very embarrassing problem

[sergio926]

When I was a very young child I discovered masturbation. I was about 5 years old I'd say. I came about it differently though. I would lie on my stomach, take my flaccid penis and place the tip on my hand right where my middle finger meets my hand, and I would then hump. If all the positioning with my penis was right it would feel great and I would finish.

Problem is...I still do this. I don't remember how I figured this technique out or when I first did it but I always have done it. It's always been my way of masturbating all of my life. I am 21 years old, and I am a virgin.

Which leads me to the real problem, I cannot ejaculate with an erection. I've tried many times, I've used lotions, lubes, and I've tried really hard but I've given up. I haven't tried in a while but I did try a lot and nothing would happen. I wouldn't even get close to climaxing. It feels good to try and whatnot, but not nearly as good as my way of doing it. My fear is that I'll finally be with a girl and nothing will happen. I'm sure sex is a hundred times better than masturbating and involves a lot of different emotional factors that can put a very positive spin on the experience and change things, on top of the obviously physical factors. And who knows, maybe it will finally work for me if I'm with a girl, but I'm terrified to try and be embarrassed.

So yeah, basically I'm lost. I don't know how to deal with this and it's pretty damn embarrassing already.

[Quartet]

I'm not a dude or anything, but my advice would be to try different ways, your body is just used to the position and needs to be taught another way.

Since you've been doing it for so long, it will probably take a very long time, but at least it will get you ready for when you do decide to have intercourse with a female.

I'm certain you are probably right, being with someone is very different than masturbation. Just experiment and go online to find different techniques, this will at least let you gain some experience just trying new things.

[darkangeljbm]

if you are really worried talk with a doctor. Alot of people start masturbating at a long age before they even know what it is. I don't remember what age but i did as well. I was a virgin untill i was 18 and still to this day i am with the same person. There is a good chance that you just dissented ( sorry i can't spell the world ) . Meaning it well take a lot more to get you ( well off). sex with a person is very different then with your self so there is a good chance you will be able to get off. If you don't then just say it must be your nerves ( and there is a chance that it will be your neves.

[James Bluntus]

Maybe it is just the way that you are currently doing it. However, I can't really offer any real advice since I have never had this problem.

I would suggest speaking with your GP if you are worried about it.

[taylalatbh.]

Your body is just used to a certain way and needs to be taught a new way. Refrain from masturbating the way you used to for a while, just to let everything 'build up' so that maybe, when you try it 'normally' it should work for you. It will take a long time, and a lot of patience but in time you'll teach yourself a new technique. You just need to keep trying it the 'regular' way and not go back to your other way otherwise you'll confuse things.

Yes, sex is completely different to masturbation. So when that time comes, maybe you'll be able to climax. Don't worry about that for now though.

Take care.

[Kyeto-X]

I agree with what Tayla on this. Just take a break from masturbation for two weeks or so to let things build up and let your body naturally reset. Then, just keep trying to do it the "normal" way.

Yes sex is completly different. Don't worry about it. When it happens it happens. Aslo you can just feel werid and "wrong" about it, and thatr could interfere with an orgasm.

[ChaosControl]

Some people just can't orgasm or ejaculate during masturbation; it may be different when you have sex for the first time. I guess thinking too hard about ejaculating could have the adverse effect - I wouldn't know 'cos it's a guy thing, but it's similar with orgasm: you need to let it happen rather than try too hard.

[niente_]

Don't worry about when you lose your virginity if you don't finish ... that means you can go for longer Nothing wrong with that.