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This is really embarassing to talk about - July 28th 2010, 02:28 AM

So uh... whenever I... you know... masturbate (i'm really, really awkward about sexual stuff. this is really hard for me to write.) when I'm all done, at the end, I just feel... really. worthless. Like there's not point in this world. I feel really depressed and just kind of... sad, dead, whatever you want to call it. Like I'm a screw-up, I guess. I'm I the only one this happens to? Is it normal, or weird? Is something wrong with me?


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Re: This is really embarassing to talk about - July 28th 2010, 02:33 AM

I don't think that it is unusual. Maybe you should try not masturbating for a while and see how that goes. Things and feelings can change in time as you mature.
   
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Re: This is really embarassing to talk about - July 28th 2010, 02:34 AM

ur not the only person for it to happen to. Its normal some people feel that way some dont. Hell i do sometimes and other times i dont. There is nothing wrong with you


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Re: This is really embarassing to talk about - July 28th 2010, 03:07 AM

I've heard of this before. Try and get to the bottom of where these feelings are coming from. Like do you feel guilty, or is it just the come down from the big O?



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Re: This is really embarassing to talk about - July 28th 2010, 03:10 AM

I understand. I feel like I was possessed before it.
   
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Re: This is really embarassing to talk about - July 28th 2010, 06:41 AM

Why do you feel that way? Have yo had a dramatic experience when you were young that dealt with masturbation? (For example, and this is a dramatic example, you masturbated to a picture of your mom naked, or something like that). You wanna pinpoint why you feel the way you feel if you want to solve the problem with you feeling depressed when masturbating. It's normal to feel bad after doing something, especially if something dramatic happened that deals with masturbation.



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Re: This is really embarassing to talk about - July 28th 2010, 10:46 AM

Post-maturbatory Guilt (yes it even has a name!) is pretty normal. Usually taking a break, cutting down on how much you masturbate etc. helps. It lessens as you grow older anyway.
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Re: This is really embarassing to talk about - July 28th 2010, 12:04 PM

perhapse you feel bad because you see the act of masterbating as like a lack of selfcontrol? I feel that way sometimes afterward. If you were taught or always thaught that masterbating was a bad thing, or something that should be hidden, it possible that you gave it a negative connotation in your mind. Therefor you don't feel good about doing it. If that's the case, perhapse you could do some research about it and really realize how normal and healthy it is to do.


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Re: This is really embarassing to talk about - July 30th 2010, 12:37 PM

I used to get that way sometimes. It was just this horrible "What's the point of all that? It's over now, I have nothing to show for it; I could have been doing something productive. What's the point of my life if all I do is sit around and touch myself?" Etc. As others have suggested, it helps to take a break from it or try to do it less, and it does go away as you get older.



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Re: This is really embarassing to talk about - August 2nd 2010, 01:04 AM

i've felt that way sometimes, theres even a term for it http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/La_petite_mort As long as it doesnt last long and isnt affecting you too badly i wouldn't worry about it
   
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Re: This is really embarassing to talk about - August 2nd 2010, 12:46 PM

Sometimes after masturbating, I find that I don't want to have sex again and that its not worth it. I also believe that sexual experiences can effect masturbation. If i had a one night stand, after the sex I would do my best to get rid of the girl (rude I know). But unless I had a connection with the girl I was sleeping with relationship etc, I felt like it was a worthwhile experience and wanted to go again or just spend more 'special' time with her.

I'm not sure if this relates to you, maybe you have just broken a past sexual relationship? My advice would be cut down your masturbation, only masturbate in a good environment and when you feel horny. If you still find you're feeling the way you do now afterwards, you may need to take some further advice.

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Re: This is really embarassing to talk about - August 2nd 2010, 05:31 PM

i don't think that it's unusual to feel that way, the question would be, why do people feel that way after? and i don't think any of us can answer that because we're not really human body or hormone experts. but no, it doesn't sounds unusual.
maybe you should stop masturbating for a while, and see if that feeling comes back to you without masturbating. if it doesn't, then it's up to you to deal with that feeling and masturbate, or not to.

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Re: This is really embarassing to talk about - August 3rd 2010, 04:06 AM

It's the release of sexual tension. Our minds suddenly feel like they don't need sex anymore. The brain also releases serotonin which is pratically a depressant but is more related to sleep than depression.
   
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Re: This is really embarassing to talk about - August 3rd 2010, 04:32 AM

You're trans, right? FTM? Well, if you haven't had any surgery, then it could also be because of gender issues, I think. If you still have female genitals, perhaps you're making yourself uncomfortable by masturbating because, mentally, you are male and it's reminding you subconsciously that you still have a female body. That's just one of many possibilities. As everyone's already said, it's not too unusual, and it's not really something to be concerned about unless it doesn't go away or starts happening at other times. Good luck in the future. I hope it becomes a more pleasurable experience for you later on.
   
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