Is it just me?

[Dregin]

Is it just me or is the tough part of breaking up with someone you love deeply is imagining them being touched or turned on by someone else or doing the things they used to do to you to someone else? I hate that feeling more than actually being dumped because it's just like....wow...someone else could be touching her now and she could be doing what she used to do to me but with someone else. I'm not currently going through anything like this but I was wondering if anyone shared the same viewpoint.

[Lynnnnn]

Originally Posted by Dregin

Is it just me or is the tough part of breaking up with someone you love deeply is imagining them being touched or turned on by someone else or doing the things they used to do to you to someone else?

i totally agree with you!
espc. if you have been with them for such a long time, it gets even weirder.

[bitesize]

God of course. I put off breaking up with my last boyfriend for a long time even though I knew our relationship was better off over, because I loved him and the idea of him being with someone else tore me apart. It does get better with time though ~ especially after you've been with a couple of new people yourself (:

[WillO'Wisp]

I don't really think about that sort of stuff but I never really broke up with anyone I really liked before, my relationships in the past were flukes, nothing special, so I can't say I'm bothered by it. But if it were someone I really liked and I had those sorts of thoughts I'd be a little flustered but to prevent myself from getting worked up, I refrain from letting those thoughts cross my mind.

[Nicolette]

I'd try not to think about it, you'll only drive yourself nuts dwelling on it. Its a horrible feeling but it comes with breaking up.

[PlayingPretend]

Originally Posted by Nicolette

I'd try not to think about it, you'll only drive yourself nuts dwelling on it. Its a horrible feeling but it comes with breaking up.

Agreed.

I had a difficult time letting go of the thoughts of an old flame being with other women, but I realised that what I was doing was not only driving myself mental but hindering myself from getting over someone that really wasn't good for me.

If you focus on it, you're likely to go mad, but you're also likely to put a stop to future relationships being as good as they could be.

[Nixie]

I haven't had a long, serious relationship quite yet, so my feelings on the matter is pretty apathetic. I don't think it's entirely weird. But I can imagine myself holding on to my signficant loved one despite the relationship's potential downfall as long as it prevents another from getting their hands on him... But then again, jealousy develops in the mind and it can be tamed. So maybe it is best to just train yourself to accept it as a way of life and not let it get to you. It could eventually get the best of you.

[chanelxo]

I felt like that everyday after me and my ex's broke up,i'm just a jealous person and it killed me until i said they prob aren't caring who i'm with so why should i care?