frustrated >.<

[Beetlejuice]

okay so im not quite sure what want to gain from this thread but i wondered weather anyone had a similar problem or any advice or anything?

basically my bf lives far away so i only see him weekends and if we are alone we get very hot and heavy. but when hes gone for a long while i get really frustrated sexually. i think i have quite a high sex drive for a girl. but i try to masturbate and just doesnt feel good. at all. its like touching any other part of my body and just does nothing for me except sometimes making me MORE frustrated. but im functional as whenever my bf does anything it feels amazing, and i do the same thing and it feels like crap. ive tried the whole 'explore your body and see what feels good' but honestly nothing does. it doesnt feel bad or uncomfortable, just indifferent and boring and i always end up feeling like an idiot afterwould any ideas?

[TheLittleNinja]

Hmmmmm.

I see your problem, although, maybe your trying too hard to find 'what feels good'? It's true, after someone else has touched you, and made you feel a certain way, it's near impossible to re-create that feeling - but there are ways of making your self feel good. Saying that though, some people claim that mastubation does nothing for them what-so-ever - I guess, it's about finding 'yourself'. Have you tried getting 'mentally' turned on before trying anything? By playing things through in your mind? Or if you like it, watching porn?

Would your boyfriend be up for texting or chating dirty on the phone? Or even emailing? Do you think this would help you or just frustrate you more?

Make sure you check out all the tips that Google has for masturbation - we can't give tips on here - but we can tell you that Google is a Godsend.

I know you said that you've tried 'exploring your body' but, obviously, what you've tried isn't working, and different things work for different people - so I'd definitly advise you doing some research on Google =]

[rhapsody]

If you are thinking about sex a lot then that is only going to make you more frustrated because the more a person thinks about sex, the more they want it.

I think you are putting to much pressure on yourself to experience high pleasure and that's making it hard for you to relax and enjoy what you can feel.
Firstly, don't expect what you feel when your boyfriend touches you to be the same as when you touch yourself as the two are very different situations. Secondly, use a safe lubricant or, if thats difficult for you to get because of your age then run a warm bath which will stop there being too much friction and will also help you relax. Make use of your whole body and be content with whatever pleasure you get. Don't focus on the end result. Always start gently and use a firmer touch gradually or your body will become desensitised and it won't feel as good.

Hope this helps.

[Beetlejuice]

Have you tried getting 'mentally' turned on before trying anything? By playing things through in your mind? Or if you like it, watching porn?

Would your boyfriend be up for texting or chating dirty on the phone? Or even emailing? Do you think this would help you or just frustrate you more?

i onyl ever try when im really in the mood :S its really weird because i'll be really into it and then i'll try and masturbate and the feeling just disapears :S

we've talked dirty on msn and via text and while at the time its great, when we stop im almost twice as frustrated

[flowerchild32273]

im in a long distance relationship too and we do things like have cyber sex and phone sex and use webcams. it helps for us but we've been together 2 1/2 years and we're comfortable with each other and im comfortable showing my body to him so it might not be the best idea for everyone if your relationship isnt quite as intimate