My boyfriend was on hoilday for two weeks, when he got back we was both gagging for sex and choice to do it.
We has alot of full play and I was wet. Though the sex was still very painful. We used lube when I did start to dry out and it never got dry. We dont use condoms (I have the implant) so I dont have a reaction to the condoms. We have been using the same brand and same type lube each time and never has this problem before.
Could this problem of happed because I havent had sex in such a long time, or was this something else. Maybe you know and could help me out with this. Im tender (about 12 hours later) to the touch, and it kinda stings if I touch the inside of my vigina. It wasnt rough sex either, we took it slow and very gently.
I know for me, even going a week without sex, the next time it is a bit uncomfortable. I know a lot of girls that actually go through this. It's normal, so don't worry about it. Extra usage of lube can help, but if we don't have sex for some time, and we're used to having it all the time, then we can actually shrink in size. Same effect if you eat all the time, and barely eat, and how our stomachs shrink. I know the pain is annoying, but just make sure you're well lubricated, and it'll get better over time. [:
Oh, this actually happened to me yesterday, I hadn't had sex in about a week and a half and wow, it hurt; i was trying to resist verbalising my pain, but i just couldn't. Im sorry i don't know how to help though...
Not to be gross or anything, but your vagina is very much like an elastic. Think about childbirth- it has to stretch out a lot, but then in contracts back to a normal size. I assume your body decided to tighten back up because you weren't having sex. Use more lube than normal and maybe take it slow. Have your boyfriend finger you for a while beforehand to get you stretched out a little bit so it's not as painful =]
Just to offer a little bit of extra information, certain health issues like ovarian cysts, endometriosis, pelvic inflammatory disease, etc. can cause sex to be painful or uncomfortable. If the problem continues or you develop additional symptoms you should consider talking to your doctor about the problem. Good luck with everything.
I had the same problem you are explaining, after a full std panel, everything was negative and I was talking to my dr. The way he explained it to me. When a woman is aroused, her vagina swells a little bit, there is alot of blood flow to that area. If she doesn't orgasm, the swelling stays, which may be what is causing the discomfort (think of a guy with blue balls, Chicks get it too!) so you can either wait a few hours/a day or so to let it all go away, or just finish yourself off
I was still married then, so I went home and told my husband (now ex) my dr told me the reason it hurts after sex and I swell is because you aren't licking it enough! lol then I explained what he really said, and all I got was "Your dr is a douche" lol
"omg i might be pregnant!?!?!"
"ok..calm down..pee on your keyboard...nope its negative"