Non-PG13: First time nerves.

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Hi, my name is Jodie and I'll be fifteen in a few weeks. I live in the great land of Oz.

Sooo, my boyfriend Ayrton and I have been together since October 23rd of last year and well, obviously that means our 1 year anniversary is coming up really soon. He's almost a year older than I am, but we're in the same year at school. We both love each other very much, and I trust him completely. We have done everything so far besides actually having sex (we're both virgins), and he says he wants to, and I do too, though he has never pressured me for it. The thing is, when he fingers me, even though I'm fully aroused, comfortable and wet enough, he can never fit more than one finger in without it hurting alot. I know it has nothing to do with my hymen because both himself and I have checked and mine is definitely nonexistent. It's not like he's rough or doesn't have his hands clean/nails short either. He's very gentle. So this alone is making me worry, but more than that, his penis is 7 inches when erect. I'm really worried about how much it's going to hurt, even though he promises to go slow and everything. I want my first time to be special, not painful. Can someone give me any advice? I don't know what to do. ):

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Can anyone give me advice?

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Anyone???? (Kinda desperate)

[taylalatbh.]

Your first time having sex is going to hurt. Even if you're completely relaxed and lubricated, chances are you'll have some sort of pain and/or discomfort. Your first time is more than likely going to be over quickly, be painful and in some respects disappointing. So, in a non-offensive way, don't have high expectations because that's just the way first times go.

As for the actual sex, size of his penis etc. Because you've never had sex, and he has a relatively large penis, it is going to hurt. You'll need to engage in a lot of foreplay, make sure you are 100% aroused and relaxed, and it's important that you're lubricated. Be it naturally or otherwise. And then when you start, you'll need to make sure he's very slow, and stops when you say stop because it more than likely will hurt.

If you want it to be special, as silly as it sounds, don't make it all about the sex part. Just make sure it's nice and romantic, loving and caring and have cuddles afterwards! That's what makes it a special time, not the awkward painful sex. Just make sure you talk it over with your boyfriend first. But as long as you're ready, that's fine and enjoy yourself

If you want to talk about this some more, message me. Take care

[Kyeto-X]

Hey there Joide.

IT is great that you really love and are comfortabel with your boyfriend. And it is also great that he is not pressuring you to have sex and is waiting for when you are ready. Remember you do not have to have sex to prove that you love him.

As for it hurting some when he fingers you, I am not entirely sure about that. I know that you do not have to worry about the size of his penis, because the vagina (the actual interal cavity where he goes...the outside part we see and know is actuall called the vulva) Can expand and accomodate mostly anything smaller then a baby. I weird fact that i did not knew until i was sexaully active is that it actual expands and then contracts to the size of any objects inserted. So don't worry about "If a finger can hardly fit, surely his penis will hurt more." It doesn't work like that. It will fit as long as you are aroused and comfortable.

I would say just relax when you do it. Make sure you are in a comfortable place and you are not nervous about anything (i.e. someone walking in, getting pregnant, your parents finding out ect.). I would also suggest LOTS of foreplay before, get yourself warmed up and excited, not scared for it.

I know it's not much...i hope this helps. :P

[ChelseaKicker]

yeah since its ur first time it will most likely hurt. i would say just relaxe and be as aroused as possible. maybe try masterbating with urself to see if u can find how bad it hurts that way. or try to get comfortable with it. is what i would recomend

[mindfreak]

i'm not a virgin and neither is my girlfriend, we have trouble but with a good warm up with foreplay we are able to make it happen, it does hurt but it is getting better over time.

[darkangeljbm]

If he is a big guy he will hurt as well( maybe even if he is not) i know my guy did and i know a few other guys as well. He has to go though a kinda hard pice of tissue. It will hurt you a few times after the first to becaues it needs to stretch a little and it will be kinda raw.

[bitesize]

Sometimes people need a few hours to reply to posts, but someone will usually get there, don't worry
The others ahve given good advice. I'm petite so I was very very tight when I started out having sex and all that jazz and had the same kind of worries. You could try and stretch yourself out a little bit in your own time?? That's what I did and it helped ~ also lube, it's magic, and foreplay, and going slowly all really help.