Is this ok?

[ChapperIce]

Lately I've been feeling very horny, but I no longer live with my boyfriend due to work. I turned to a sex chat. I never give out any real info about me, faking my name, where I live, etc. but I roleplay a little with other people, just enough to get off.

Is this ok when I have a boyfriend? I still love him and sex is amazing with him. I just need a little extra help when it's 3 am and i'm home alone. is this bad?

[ShimmeringFaerie]

Originally Posted by ChapperIce

Lately I've been feeling very horny, but I no longer live with my boyfriend due to work. I turned to a sex chat. I never give out any real info about me, faking my name, where I live, etc. but I roleplay a little with other people, just enough to get off.

Is this ok when I have a boyfriend? I still love him and sex is amazing with him. I just need a little extra help when it's 3 am and i'm home alone. is this bad?

Since you are asking if it's okay, I assume that your boyfriend doesn't know? Is there a reason that you haven't told him? Because I think this is definitely something that you need to tell him. It's really up to him as to whether it is acceptable for you to do this.

Personally, if my boyfriend was going on sex chats, I would be very upset and would consider it cheating. It doesn't matter that you are anonymous on the site. You are still engaging in sexual activities with someone who isn't your partner, even if the activities are text rather than physical. You could easily turn to pornography or erotic literature instead, which I think would be more acceptable. That's just my view though.

Ultimately, it's your boyfriend who can tell you whether he is comfortable with you going into sex chats and his opinion matters far more than mine does in this case.

[Jaguar]

I don't see anything wrong with it if you can't be with him.

[RedJames]

I gotta think its up to your bf on this one, he might be ok with it he might not be. If it was just porn you were watching to get off then i would say nothing wrong with that, but since its a live chat thats abit different in alot of ppls eyes. I think you should ask him what his thoughts are on it and go from there.

[Crazy Filmmaker]

think if it this way, would you get mad at your boyfriend if you found out or he told you he was doing this? if you can honestly answer that question you will have answered your own question

[Dana]

It depends. Part of me says, "it's okay, it's not a big deal what my significant other does when they're alone, I don't need to know everything".... but if you read that sentence again, there's kind of a grey area, you know? So I guess it depends on whether your boyfriend is okay with it or not. I'm assuming you haven't asked him about it, and I'm thinking that means he might not react well to it...

[L'espoir]

Hi,

I think what you need to do is firstly consider whether you mind him doing the same thing, would it bother you? If so then I think you have your answer right there. I am going to agree with what others have said and say that it's up to your boyfriend really whether he thinks it's okay or not. Different people have different ideas about what is cheating and what isn't.The way I see it though you think it is wrong because you have posted this thread and from what I can gather you have kept it from him. Personally I see it is as wrong and cheating in a way, I wouldn't want any boyfriend of mine to do that. You need to talk to your boyfriend and ask him about it really.

I hope you manage to work things out,
x

[Superstar]

It sounds like you have some kind of gut feeling that to you, this behavior might not be acceptable to you or your boyfriend. When people feel that hesitancy, and therefore need to look elsewhere to validate their behavior, then it's a sign they probably shouldn't be doing it. In other words, when in doubt, refrain from it. Another way to look at it is put yourself in your significant other's shoes. If you found out your boyfriend were sexing it up with other girls in chat rooms, would you be happy and okay with it? Something is telling me you probably wouldn't be.

Talk to your boyfriend about this, before you go on a chat again. Hiding it is only going to lead to problems. See if their is anything you can do to make your living situation something both parties can be okay with and get their needs met with, because I think that is the real issue.

[Maloo]

To me, no, it's not okay. I would be very upset if I found out that my boyfriend was doing something like that. Watch porn or something that's fake at least. Him involving himself with other people like that, regardless if he's lying about age, etc. would really upset me and I would feel betrayed.

So I suppose it's up to your boyfriend, who needs to know that you're doing this.