. Don't let yourself just be a one time, love and be done, make yourself a prize to catch and girlfriend to cherish! Give it some time, let feelings blossom, and have him hold you for a good long time! I hope all works out, and you two can have a long, meaningful relationship
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In this case I would advise proceeding with caution. It really isn't anyone's business how quickly you move with someone, but you've expressed regret for your past choices. This time I recommend slowing it down a bit to think about whether this is a right fit for you two.
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