bad kissing?

[ohsnap!]

I’ve only kissed two boys before. The first boy was just one kiss for maybe five seconds and I didn’t let him kiss me again. It seemed sloppy to me because my mouth was mostly closed and his was open. I assumed the reason I didn’t like it that much was because he was drunk, and I had had a bit to drink myself. But today I was with a guy and we made out for a while (among other things which I’ll probably end up making another thread about. haha) and I just didn’t enjoy it at all. His kissing was just an extended version of what happened with the first guy, only completely sober and with tongue. With both of them it felt like they were just slobbering all over my face. Any time we stopped kissing I wanted so badly to wipe off the spit that he’d left all around my mouth. Am I just some weird anti-kissing freak or are they bad kissers? I had always thought that when you kiss someone you should maybe start with something a bit less… open mouthed? I didn’t even know how to respond. I tried to mimic what the guy from today was doing, but just ended with bumping teeth. At the moment, I would even be satisfied if it turns out I’m a bad kisser. At least I’ll know what the issue is here and can try to fix it.

[ChaosControl]

Hey,
I went through the same thing with my first bf. He was sweet but kissing was slobbery! Then I found a guy who was a really good kisser and I can't say what made him any better; it might have just been the attraction. Since you've only kissed two guys I wouldn't worry about whether it's you or them - it may be that the chemistry wasn't right between you or maybe they were just bad kissers! But either way I'm sure you'll have plenty more opportunities to find the right one. People are different and like different things, even when it comes to kissing!

[Twisted]

I think everyones had a bad kissing experience at some point so don't worry. Normally it's just through inexperience and people trying to emulate what they see in films and on tv which sounds like what both guys you kissed were trying to do lol. Either way it will get better with experience. This may sound a little strange since it's only kissing but communication is important (just like in sex and other 'activities') just drop little hints because also important that both parties enjoy the experience shared between you both and if you don't tell the other person that you don't like something then chances are they will continue to do it. Also maybe try taking the lead next time you kiss someone. Get them to go at a pace which suits you and that you feel comfortable with and eventually the rest will come naturally once you get used to the way that person kisses and the way you like to kiss them. Hope i helped

[RedJames]

You both need to just keep practising, im sure its abit of bad kissing on both your parts. But keep trying and don't be put off by it, just strive for better. And don't worry about telling him something doesnt feel right about it and that you think you both need improvement, as mean as it sounds at first, it just means more kissing in the end which is always a good thing.

[Power Cosmic]

Aye, as others have said, it's probably a little bit of bad kissing on both of your parts.

I mean, my first kiss was...well, slobbery, but my second one was a lot better. Sometimes people are just more in 'tune' with each other. I'm not talking about some kind of pseudo-spiritual resonance here or anything like that, I just mean soemtimes people disregard how the other person's lips are moving. You pace yourselves through each other and stuff, otherwise it just goes out of sync and slobbery. Erk, I and realise that it sounds a lot more complicated than it is. But my point is: don't worry, it'll come to you, don't be discouraged, you, just go along with the flow of it and hope the person you're kissing does the same, and tell them to if they don't ^^;

[udontno]

I won't say I'm a great kisser or anything, but I will say that I'm honestly not much into kissing. I think I skipped the stage that most kids go through where they do a lot of making out and stuff. I never really just made out with anyone. I was an awful kisser when I started, but I learned better. I mean, kissing is a turn on but I'd rather be doing something else sexually. Maybe I'm just weird and I'm just not that into kissing?

[niente_]

Hey. Don't worry about all this. i remember my first attempt at kissing like that, it wasn't nice ... it was just awkward. And me and my boyfriend didn't even try to French kiss until a full year after we started going out. No lie.

Then with my second boyfriend it was weird with it being someone knew, and it took me a while to get used to it.

And it just takes practice I guess. And even then sometimes I still don't like it.

[The Kira]

I totally feel you on this one... I kissed this one guy once and i thought he would swallow my whole face. I got really frightened and didnt kiss him again. My advice would be to tell them that you dont like being kissed in such a way, or just dont stress about it, you have only kissed 2 people, so dont worry about anything

[Nova]

Been there!

I hated kissing before my current boyfriend. I'd only kissed two guys perviously (and only one session each... and never again because it was TERRIBLE). I had this horrible fear of kissing (and relationships, but that's another story) because both just went in for the kill straight on. I figured it was just "what people did." Then, my first kiss with my boyfriend was quite a learning experience. Due to my inexperience and past kisses, I was the one who made it awkward but he was able to pull me back a little and start small and then we built up from there. And I agree with you, that's how it should be.

It can be confusing if you've had bad experiences, especially as an inexperienced kisser. You don't know what the expectations or the "right strategy" is. It is different for everyone, but if you're able to start small, just with little nibbles and then work your way up at a comfortable pace, you'll get the hang of it. Heck, this can even be within ONE session. But it's always best not to force your tongue down someones throat from the get-go. In the future, if you need to, pull the guy back a little bit and take it at your own pace.

Good luck! You'll enjoy kissing soon enough.

[DeadlySin]

Hahah I read this and it totally made me smile!
I've had the same issues. But it depends on the guy that I kissed.
I gave this younger guy his first kiss but he was all over the place and eww...
Few other guys..again eww...
Then this one guy it was okay and not too bad.
All in all I worried if I was a bad kisser as well, since I haven't fully enjoyed any kiss i've ever received. =/
Maybe we both have to work on it, eh? =P