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cant orgasm... - December 16th 2009, 02:14 AM

ive had sex 3 times.... and me and my bf have done other things too but i cannot orgasm unless i masturbate myself...and thats when i press my legs together really hard.... is there any reason for this? or can i do something about it?


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Re: cant orgasm... - December 16th 2009, 03:12 AM

I'm not a girl but all of my friends are girls (woe is me), a lot of girls can't orgasm from penetration alone. It's much easier to have a clitoral orgasm than one from sex.
At least that's how I understand it from speaking with my friends. I'm not a girl so maybe I'm wrong? But from what I understand your situation is quite common and quite normal.


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Re: cant orgasm... - December 16th 2009, 04:44 AM

it always depends on different matters, wether you're not comfortable enough, wether you need more than just penetrating stimulation, there's lots of things that you can try with your boyfriend. Different types of lubes, certain positions, sex toys. Just keep experimenting and hopefully sooner or later you'll find out what works for you and your big O.





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Re: cant orgasm... - December 16th 2009, 04:25 PM

Ive been wondering the same thing. When me and my man have sex I play with my clit. If not he'll get his and I wont


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Re: cant orgasm... - December 16th 2009, 05:42 PM

Dude, don't stress ~ it's actually a LOT less common thatn you think for women to come from penetration. It's never happened to me!! Try touching yourself while he's inside you, that might help?? Bu for a lot of women that's the only way to orgasm through just sex. You can keep experimenting though, don't give up :P Just don't worry if it doesn't happen, you're not a freak or anything!!


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Re: cant orgasm... - December 16th 2009, 07:25 PM

Sweet pea, you're definitely not alone. It's something a lot of women struggle with. Make sure to do a lot of foreplay beforehand. That way you'll be way more into it. Touching yourself while you're having sex is a great idea as well. Just remind yourself that many many many women out there cannot reach an orgasm during sex, and that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Good luck! I hope things start to improve. (:




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Re: cant orgasm... - December 16th 2009, 09:10 PM

Dont expect mind blowing sex so early on.
Most women cant come from penetration alone, ur clitoris needs to be stimulated.
Invest in some toys? ;o) lol
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Re: cant orgasm... - December 17th 2009, 12:52 AM

Less than half of women can orgasm from sex alone. One of the most rewarding things a girl ever did was let me hold her while she gave herself an orgasm and showed my how it was done. A girl's orgasm is more complicated than a guy's and if a guy can learn how to give his girl an orgasm, he done good!

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Re: cant orgasm... - December 19th 2009, 10:18 AM

It's normal, don't worry. I've orgasmed from sexual penetration once and that was when I lost my virginity. Unfortunately it gave my boyfriend and I unrealistic expectations that he still hasn't shaken off.
I can't orgasm from oral or digital stimulation either so he can't really get me off. The only way I have otherwise is from dry sex and once we've been doing it and he's gone, we can't really do that
I've sort of resigned myself to the fact that I probably won't orgasm every again in my life. But the sex is still amazing so why should I care?


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