TeenHelp
Get Advice Quick Ask Support Forums Today's Posts Chat Room

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Chat and Live Help Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Safety Zone
   Hotlines
   Alternatives
   Calendar


You are not registered or have not logged in
Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!) As a guest you can submit help requests, create and reply to Forum posts, join our Chat Room and read our range of articles & resources. By registering you will be able to get fully involved in our community and enjoy features such as connect with members worldwide, add friends & send messages, express yourself through a Blog, find others with similar interests in Social Groups, post pictures and links, set up a profile and more! Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!



Sex and Puberty For questions related to sex, puberty, birth control and sexual health, ask here!

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread Rate Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
TH Anonymous Offline
Member
Junior TeenHelper
****
 
TH Anonymous's Avatar
 

Posts: 327
Points: 34,050, Level: 26
Points: 34,050, Level: 26 Points: 34,050, Level: 26 Points: 34,050, Level: 26
Join Date: January 5th 2009

I can't feel anything during sex - July 25th 2021, 05:45 PM

[SIZE="a"]Hi, I'm a 15 year old girl and I have been with my bf for 6 months now, I have the implant and he always uses a condom, we've always been safe so far. My problem is that I have never really felt what I would consider a good feeling during sex, I've seen the movies and I've watched porn with him a few times and the women seem to have an amazing time and they look like they're feeling really good!

I want that feeling, and it's really starting to get to me down how I'm just laid there not feeling anything apart from him going in and out of me.

What is wrong with me???[/size]
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
Rivière Offline
Par la rivière
I've been here a while
********
 
Rivière's Avatar
 
Name: Sarah
Age: 32
Gender: Female
Location: Wales, UK.

Posts: 1,902
Points: 46,505, Level: 31
Points: 46,505, Level: 31 Points: 46,505, Level: 31 Points: 46,505, Level: 31
Join Date: June 7th 2013

Re: I can't feel anything during sex - July 25th 2021, 06:31 PM

The problem with watching films and porn, is that they're not a real representation of sex. In films, it's always very simulated and acted out to be the best that it can be. A lot of the lead up to having sex is skipped, and a lot of the situations actors are having sex in are often placed in ideal locations. Similarly with porn, while it's not simulated, a lot of it is designed for the male audience in mind. Not females. You'll notice in many of the videos it's always the male orgasming, rarely the female. It's all about male pleasure. Again, this is a poor representation of how sex is meant to be because as with films, they're designed with entertainment purposes in mind. A lot of the reality is cut out.

In reality, sex can be awkward as well. It doesn't always work out. It can be clunky, fumbly, and it can be in locations that are far from ideal.

Rather than using what you see online or on television to try and 'get you going', consider actually discussing the issue with your boyfriend and experiment with what works for you. Every single female is different. Not to mention that foreplay plays a large part in having sex. You have to be mentally stimulated to enjoy it as well.

Another thing to mention is to keep in mind that pornographic material, regardless of country, is quite commonly restricted to audiences of those 18+. A lot of young people like yourself have a misunderstood connection with sex because of pornographic material. It creates this idea that's what sex is meant to be and how it should be performed, when again, it's not. It's adult content designed for adults. For now I would consider avoiding watching that sort of thing, and just discuss the issue with your boyfriend and see if there are other ways he can pleasure you besides penetration.
2 user(s) liked this post or found it helpful.
Closed Thread

Bookmarks

Tags
feel, sex

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search
Rate This Thread
Rate This Thread:

Posting Rules
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off


 
User Infomation
Your Avatar

Latest Articles & News
- by Rob
- by Rob

Advertisement



All material copyright ©1998-2024, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints | Mobile

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2024, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.