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Wow, I am the stupidest person ever. lol - November 19th 2010, 04:04 AM

OK so me and my boyfriend Kyle have known each other for a looooooong time (since I was 4 and he was 6) and we've been dating for a while. Kyle is my best friend and called me beautiful even when I got really sick from Aurora's kicks when I was pregnant with her.

Welllll....yesterday we were holding hands in his car and he kissed my nose and told me I was the most beautiful girl he's ever seen, and the most lovable girl he has ever met.

Now know that he has never, ever brought up sex. But at that moment I knew that it was time. We kind of mutually agreed that we were ready.

Even though it's only been a month since I gave birth (I didn't really think that one through) I didn't hurt "down there" yesterday. The pain went away a week and a half ago. I had no tearing, or anything. I kinda just "popped" her out, so I thought it was safe.

So yeah...we had sex. And it was amazing and beautiful! AND now it's really, really painful "down there". So am I about the stupidest person ever or what?!

Any advice? Should I put ice down there or what?

(Oh, by the way, I am forever deeming what happened yesterday as my "first time", because I actually agreed to this one. So yeah. I'm totally putting Ryan in the back of my mind and focusing on my three loves...Aurora, Kyle, and chocolate.)

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Re: Wow, I am the stupidest person ever. lol - November 19th 2010, 08:06 AM

Well you ARE supposed to wait to have sex until your 6 week checkup, because your still healing. Haha
But i am not completely sure what you can do about the pain. I wouldn't put ice, i think it may just go away on its own. Give it time.

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Re: Wow, I am the stupidest person ever. lol - November 19th 2010, 08:10 AM

Hey congrats on everything looking up for you.

I don't think there's much you can do other than to just let it heal. I think it's normal to still have some tearing/be sensitive/still be healing down there. You might want to hold off having sex for another couple of weeks, though.

Also, remember to use some kind of birth control, you can still get pregnant very soon after giving birth.



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Re: Wow, I am the stupidest person ever. lol - November 19th 2010, 08:13 AM

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Hey congrats on everything looking up for you.

I don't think there's much you can do other than to just let it heal. I think it's normal to still have some tearing/be sensitive/still be healing down there. You might want to hold off having sex for another couple of weeks, though.

Also, remember to use some kind of birth control, you can still get pregnant very soon after giving birth.
Your actually MORE fertile this soon, then usual so i agree. Safe sex!




   
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Re: Wow, I am the stupidest person ever. lol - November 19th 2010, 03:25 PM

You're probably just still tender even if wasn't a constant soreness anymore. Even though you didn't tear, the vagina still goes through a lot of trauma having a baby go through it and all I waited the six weeks and still was sore during and after sex. It will take some time for it to feel normal again.

Unless the soreness your talking about is an abdominal pain. Having sex while your uterus is still healing puts you at a much greater risk for infection. So, just be careful with that


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Re: Wow, I am the stupidest person ever. lol - November 19th 2010, 07:49 PM

Haha don't worry guys, we used protection

Yeah, it was probably stupid not to wait, but the moment was perfect and I swooned! bahaha

I heard of the 6 weeks thing, but I thought since I didn't have any more pain it was safe. THAT was a blonde moment. Seriously
   
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Re: Wow, I am the stupidest person ever. lol - November 19th 2010, 08:33 PM

I understand it might hurt a little bit. It might go away within a few days (just like the first time you have sex, for some people). If it doesn't, speak to your doctor. Or wait until your next check up.

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