Male Advice Preferred: how much of a problem is this??

[eaglesdudenfl]

im 16 and im completely straight...nd like most guys, i masturbate sometimes.
lately though, ive found out that i like to masturbate to littler kids, usually boys. i have no clue why, but it works really well. i know to some people this could sound really sick, but i dont know why it works so well. im not doing anything illegal, i think. i don have child porn or anything. but for some strange reason i find more pleasure in jerking off to younger boys, around the age of 9, rather than girls my age. and yeah, im straight. ive had my girlfriends, and many were recent.

[JackOffJill]

How is what you are doing not illegal? Are you just picturing the young boys in your head? Or are there pictures or videos? Cause pictures and videos would be illegal to have cause its child porn.
I dont know what to say other than that this could cause more problems in the long run so you may want to try to break the habit.

[eaglesdudenfl]

Originally Posted by JackOffJill

How is what you are doing not illegal? Are you just picturing the young boys in your head? Or are there pictures or videos? Cause pictures and videos would be illegal to have cause its child porn.
I dont know what to say other than that this could cause more problems in the long run so you may want to try to break the habit.

no, i dont have any kind of material like that. id never do that.

[DarkSeph]

Regardless it sounds like a habit that could cause a lot of problems down the road. The only thing I can honestly advise is doing your best to break the habit. It really isn't something you want to encourage yourself to find pleasure in.

[PlayingPretend]

I agree with Liam in the sense even if you're merely envisioning these young boys in your head, it's best to not use those thoughts in order to get off, simply to prevent yourself from creating those pleasurable associations.

I can't give you an explanation. I can't explain my own bizarre mindset. All I can really say is that it all boils down to self-control and the level at which you need to exercise it. If young boys are so attractive that you're looking at them when you're out at, say, the mall or the park, then it's something you need to work on correcting as far as finding a distraction or coming up with something else to focus on. If it's simply that you're masturbating to thoughts, images and fantasies of young boys, then I would recommend watching porn, reading erotica or conjuring up images in your head that work to get you off but that don't involve children. Sometimes it's a matter of finding other, more appropriate fetishes or turn-ons before you realise that other things work just as well.

Obviously, other than that, all I'd really have to say is don't access child porn on your computer, don't store it on your computer and don't use any other device to store or access it either, because that would be illegal, not to mention highly immoral and unethical. This is something you can learn to correct, and believe it or not, you really aren't alone on this, but it is something you need to be willing to work to correct before you fix it. Though some people, I imagine, are able to entertain these thoughts and keep from acting on them, for others, thinking these things is only the start to more illegal behaviour. If you're worried you might cross the line, then perhaps it's best you put forth the effort to nipping these thoughts in the bud.

[Singing to the starlight]

As everyone else has said, I think the important part is that you kick the habit now, as this is a problem, and could develop.

[Rise]

Uhh.. if you visualize them it's not illegal, but once you view video and others that becomes illegal.

I would try my best to not masturbate to young boys, although it's small now. this could build into a greater problem later. Masturbating is perfectly normal, and try your best to "do it" to something else. There must be at least one model out there that turns you on

[ralphedison]

Just Like what the others said before me, there's nothing wrong with masturbating, almost everybody will do it or has done it in the past. Anyway I think it's really your right if you like to masturbate on young boys and besides your not planning to hurt someone or patronizing porn sites am I right?

[eaglesdudenfl]

thanks everyone. its definately a habit that i can break, so ill begin stoping.

and yes rylan, there are PLEANTY of models out there hahah

[Jaguar]

Hmmm. It's good that you recognize what may turn into a problem and you don't want it to be that way. That's a healthy sign.

Are you willing to carry on a dialog about it? You can pm me or email me or even carry on an IM sometime.

[Purple♥Sky]

Yeah, its not strange to get off on strange things like that, even if you are totally strait.
I get off on thinking about things that I know are immoral, or wrong. Like thinnking about bad stuff sometimes getts me off, so I totally understand.
And in your case it may not be like a petifile thing, it could just be like a random turn on....I have bunches of those. lol

[Kess]

If you were 9 years old thinking of 9 year old kids or 15 years thinking of 15 year old kids then i would say it is not a problem but you are 16 thinking of 9 year olds. Your an adult now and they are kids, get a grip on yourself before your dreams become more then just that. Do you really want some poor child running away from you screaming because of your behaviour because that is were you are heading. Sort yourself out get help if you need to because if you have brothers and sisters do you really think they would let you see your nephews and nieces knowing what you think about.

[x-gothic-princess-x]

Originally Posted by Kess

If you were 9 years old thinking of 9 year old kids or 15 years thinking of 15 year old kids then i would say it is not a problem but you are 16 thinking of 9 year olds. Your an adult now and they are kids, get a grip on yourself before your dreams become more then just that. Do you really want some poor child running away from you screaming because of your behaviour because that is were you are heading. Sort yourself out get help if you need to because if you have brothers and sisters do you really think they would let you see your nephews and nieces knowing what you think about.

True point but i think it was said very harshly... be a little easier on the kid. He has taken alot of guts to say something this deep on TH to people he has never meet before. And all he wants is some advice weather it was a bad thing or not and how to change it... Which he has got. I understand what you say is true, but I think you could of said it in a different way.