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Errection Problem - May 28th 2014, 10:02 PM

I slept with a new girl for the first time the other night, I really like her and everything and am very attracted to her.

We did all the normal foreplay stuff (won't go into detail), but when it came to actually doing it I couldn't get hard, I was just about hard enough to put the condom on, but then it went soft.

Why did it happen? What should I do?

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Re: Errection Problem - May 28th 2014, 10:24 PM

This can be fairly normal, probably just down to nerves. Keep at it, I'm sure it'll be different next time.

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Re: Errection Problem - May 29th 2014, 12:36 AM

my boyfriend sometimes has the same thing happen. we've been together a few months now. Its fine most of the time, just interruptions like putting the condom on or moving around can be distracting enough that it happens from time to time. Don't worry! espcially if you're worried then you're more likely to put pressure on yourself next time which will only make you more nervous. Just write it off, it does not mean in any sense that you are not attracted to her.
If you end up not being able to go, then just make sure she has a good time. no pressure - shes gonna thank you for it either way!
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Re: Errection Problem - May 29th 2014, 08:50 AM

Because your inexperienced and nervous. Next time there is gonna be another issue. So just used to it. You decided to experiment with sex so that's the price to pay. Don't worry about it.

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Re: Errection Problem - May 29th 2014, 01:53 PM

It's just as the other users have said; when my fiancé and I were having sex for the first time he had the same problem. It could be because you've been "out of the game" for awhile and aren't used to sex with her yet, it could be nerves, it could be a number of things. But it can actually be a fairly common thing and it's nothing to worry too much about.

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Re: Errection Problem - May 29th 2014, 08:48 PM

As already mentioned, it's distractions and nerves. It's often called "performance anxiety". Why bother with the hassle? Stick with what works. Make foreplay the endplay and both of you get off on hand or oral methods.
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